Yeah lets get paranoid.

 

But really, sometimes friends, lose touch with friends, and the result is, one of them wants to ditch the other one.

 

Have you ever done that?

 

And you re-assure your 'friend' by going out to meals with them, which you dont want to, going for a drink with them, which you dont want to, occasionally visiting them in a quiet, home environment, which you really dont want to, and if they get suspicious, you say "Dont be ridiculous! We're frwienz 4eva!!!"

 

But, what happens if the table turns, and they are reassuring you?

 

Now, of course its never happened to me before (-OR Im lieing as losing all of my friends would explain my sudden re-appearance after an inexplicably long absence) but has it happened to you?

 

Its nothing to be embarassed about, well yeah, it is actually.

 

What is it with some people when they just cant take the damn hint?! Gerrouwwaamyliiiiife!!

 

Ho-hum.

 

Uh, discuss.

your reappearance wouldn't have anything to do with Albie's sudden reappearance would it? :P

Hmm well I'm confused...you're losing your friends but you want them to get out of your life? (just want to get this clear)

 

...it's Gerrouwwaamyliiiiife!! which is confusing me.

Shiiiit theyre onto us! :uhoh:

 

Has Albie came back at the same time as me?

 

Anyone, anyone but Albie.

Hmm well I'm confused...you're losing your friends but you want them to get out of your life? (just want to get this clear)

 

...it's Gerrouwwaamyliiiiife!! which is confusing me.

 

Yeah the whole thing didnt really make any sense.

 

Sometimes I just want people to 'get out of my life' (Right now, one person in particular) but she just, isnt, taking the hint.

 

Just a friend, not a hump buddy or anything, but I never reply to her texts or calls or voice messages or emails, and every now and then, like every 10th missed call, I will pick up the phone, and bam, Im going for another lengthy meal.

 

And then I just wondered what it would be like to actually be the person who doesnt take the hint.

 

Thats all. :(

Ohh I see, so your conscience is taking its toll....

You're right though, this happens to everyone all the time and when you think about it, it's hard. There's a lot of people I know that are desperate to be friends with me but I make up all these excuses not to hang out with them because I want them to get out of my life too! But then you think about what they're feeling...and they must be hurt. You feel bad for them but on the other hand you really don't want to be friends with them...

Precisely!

 

How are you supposed to explain to a friend, youre just sick of them, and dont have a lot in common with them, you have a bearable time with them but its a waste as you could be hanging out with someone you actually like, etc etc

 

Sounds cruel, but its a cruel world, and its the truth.

 

Theres no way to really do it though is there?

 

"Hey, about that drink tonight... I dont like you anymore, and we're not friends. OK bye! Forever!"

Yeah I know! It's one of the major difficulties of life and there's really no way out...It's a bad idea to hang out with them a lot though because it will just give them false hope that you actually want to be friends with them.

 

But if you don't, you just feel worse for them. :\ :confused:

How are you supposed to explain to a friend, youre just sick of them, and dont have a lot in common with them, you have a bearable time with them but its a waste as you could be hanging out with someone you actually like, etc etc

"Hey, about that drink tonight... I dont like you anymore, and we're not friends. OK bye! Forever

I've already dumped a would-be friend that was too much nosy. I can't stand nosy people. One day, I told her i wanted to be in peace from now on but she didn't appreciate my behaviour even though i gave her a piece of my mind nicely. Ever since, she holds a grudge, and her only target is to revenge that is completely nonsensical as i've done nothing wrong to her. I now prefer to be lonely out of fear to meet people like her. Actually, i've got 2 friends left that i meet from time to time and it's fine for me.:thinking: If you're tired of your friends, just tell them in order to live in peace or avoid them, they'll understand if they're clever. We've signed no contract with people, right ?

^*gasp* We were just talking about social contracts in history class..

To start with, I'm a terrible friend. Really, I'd never make friends with myself.

 

If I'm not in the mood I can just not return calls, or be pretty rude, and it's like, not a big deal. I mean, people around me are probably used to it so they understand.

 

But sometimes I really want a person to get out of my life, and it's hard. Friends don't take it seriously, and it makes me even more angry and paranoid. So when they finally stop calling/inviting/talking to me, I want them back all of a sudden.

 

Fuck. That's so totally pointless.

To start with, I'm a terrible friend. Really, I'd never make friends with myself.

 

If I'm not in the mood I can just not return calls, or be pretty rude, and it's like, not a big deal. I mean, people around me are probably used to it so they understand.

 

Reilly>Relates>Lera

 

(again)

 

Haha, but not this bit:

 

But sometimes I really want a person to get out of my life, and it's hard. Friends don't take it seriously, and it makes me even more angry and paranoid. So when they finally stop calling/inviting/talking to me, I want them back all of a sudden.

 

Fuck. That's so totally pointless.

 

Hahaha. Funny though.

^you finally found your password :lol:

 

Anyway, not a problem I've ever had- I'm sort of cursed. Anyone I ever get really close to ends up moving far away, sometimes to a different continent. It's even worse now that most of them are graduating and traveling or getting jobs abroad. Though I guess some of that just comes from living on the east coast... most people have to leave to get work...

^you finally found your password :lol:

 

Anyway, not a problem I've ever had- I'm sort of cursed. Anyone I ever get really close to ends up moving far away, sometimes to a different continent. It's even worse now that most of them are graduating and traveling or getting jobs abroad. Though I guess some of that just comes from living on the east coast... most people have to leave to get work...

 

But Kevin Spacey managed to find someone in "Shipping News"!!:P

But Kevin Spacey managed to find someone in "Shipping News"!!:P

 

SomeONE not some WORK. Relationships tend to take a backseat to jobs these days...

 

And please don't remind me of that movie... I couldn't sit through the whole thing the fake Newfie accents were so bad... so don't know what happens, actually. :sick: Which is a pity actually, because they filmed it here in Halifax.

SomeONE not some WORK. Relationships tend to take a backseat to jobs these days...

 

And please don't remind me of that movie... I couldn't sit through the whole thing the fake Newfie accents were so bad... so don't know what happens, actually. :sick: Which is a pity actually, because they filmed it here in Halifax.

 

I was just pulling your chain.:lol:

For some time, I was a bit paranoid and thought people didn't like me because well I am a bit shy. I stopped given a damn about it. I've never been like one of those people who I'm sure you've all probably seen somewhere in your city that person who everyone likes (who you even like) that person who has that charisma and doesn't really have to try to fit in. I think I have accepted that I'll never fit anywhere even if I move to another planet and that's allright 'cause I'm not trying to.

 

About that friend, I've probably been on that situation and been on both sides. I think that when you hang out with someone so much you are bound to get sick of them sooner or later. There's really no nice way of saying it to them unless you happen to move out of the city.. the country? Even better don't even give an address.

 

 

Sorry, this is kinda of a long posts but I just have to complain that I hate going out with my friend! Why does the b/f always has to come? She always wants to hang out with me but I also try avoiding calls and messages and not really looking forward to seeing her. I think she also got upset that I didn't go to her birthday. Now that's bad.