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:laugh4: :laugh4: then it'd be an orgy...

me??? an exhibitionist?? Don't make me laugh!!! :P more excitant? noo, it'd be just the opposite, I wouldn't feel ok 'cause I'd feel observed and I wouldn't be able to behave naturally. why do you think what you said?

COME ON, Ani... tell us your experience!!! :sneaky:

hahahaha <-- that was the first thing I did after reading your question! This is hilarious!!! Driving a bus + having sex?! That would be too much for me, I guess.. Moreover, imagine this bus full of people and you driving + having sex there... it'd be ridiculous unless I'd be an exhibitionist. :laugh4:

oh, you don't have to thank me that Crystal! :kiss: This thread is for talking about this and I do like to know what you feel... I think you can learn a lot only listening to what other people say besides your own experiences. It's a good way for understanding other points of view and be more open-minded. I just think the same, as well... I love that the others tell me just their little secrets or simply the usual stuff they do in its lives. Just sharing with them some feelings it's enough for me, it makes me feel happy. About the formalities thing; I know that sometimes you don't feel like talking or greeting someone - not 'cause you're angry with him/her, but you're not in the good mood for doing it - but... maybe is better to do it, I don't think you're hipocrite saying these formalities... although I understand your point, to act/say exactly what you feel (well, not EVERYTHING, but almost). hahahaha, I'll take that into account!!! If someone says me: "Tell me your secrets" I may think this person is YOU!!!! :lol:

false!!!! the next feels weird today.

hahahaha!!! :laugh4: it's obvious that everyone here prefers The Strokes! :lol: bycicle snow blizzard I feel so safe mp3 or iPod?

t-shirt!!! the strokes or arctic monkeys?

yaaay, he looks great in that film!!!!!!! :blush:

false... the next is anxious

@Crystal: These formalities that you are talking about, in fact happens everyday. I think you're not a liar for saying that you're fine although you don't feel like this... sometimes you don't trust someone enough or simply you don't wanna talk about it - but the last thing is a huge mistake, 'cause when you do it, you feel much better, even if they can't help you. Most of times to find someone who wanna listen to you it's just the best. (at least in my case). ooh, Crystal, you shouldn't feel like a liar... when you say "good morning" but the weather outside is bad you could consider you're even saying a lie, but it isnt. People do it all the time, even little lies, that you can say only for making feel good who is with you... I know we shouldn't, but we do it and there's nothing we can do for changing it 'cause I presume we're like this... gosh, I didn't know this topic touched you that much but its really good to know you're not the only person who feels that. In a relationship not all the things can be said. Just like you said, if you already know that sth that you're thinking about would hurt him it's better not to tell it. - well, in my opinion - so you can draw yourself this fine line, I think you can realize what things you can tell him (or not).

no, of course it wouldn't! I agree in part with you... someone with you could spend/share your life could be your big confidant, but anyway there'll be some things which you won't be able to tell him either...

exactly! I completely agree with what you said! it's great to have someone like this girl that you talked about!!! ;) I think I didn't understand you well before... I thought you were talking about someone who you only see/are once in your life and that's why I said it was sad!

oooooooh!!! I think he is Silas from the Da Vinci Code film, am I right? Great character, btw! :D

whoa, that sounds weird!!! I'm refering to that email you received... maybe it's hard to see the difference between the real and the simple one! maybe you're right, but if the most suitable person who you can trust is someone you may see once in your life... if this is true, it's a bit sad, I guess. okay, but then... if you dont tell anyone your secrets even your thoughts, and so on, you won't feel understood by the others. And it's just a necessity to talk about it with someone who could give you an advice or simply to listen to you.

How long have you been with your boyfriend? Just like other people said, the best option could be to talk to them about this question. Sooner or later you'll practice sex with someone and your parents won't be able to do anything for stopping you... they'll have to realize that you're not that child you used to be and that you're growing, so, you'll have a complete "control" of yourself/your life in a few years. Anyway, you're 16, so you're quite young and its normal that they were worried about you...

that's true... maybe this is the reason why it's so hard to tell to certain close friends some kind of secrets. And I think there is another important reason, as well: sometimes I've never told what I was thinking about - I mean not necessarily a secret - 'cause I thought the person who I was talking to wouldn't approve my opinion, so I prefered not to tell it. I presume you felt pretty anxious about what you said... although I'm sure she won't tell anything. Just imagine the opposite situation: I'm sure you know secrets about her - and surely you don't spread her secrets even if you're not friends now.

insecure :sad:

^ you look really good! :nice:

exactly! I'm not sure if this happens 'cause our "safety". Sometimes I think it could be better to know someone whom we could share most of things but other times... would be "dangerous" that someone would know about us too much?! She has her best friend - a very good one - who comes with her almost everywhere and they spend a lot of time together, and of course they talk about their feelings. They have a really close friendship. I suppose you were talking about friends whom you only share with them the studies question... but it isn't her case. That's why I was a bit astounned about her reaction. Anyway, what you said: "there are very few people who I completely trust"... I just feel the same, too.

The other day happened something that made me think about this topic: there is no person who we can share everything that we would like to. I was at uni, doing the lessons, but between one lesson and the next one we’ve 10min of break. I was talking to my friends and having fun, as always, and suddenly, one of them become to cry. We didn’t even realize about it, ‘cause it was so unexpected... all of us seemed to be so great, but she wasn’t, though. She is quite open-minded and seems to be one of those persons who have achieved almost everything she’s intented to so it was strange for us to see her in that state of mind. We asked her what was wrong, and with tears in her eyes, she told us that she has always felt weirdo, that she expected too much of everything and the last thing, - but the most important – that she wanted to find someone who she could share everything – I’m not refering to a bf, but a friend -. We tried to convince her it wasn’t impossible to meet someone like this. It doesn’t exist people who feels every single thing of life just like us and have the same thoughts. I told her: you’ll NEVER find a friend which you could share everything, you only will find friends which you can share only a little part of you. I’ve always had the theory which say that nobody can’t really know you completely – just ‘cause you can't share everything - and that fact confirmed it more.

okaaay, byebye Anna!!! :kiss: :kiss: :nice:

same here! oh, really?! why? :wink3:

yup... :sad:

nothing special! I went to uni and I studied... that's all.