Jack

how old are you, though? because you might feel that way right now but if you're teenage, you will likely grow up to work with people who aren't necessarily your age. maybe 2 or 3 years either side of your age, and you won't treat them differently than if they were born on the exact same day as you. i personally don't think it matters at all. i was going out with a girl younger than me and there are differences in maturity levels but at the same time it's not a deciding factor. it wasn't big enough a difference to impact the relationship.

will someone interesting share their opinion? i refuse to let this drop to the depths of the lounge and have some of the stupidest threads ever about.

I think it's admirable that you think like that and I hope it ends up being true for you and everyone else, I just personally feel that it's unrealistic to assume it'll be like that. If the attitude you have for everything is that it's always enjoyable then, well.... I can't understand how that can be possible. And it's not a case of you loving something more than me. It's just human nature, in my opinion.

That's what I mean. I don't mean it as in have you been in love with this person BECAUSE you met them online. :P That would be dumb. But it's just as easy to gain feelings for someone online as it is to face to face. My last girlfriend and I met online, and I knew I liked her and she liked me. I knew what she looked like because I'd seen her on webcam, in videos, in photos. I knew I was attracted to what I saw in those but at the same time I knew that it might be a different proposition face to face because as everyone knows, people can photo well. I knew I liked her personality, we got along really well. When you put those together it's easy to like someone and want to spend time with them and want to be with them. It wasn't love until a while after we met. That's just the way it happened for us, I suppose there would be circumstances where it could be, but it wasn't in my experience. But in the end I was in love with a girl I'd met online and primarily spoke to online. It wasn't always love but I definately liked her and knew I wanted to be with her much sooner than I'd first met her.

I don't think you're human.

No, I disagree. There's a difference between enjoying something and having a special connection. It's just human for it to lose it's shine after it becomes too frequent an occurance. This isn't really a fantastic example but say you're a musician, you play a big gig infront of 10000 people. The first one is going to be incredible because it's special, and if you do it every year, it's special. If you do it every night, it won't be that special every time. It's just human nature. I'm not saying you won't enjoy it more, or it won't get better, or you won't have that magical connection because it's someone you love. It would lose it's unique, specialness appeal if it became too common. If you've had sex every day for a week, and then you don't for a month, and then do again once. Can you say that the last day of the week, and the first day after a month is the same? No, you can't. Because the month after will be more special because as a human you'll appreciate it more since it's not been there for you the 6 days previously... God, it's hard to make sense, but I know what I mean...

I disagree, on the basis that it's easier to embarrass yourself or feel embarrassed face to face.

It doesn't have to be a relationship. It could be someone you feel a deep emotional attraction for, that you know online. It doesn't have to be requitted. It doesn't even have to be "love" as in the big love that you find when you're "in love". You could just as easily talk about someone you had a massive crush on, without meeting them anywhere other than online.

I definately agree with that, it's a brilliant point. But I think it extends with many factors. I don't think it's just the first time, from experience. I think if you were having sex with a partner every night or so often, it'd become mundane and less special because you'd expect it and be used to it but I think if it wasn't a frequent thing and there was a build up. I don't mean foreplay as build up. I mean like, you said yourself it's an instinct, so when those instincts get to a point, if it's not happening all of the time like clockwork or something you expect to happen, those instincts and urges can make it more of a connection than something "you just do". If that makes sense...

Can anyone talk from experience here, though?

You can sometimes get a more true perspective of what someone's like online, though. With technology these days... I mean, take me talking to GirlA for example. I talk to her on MSN, and see her facebook. I see how she talks to other people, how other people talk to her, I see what she looks like. Then if I talk to her, remember that I talk to her one on one. Say this girl goes to my school and she acts to fit in in a specific crowd in school. Talking to her one on one you get a more real respresentation of her personality because she's not trying to impress anyone or conform to any stereotypes. I'm just saying, I spoke to a bunch of people online from school in ways and about things that many of my friends didn't believe, cause of how these people were percieved in school. I think in this day and age with all there is on the internet and the decrease in technological ignorance (in that kids and whoever else actually know how to use computers and won't be fooled as easily by someone holding a cardboard cutout of Zac Efron up on webcam pretending to be it) means it's a lot easier to know the real person and trust who you're talking to, than a lot of older people think.

Does it or has it ever mattered to you? Also, what do you consider to be too big of an age difference? I'd also like you to consider how old you are, which ages you're referring to, the expected level of maturity of someone of these ages, and the age differences in which your/people you know's relationships.

Pretty simple question, really. Have you ever fallen in love with someone you met online?

the crime is in this post, sorry to say.

i personally think instead of those group threads, you could easily add the people on messenger and talk there. i talk to jenn and grace from here absolutely loads but rarely on this forum, because it clutters it and it's unnecessary 'cause we're both on msn.

The Sex Thread is about "oooh i'm a virgin omg" more than it's about actual opinions. Plus, this has a poll. I can see why you might say that but if we always say "USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION" then we'll never get anywhere because threads will be littered with old opinions and older posters.

Yeah, like... If you were in a relationship, how important would it be to you. Would it not being there make a massive negative difference to you.

It's meant in good taste, this thread. If you've not had sex and have an opinion, please state that, but don't use this thread to put all that "I'm still a virgin heheheh :o:o:o" stuff. This is a mature thread about mature opinions, if you'd please. So think about it, have a vote, and reply with why you think that, if you have a reason, and how old you are. I think it'd be interesting to see what the general opinions of different age groups are. Also... Just cause you have one opinion, doesn't mean you think everyone should be like that. So don't be ashamed to vote whatever you think, and worry that people will think you're trying to attack them with your view.

i don't know what your thread is. but yeah, if your thread is just an offtopic medly of discussion for the same few people, then i think it's pointless. it's all well and good having nice gestures, like making threads for everyone, but it's not all well and good when those threads clog up the list. that's been an age old problem for coldplaying though. i think it's something the moderators should be told to cut out, to be honest. unless the threads are for special people, like people who have been missing for ages and were well known. but i mean, that's not how this board is run so there we go.

if that's three people agreeing with me, that should be three people going and finding interesting things to talk about, right?

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stop whining. i hate these threads. if you're worried about the level of conversation, create a fucking interesting thread that people can talk in instead of something unnecessary as this. i hate the "someone PM me when things improve". no. if you want that to happen, just ask a friend on here to keep you updated, or check back every few minutes. cause believe me, if this lounge "improves" as you say it needs to, it won't miss you. people won't think "hey this is awesome now, all we need is <random poster who ran away crying>". seriously man, instead of complaining, go to another forum, look at their general conversation board, see a thread you like, and make one here. that way normal conversation gets started and interesting topics are discussed. if people actually did this with their time instead of these posts, we'd have interesting things to talk about, like views on religion, views on abortion, views on homosexuality, views on long distance relationships, views on evolution, views on the economy, views on the weather. INTERESTING THINGS. i'll go do it myself, now... but i bet the threads don't last more than a day. cause people are too busy complaining about shit. and yes, i'm ironic cause i'm complaining about people who complain, kill me.

you can come live with me grace :P

my neck's too long and i'm too thin to wear hats.. but my hair is occasionally glorious so it's okay

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