so... i was having a good day... we (my sister and my cousin) went to the theaters to watch pirates of the carribean, but it was sold out, so we just drove around then went to the park and played on the playground, haha.

 

then we rented some movies and went home, and my parents went out to eat dinner.

 

then, i don't know what happened, but my mom came home super pissed off and started cleaning the house and shit. she started lecturing to us about how we don't pick up after our selves and "why we can't be automatic" and just clean up. what the fuck am I? a fucking robot?! then she said "you guys don't have school...." and my sister said "I do" in a light-hearted manner. my mom fumed and said "what did you say? did you say "I do"?!" and my sister was like "yeahhh" and then she just yelled "SHUT UP, CAN'T YOU SEE I'M MAD?" to her. then my mom asked why she would respond like that when she's mad and my sister was like "But, I do have school" and my mom just butted in and said "SHUT UP" fucking loud and started cleaning again.

 

my dad didn't do anything... as always. they're both fucking psycho. they expect us to be fucking perfect. I hate it. I haven't cried so much in a while...

 

I don't know what the fuck I'm doing wrong. my parents really suck. what am I doing wrong to make them like that? I don't talk back at them--shit, I can't express anything to them. all my fucking emotions are bottled up and now i'm just venting... sorry...

 

fuck.

i know saying "someone ruined your day" is like handing over your life to someone and letting them control you... i tried to ignore all this shit but i can't..... it should be water of my back by now i don't think it ever can or will be............. i wanna fucking run away.....

ah i scared everyone off didn't I......

 

i feel better now... haha.

 

this is still stupid...

Hey, if it makes you feel any better, I'm 36, I don't live at home, and I still don't feel like I can please my mother. She's a devout right-wing Christian who has no room in her mind for anything else...don't get me wrong...she's a very loving woman, but I still don't play most of my music for her, and when I do, she treats it like the singing teacher she is and points out how I could have done better. When she came over for Christmas dinner last year, I had Coldplay on while I was getting dinner ready, and all she could say was 'why can't that man sing like a man?' LOL! It's a parent's job to piss off and alienate their kids...not really, but sometimes it seems that way. Just be yourself despite them!! you're not out to hurt them so you'll probably come to tolerate each other in time! Mine's a pain sometimes but we do love each other!!!Hope my long post doesn't scare you off...lol. That's the beauty of the internet...you can vent without hurting anyone!!!

 

And you're right...staying angry only gives her the power and keeps you afraid...put on 'Everything's Not Lost' and SMILE!

i live at home and feel the pain...my mum will do the same when she has a bad day, it like some emtional roller coaster

 

but some times you just cant do anything, except get out of her way

mhh ... i know that

my mum's like that too when she came home from work and had a baaaad day.

and she doesn't want me to respond ...

she's like:"shut up. i'm right. i don't wanna listen to what you say" but she's ALWAYS bitching about something ... so i have to listen to her crap.

and then she always says how lazy i actually am and what i'm doing wrong.

O___o

Hey, if it makes you feel any better, I'm 36, I don't live at home, and I still don't feel like I can please my mother. She's a devout right-wing Christian who has no room in her mind for anything else...don't get me wrong...she's a very loving woman, but I still don't play most of my music for her, and when I do, she treats it like the singing teacher she is and points out how I could have done better. When she came over for Christmas dinner last year, I had Coldplay on while I was getting dinner ready, and all she could say was 'why can't that man sing like a man?' LOL! It's a parent's job to piss off and alienate their kids...not really, but sometimes it seems that way. Just be yourself despite them!! you're not out to hurt them so you'll probably come to tolerate each other in time! Mine's a pain sometimes but we do love each other!!!Hope my long post doesn't scare you off...lol. That's the beauty of the internet...you can vent without hurting anyone!!!

 

And you're right...staying angry only gives her the power and keeps you afraid...put on 'Everything's Not Lost' and SMILE!

 

Post of the week!:cool:

Post of the week!:cool:

 

 

 

wanker!!!

 

 

 

Okay..to the juice.

 

 

You, Alyssa..did nothing wrong. Kids are kids and they SHOULDN'T expect you to be automatic. Robots don't love.

 

What do they want? Feeling-less kids?!

 

Seriously. Your parents have issues. My mum is like that too. And more so recently. She is currently looking for the " just right" meds for her mental issues..so right now the household is a bitch.

 

 

But just...do what you have to do with them for the meantime..save up and high-tail it out of there.

 

From experience: You can NEVER move forward in life with parents like that.

wanker!!!

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That was completely uncalled for an out of order. My comment was totally genuine one. You shouldn't jump to conclusions.

Post of the week!:cool:

Thanks! But I think that honour should go to Crystal now!!!

I'll never forget the screaming about my being 'lazy' too. I can remember pleading with my mother to just tell me one thing I'd done right. She was also on meds for bi-polar disorder...but I honestly believe that time heals all wounds!!

 

Still, I had to do just what Crystal suggests...save some money and high tail it out of there...that works too!

Thanks! But I think that honour should go to Crystal now!!!

