Feel free to talk about your problems in relationships etc. in here.

 

I'm in love with someone, someone's in love with me, so we should be together happily? Haha. Nothing can be so simple. :angry:

 

The story is, I have a, well let's say, some kind of boyfriend, Til, 19 yrs old. We were good friends earlier, really close ones, we talked about most anything for hours. So we also know about the other's experiences with relationships. He was quite hurt by his ex-girlfriend, she broke up with him after 2 months to go back to HER ex-boyfriend. That doesn't sound THAT terrible, but it's a long long bad story, and after he was down for 6 months. For long time he didn't want any relationship. And then there was me. I had left my ex-boyfriend Chris for Til, and that quite broke his heart. And it was not for the first time that I made a boy sad because I wasn't sure about what I wanted. Most of the time it wasn't really my fault, bcuz I can't change feelings. But there were also some bad storys that I really regret. Well, I'm sure I will always be true to Til, and he also knows it - but he's so scared! After 1 1/2 months he wanted a break to have time for himself to think about everything, he was sure he would make these bad thoughts disappear, but so far, after almost 1 month, he didn't come far. We just can wait if something happens. After his experiences he's too scared and insecure just to let go and be happy with me, bcuz there's always a risk it could end badly. He says it isn't just because of me & my past, bcuz no matter what I do, he still has these bad feelings and can't get away although he feels love indeed. And I miss him like crazy! Arrh! What the fuck can I do!? I can't wait anymore!

Do whatever you feel to do (Universal answer to almost everything). and I know what you are going through. I love my best friend, I'm like obsessed with him, but the timing is really wrong, all the time, and I don't know what exactly I want either. I just know that I don't want to lose such a good friend like he is to me.

And he says he loves me... I don't believe him. I don't want to. :/

 

and no, I'm useless to you now, aren't I? :/

Why even bother, cuz you know that sooner or later you are going to brake up.

As Robbie Williams says "oh what are you really looking for, another partner in your life to adore and to abuse".

But then again, I'm just in a grim mood lately, so don't take me advice. :)

another relationship thread? Couldnt this go in the other one? :rolleyes:

Well maybe what Til really needs is someone who will love him instead of "time to think". alot of people make this mistake.

another relationship thread? Couldnt this go in the other one? :rolleyes:

 

well I didn't want to "destroy" Daryl's thread ;)

 

 

@vegaz: yeah that's right, and he knows that I love him and the first weeks of our relationship were great until he started musing...

 

@jinxie: I don't know. I think if there's love you should always try it. although there's a risk. well it depends on some circumstances, of course. If you're not sure yet it's always good to wait, I wasn't sure once but started a relationship and it ended as a dilemma.

 

Yeah Oliver, but he also says: "...saying love will stop the pain, saying love will kill the fear, do you believe? You must believe!"

 

 

and he also says: "why do you think we should suffer in silence?" - I had to cry my heart out on here. thanx for listening ;)

 

 

A friend said I should tell him he must make a decision during a certain next time. Not sure if that's good :confused:

Well, I actually understand both of you. Sure you can't wait forever and I would actually believe him that it's not about you. Maybe the fact that he knows about your previous relationship makes him a bit scared. I mean he could believe that you generally don't take realtionships very serious. If he had some bad experiences in the past this really could make him scared. If you really love him, which you obviously do, I don't think it's a good idea to give him a time to make a decision... because this might be a lot of pressure for him and if he's not able to make a decision yet and he'll have to make one, he might make one that he'll regret later. The only advice I can give you is to talk to him about your feelings. It is important that he sees how much this realationship means to you.

Well if you are in love and happy, that's really nice. :)

I'd like to help, but I don't think I can come up with any constructive suggestion. :/

Love is so effing hard!

Love is so effing hard!

And you can take that to the bank!

:cool:

whats even harder is getting the person you love to love you back...haha.

And you can take that to the fed!

Well, yeah, eh. :(

:angry:

Why teh :angry: face?

Love is very complicated. I hate it. I HATE LOVE! :sneaky:

Why teh :angry: face?

 

because im mad about love.

Ah, I thought you were angry at me.

Why even bother, cuz you know that sooner or later you are going to brake up.

As Robbie Williams says "oh what are you really looking for, another partner in your life to adore and to abuse".

 

Are you sure that's what this song is about? If it is, I always got it wrong. :/

Well it's only a part of the song,the song is about love, hence love supreme. ;)

Well it's only a part of the song' date='the song is about love, hence love supreme. ;)[/quote']

 

Sure, I know that... I thought you meant that this was the point of it, which I don't think it is.

Well' date=' I actually understand both of you. Sure you can't wait forever and I would actually believe him that it's not about you. Maybe the fact that he knows about your previous relationship makes him a bit scared. I mean he could believe that you generally don't take realtionships very serious. If he had some bad experiences in the past this really could make him scared. If you really love him, which you obviously do, I don't think it's a good idea to give him a time to make a decision... because this might be a lot of pressure for him and if he's not able to make a decision yet and he'll have to make one, he might make one that he'll regret later. The only advice I can give you is to talk to him about your feelings. It is important that he sees how much this realationship means to you.[/quote']

 

Oh damn it. I feel so low now. But well, talking to him about my feelings is what I'll do on Saturday, after band practising. I'll ask him if he really wants a relationship at all. (he also said he sometimes isn't sure if he has time and nerves to care about someone else bcuz there's so much going on in his life, he's having his last year at school now, many friends that don't want to miss him and some probs with himself. One second later, he thinks everything's okay, why shouldn't he have a girlfriend?) Cuz after 1 month, you should see clearly, especially if you REALLY love someone. If I'm really in love, I wanna be with that person. Maybe he doesn't really love me anymore but is too scared to break up yet? well i'll see on saturday, I really have to know, cuz after 4 weeks, it's getting too much for me. I was too scared that he will decide..."that he don't want me there by his side......"*sigh* and I am still, but we have to go on somehow.

Well if you or he aren't sure what you really want, then maybe it's best to break up.

I mean if he wants you as a gf he should have time, and should have his mind made up.

IMO. :/