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Thank you for your sweet words, all of you, Ivet and I are stronger than ever right now. I feel like I love her more than I did, and with this obstacle, our relationship reached a new level, and we're gonna try to see each other again in December. She's gonna spend Christ and New Years with me and my family :wacky: hopefully Reilly and I discussed this in Pm's, the homophobic thing. I don't think that's it. I haven't told you guys everything in details cause some things are a little private :/ But it's not homophobia, it really is her father freaking out about money and how she's destroying her future by paying for that trip and bla bla. And overall, he's just a dick who doesn't want to give his 18 years old kid the right to do what she wants because 'as long as she lives under his roof, she's gonna do what he tells her'.

You surely didn't stretch a muscle while smiling back in the days D: But I bet you have a lovely smile

I love Stefan. And everyone who's being lovely and supportive. I'm not just saying. It felt great to see that people cared and accompanied us into this and hoped with us. :')

going there tomorrow. it should be fun :nod:

Thank you girls :hug: I just called Ivet and we cried it all out together and we are hopeful for the future, we actually talked about future plans of her maybe moving her for her college studies, cause it's so expensive in the united states and she might get a better price around here. We're just really hopeful for the future. She can actually change her flight up to one year from now (of course, there are fees, but it's btter than buying a new flight) so that's a plus, she'll hopefully be here for christmas and new years. And yeah, her dad called her stupid again today. I just have a strong hatred for that man now. I used to like him but now he disgusts me. I waned IVet that if I see him again in real life, I'll have all the trouble in the world not to yell at him although hes 10 000 feet taller than me. Thank you :hug:

Yeah well they don't care much about her hardwork and still find a way to call her selfish for wanting to go on this trip. so much fucking hate. thanks :hug: thank you anyone who hoped with me and who supported me. i love you.

No, we can't do this, no friend will be able to drive her then. And even at this moment, she'll have missed out on a lot of things we had planned (like a trip to nyc to see her fav artist (sufjan) or tomorrow is a music festival). So she's moving her flight for december, when we'll be sure she can make it.

okay, this time, it's real and it's definite. Ivet is not coming here today. She’s changing her flight for December. Hopefully things will be looking up then. For now, let’s resume crying. thanks, girls :hug:

her mom is even more against it than her dad. and she would never do it if her dad disagrees. patriarchal kind of family.

if she wants to get to that other flight, she needs to leave in 5 minutes. it's too late now, she tried every opportunity, and her dad refuses to drive her, no matter what, she tried to convincing him again. she's considering driving there and leaving her car there for two weeks, but she doesn't have the money for this, nor does she have a valid driver's license. ughhh.

if she wants to get to that other flight, she needs to leave in 5 minutes. it's too late now, she tried every opportunity, and her dad refuses to drive her, no matter what, she tried to convincing him again. she's considering driving there and leaving her car there for two weeks, but she doesn't have the money for this, nor does she have a valid driver's license. ughhh.

^^ I suggested her her aunt, and she didnt say anything to this, so she can't ask her. she's supposed to leave in 10 minutes if she wants to make it in time. ^no, she leaves too far away for that. I think the battle is over

no you read wrong, she cant drive her :/

ok her best friend cant get her there edit: ^yeah me neither

I'm sorry you needed tissues btw :hug: we're trying our best

she's currently waiting for her best friend to call her back to say if she can drive her or not. oh and nvm that 300 dollars thing

she did this! it still costs her 300 dollars more :/ yeah she has family, but they would never drive her there, they are on her father's side. Or maybe they're not, but they would never dare to 'betray' her dad. It's a two hours drive, she has 43 minutes to go to find a way.

jesus fucking christ, if her stupid asshole of a father had allowed her to go just an hour before, it wouldn't need to be like this

no train, and her neighbors hate them haha. let's not cry victory yet. it costs her 300 dollars more if she does move her flight like this, she doesn't have that kind of money, and I'm gonna talk her out of it, because it's madness. she hadn't told me at first that it cost her this much more, and i refuse to let her spend so much.

OKAY HER PARENTS ALLOW HER TO GO BUT DISAPPROVE AND WONT GET HER THERE, THIS TIME, ALL WE NEED IS A DRIVE. She has 1 hour to find one. Taxi is out of the question, there's no bus, I think her best friend is working.... we need suggestions!!

I know, I know. but for now, it is fucking hard

^^ I did, Reilly, I tried to reason her. I just called her for the second time, and I think I got somwhere with her, tellnig her how were gonna be 'aw that was a sad phase of our life' when we grow old, and I think I got her with humour. She just needs me a lot right now, and her internet is not working, and tomorrow is going to be hell. I myself find it fucking difficult, but I need to stay strong for her, she's the one who gets cockblocked by her dad the most and has to suffer his temper. I need to reassure and comfort her, so I'll act strong. ^ Oh wow, that would have been so sweet of you, but her parents would still have killed her for going, the ride isn,t so much of a problem anymore :/ There's no reasoning, he is being unreasonable actually. His reasons were money at first (although Ivet could manage her budget very well), and then he didn't give much reasons and started to insult her... Ugh. But he disagrees with 'it's her money, she decides what she does with it'. his motto is more like 'you live under my roof, you do what I say no matter what.' I hate my father-in-law. I used to like him, but not after what he's done and what he's said. It's over, I'll be glad if I don't see him again.

Sadly, I disagree with the saying :/ but thank you :hug: it's a good thought :hug:

Yeah.. for now, Ivet is being quite delusional about it. She's still packing her stuff... ugh. It's very hard on us, but it brings us closer and stronger.

thank you guys. I can't believe it either, kelsie :hug: