Well...I know this is similar to the giving advices thread I made yesterday....but I realised also again that I'm really bad at consoling people (which has actually something to do with giving advices)....

 

For example people who have a lost a close realtive or friend because of death....

Many people just go there and say "I'm sorry" or give them a hug...I just can't do this...no....I feel so bad then....I'm always so unsure then because everybody handles different situations in another way....

 

There was this girl from my class.....some years ago she lost her brother because of an accident.....she went to school,stood on the school yard and was crying...I stood there with my friends and we were talking about what we will do.....so all of them went to her and gave her a hug....except me....I couldn't.....I didn't go to her....I didn't say anything to her.....

 

and this is always the same with me....I think I'm unsure too often because I'm afraid I could do or say anything wrong....

 

Maybe I just run away from awkward or bad situations....

I feel lost when I have to console someone, I don't know what to do really so I just ask what's happened and tell them it will be ok or something like that and put a hand on his or her shoulder as a comforting gesture sort of. I want someone to hug me when I'm sad but it feels wierd doing that to someone else,like it would be wrong or something

You are right...I also never know what to say then....and just llay my hands on their shoulders or something like that!

I always feel so uncomfortable in those situations, I just don´t know what to say or what to do, so I try to avoid them as much as I can, although I know that´s wrong because the other person needs someone to talk to and to be there for them, and if something bad happened to me I´d like to be consoled by other people, otherwise I´d feel worst.