I'll never forget the screaming about my being 'lazy' too. I can remember pleading with my mother to just tell me one thing I'd done right. She was also on meds for bi-polar disorder...but I honestly believe that time heals all wounds!!

 

Still, I had to do just what Crystal suggests...save some money and high tail it out of there...that works too!

 

Good for you.:cool:

Alyssa, I know the feeling hun. :\

 

I dont live with my mum (my parents had a nasty divorce when I was 7), and when I do see her it's almost guarenteed we will have a blazing row.

Now im like my sister, quite calm and I hate to argue. I avoid them at all costs. So I know that it's not me starting these arguments. It's the fact that when my mum speaks to me like shit or blatently lies to my face, I dont sit and take it like my sisters do. I stand up for myself.

So yeah, my mum has serious emotional issues I swear...I've never known anyone who's emotions can change so quickly. It's literally like Jekyl and Hyde with her. :thinking:

Yeah...so that always puts me off seeing her, even though I do really love her.:\

 

So I went to spend the day with her a few weeks ago, and it was so nice. We chatted for hours and hours and it was great.

Then, to cut a looong story short, she did the usual flipped out over NOTHING. I wasn't rude to her...she was rude to ME. She spoke to me like absolute shit, just 'cos she was a little bit tired and grouchy. And so I calmly said "I really dont think you realise how rude you are to me sometimes" and that was it. Holy shit, she flew off the handle and got all hysterical, as usual, while I just sat there listening and crying.

 

So for the first time, I walked right out the house and drove home in a total mess, crying and shaking...and we haven't spoken since. :\

 

What a fucked up situation eh.

 

So yeah....parents suck sometimes.

 

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your mom has every right to tell you to clean up after yourselves. The problem isn't what she told you to do it's how, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't clean up stuff... And not doing what she asks you is just as bad / alienating as not asking in the right way...

I think it's just the way it is,I have never really gotten on with my mum,that is why I moved out when I was 18...its the best thing to do,but I realise that you could obviously not to that at your age...

wanker!!!

 

 

:lol: That was very amusing....and random,,I loved it....:P

the house was clean......................................................

 

like... really... haha. it wasn't that dirty. she just randomly gets really mad over nothing. i don't care if she tells me to clean up... sometimes when it's really messy she doesn't get mad... and when it isn't at all she gets mad over a tiny mess on the counter. she was yelling at us for disrespecting her last night too. we barely even said anything though. my sis said "I do" and "But I do have school"--she didn't even say it with an attitude or anything, and my mom got mad. we can't do anything when they're mad. i guess we're just to sit and bear it all, which sucks. i try to act like it doesn't really affect me but it does.... last night i just snapped.

 

i don't knowwwwww... now she's acting like nothing happened last night. it's annoying. it's like she thinks she can just yell at us and shit and it won't matter anymore the next day...

 

i'm really getting tired of my parents... i wanna confront them and tell them that they're completely irrational and they don't make sense when they're mad and stuff and they get mad over the wrong things... but I don't know how to say that to my parents without making them mad. that... would kinda prove my point though, haha.

 

i know i kinda sound one-sided... like i'm really against my parents or something......... but I don't think i'm exaggerating at all.. i'm almost undermining, haha. i really love them... i just hate it when they're mad. they're really....... PSYCHO. no one really gets why I don't like my parents that much unless they see them get made at us themselves. they're like... bipolar... my mom has her public personality and the one she has at home. I guess it's okay to have that, but she's completely different with us.... it's strange. i really wanna get out of here. i can't stop them from getting mad over nothing and i can't get away from it until i'm old enough (and mature enough) to live independently. :confused:

 

i don't even know what i'm trying to say....

 

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heh, (don't worry I read it all :P) I think I'm with you on that.... I don't want to complain about my parents but I believe I know what you mean even though mine aren't to that extreme with cussing us out and my mom doesn't yell... When the house is dirty it's dirty and it will be comlained about and when the house is clean it will get complained about. If my mom was here all the time I know it would always be clean though, she's not being a hypocrite.. and my brother and I are messy.... but I get what you mean because she almost always feels the house is a mess even if it isn't..

 

uh wow, that's a big paragraph about nothing...... anyway....... sorry if you read that :laugh3:

 

I used to yell at my parents too when I got mad and then in like the 11th grade I think I gave up yelling basically all at once..... in a big way...... yelling at them and attacking them never made a lot of sense because all I had to do was do what they asked me and then they wouldn't yell as much.... and if you walk up to them when you're not mad and try to tell them. "I'm sorry that the house is messy but I wish you would just ask me instead of yelling at me" it will go a long way.... I did that once and I believe it made a big difference...... you might have to remind them a few times and it's ok if you're mad to say "would you please stop yelling at me? I'm doing it" as you're doing what they're telling you...... it makes a difference to show them that you will do it and THEN ask them to stop yelling.......

 

I'm not saying it WILL change things but I think that's a better way to do it.

oh man, ...

i'm already looking forward to moving outta this place called "home".

i can't stand those people here anymore cause everything i do is wrong.

i always have to be the best at school and my parents would kill me if i had a C in any subject ...

that's insane.

there's so much pressure on me and they don't even give a flying fuck about it.

sometimes when i want to study ... they're like:"yeah, clean up this and that first and blaaaah" ... and then i have to get the best marks!!!

and there's so much psycho shit going on here.

it was much worse a few months back ... so i'm happy that it changed a little but my parents easily freak out and i hate them arguing!! it's horrible ...

heck yes i do! death to EMO! EMOS RUIN MY DAY!:veryangry:

Thanks! But I think that honour should go to Crystal now!!!

I'll never forget the screaming about my being 'lazy' too. I can remember pleading with my mother to just tell me one thing I'd done right. She was also on meds for bi-polar disorder...but I honestly believe that time heals all wounds!!

 

Still, I had to do just what Crystal suggests...save some money and high tail it out of there...that works too!

 

 

I have to tell you kids, that med transitions are worse than any hundered bee stings at once...EVER!!!

 

Sometimes, you just want to get up from whatever you are doing and just walk out of the house and go anywhere ..do anything. Becuase things just don't make sense at the time and you are so confused.

 

I talk on a regular basis with her doctors..just to try to make sense of it all. They tell me how it will be...and i, in my mind..know that it will be just ten times worse than their general description. My mum is a monster.

 

Like today. My "family" and I (family is in quotes because it's being used loosely...my family is not the definition of a family) took her to Galveston Island, for some harmless distraction and cheering up.

We made this huge schedule revolving around her. A nice thing.

 

And she nit picks like ..EVERYTHING. So naturally, you tendency is to get angry. But the more anger YOU show..the more upset she gets. So you just can't show it.

 

Everytime this happens, there are there crazy ass arguments that go in some crazy ass NO WHERE CIRCLES. Avoid these please.

 

Like..seriously. Record one of those cirlce arguments one day and like, fucking force yourself to listen to them because you will realize how pointless they are. And maybe try to avoid them

 

 

 

Arguments produced in anger go NOWHERE

Ok,

Point # one: You never would win a discussion with your parents! Period.

 

It does not matter if they are wrong and you are freaking right.That's something that you have to handle the rest of your life,sadly but true.

Is not fair? Yeah I know is not fair,but parents have the magical hability of showing us what we are doing wrong.

Yes I know that if they were perfect they would yell at us and tell how the things have to be done.But they are not perfect and they are our parents and that's is the most important point.

 

When we have childrens,we would figure out if we were wrong or right.

 

And c'mon,that's the deal of win a discussion?Ok you beat your parents in a discussion! Bravo!

I guess that you feel better now! Even if you won a discussion,they are your parents and you are the son.

Instead of winning a war,I prefer to avoid one.

 

Point # 2:

 

Parents could make our life a living hell,and yeah there are parents that does not deserved that name.In this case I guess that we can be the mature person and if we know that everytime our parents ask us something,I guess we have to obey as possible.

 

Have you ever try to obey your parents without a complain?They freak out everytime you do what they ask and you do exactly what they say.

Sometimes they get more mad or sometimes they analize the situation and ended admiting their mistakes.(Yeah this last thing happen,not too much,but this thing happen)

Look, this is probably not the kind of thing I should be posting...edit if you please...but when I was a kid I lived in fear of 'The Belt' if I didn't get it right. I won't go into detail, but it's fair to say, much as I love my mother, I was abused by her. I wish that parents could admit they're wrong. I know it can happen, but sometimes you have to go on with your mutual lives not expecting it...sad. Sometimes just rationalising it down to them just being your parents isn't enough. If you're just mad because of everyday arguements..live with it! But If you're in fear of those mood swings, deal with it however you have to. ANyway, as I said, this really isn't Coldplaying.com material...but it is true...you can't always accept your parents behaviour just because they're you parents...

you can't always accept your parents behaviour just because they're you parents...

 

That is correct

 

But we always tend to exaggerate about our parents.We have the worse parents in the world and we are always the victim.

 

Of course and I repit,there are "parents" that do not deserve called that way.

 

You lived with fear of the belt?

Well my parents used that too,happily not too much,and honestly I have to say that they always tried to talk with me before they had to use it.

 

I know that is not the best way to discipline a son,but well I forgive my parents about that.I really had a bad behavior

I eventually had to forgive my mother, because the anger at her was eating me alive...but honestly, and with no exaggeration, she overdid it. If she was angry with me before I left for school, she'd tell me what I could expect when I got home...so I had the whole day to think about it before it happened. I had some bad behaviour too, but nothing that warrented that...and it was definitely over-used...Anyway, it's in the past, but this thread brought back some interesting shit...sorry to share it with the Coldplaying universe.

There are a lot of monsters outside in the world,yeah they are father or mother too.

 

Is amazing what a board make us say or think.A community that have own rules and a behavior that psychologists found really fascinating.

 

I wonder how differents we are? If we act the same here and in the real world?