August 26, 200619 yr oh man... well, there's this friend of mine and his girlfriend dumped him two days ago... and he is very depressed! of course, i love him as a friend, but he can't stop complaining that life just sucks and that he wants to end his life and so on... okay... it's not easy for him, but... life goes on and i'm sure he'll recognise that too (at least someday). could you tell me how i could make him feel better?! he's been online for more than 17 hours now and he hasn't eaten anythiong at all for 36 hours. he's just sick. :( i've tried my best, but... he seems so hopeless
August 26, 200619 yr I was like your friend a few months ago and actually had to go to the hospital for not eating for several days so maybe you can talk to someone closer to him before he gets worse i dont know, maybe a a big bro or sis if he has one or his parents. But the best you can do is just listen to him, he probably needs a shoulder to cry . Really hope your friend feels better with time.
August 26, 200619 yr yes, of course i'm listening to him, but... it's so hard to make him think that there's someone else out there for him. he's saying the most depressing stuff ever and it kinda drags me down, too. i'll see him again on monday... hopefully.
August 26, 200619 yr If you can, could you not go to his house and see him? I know what it's like having a problem and trying to tell a friend on the computer or phone and just getting frustrated at the fact that I can't get it across right. I might not be like this guy but still... you shouldn't be online for 17 hours. Maybe real communication is what he needs?
August 26, 200619 yr well, it's already late here... but he does live close to me... however. he doesn't want to meet anybody. not even his parents.
August 26, 200619 yr That's terrible but give him some little space, he probably is feeling too bad and dont want anyone to see him falling aparat .. maybe he'll reach out for help soon but try to check on him from time to time, he's depressed after all and ppl can do very stupid things when they're depressed, believe me i know.
August 26, 200619 yr My mom would break my door down and find out what was wrong with me before I had a choice over whether I saw her or not. When he says he doesn't want to meet anyone, it's basically crying out that he NEEDS to meet someone. How late is it? Can't you get in touch with his parents and explain that you're worried? Surely leaving him alone isn't the right way to go about the fact he wants to end the world.
August 26, 200619 yr Seems me and Ren have completely different ideas... He said he has experience of it... I'm just going by what it was like with someone I knew. Depends on what the person is like.... :confused:
August 26, 200619 yr ^ it's 1 am now... i'm about to tell him that he's a fucking dickhead (sorry...). i mean... okay, she was his first big love and all that..., but other people out there have so many bigger problems and he doesn't know how great his life actually is. gaaaaah i'm so glad to see him on monday. i don't even think that all his other friends know about +__+
August 26, 200619 yr oh, i'm so sorry for your friend.... :( the only thing that i can tell to you it's that you have to stay near him eaven he doesn't want to meet anybody! and i think that you can tell him that you love him (as a friend of course) and that you're always there if he would need some help...i hope that your friend feels better with time sorry for my english but i'm not very good at speck it! :embarassed:)
August 26, 200619 yr Yeah i have experience on that cos my gf broke up with me after 3 years and i became the most misrable human being ever, didnt eat, didnt sleep, would cry my heart out for days and ended up in the hospital, i was clinically depressed but things will pass little by little, but in his head he'll think there's no reason to live anymore and maybe see death as an option but that's far from the truth.. i believe my biggest mistake when i was like that was to think i was all alone when i actually had good friends and family there to support me so maybe give him some space but checking on him before he gets worse could be a good idea.
August 26, 200619 yr i believe my biggest mistake when i was like that was to think i was all alone when i actually had good friends and family there to support me so maybe give him some space but checking on him before he gets worse could be a good idea. Ahh. I know exactly what you mean. Not on the same level or situation, but I've been down the road where I think no-one cares for me. How wrong I was. Grace, how long were they going out? And how old is he?
August 26, 200619 yr ^ his girlfriend dumped him after 4 months --- he is only 15 :dozey: that's not even close to 3 years! c'mon... i told him not to feel lonely now.., but he said:"well, i do feel lonely although there are many people around me." i kinda start believing that he doesn't want any help at all...
August 26, 200619 yr ^ his girlfriend dumped him after 4 months --- he is only 15 :dozey: that's not even close to 3 years! c'mon... i told him not to feel lonely now.., but he said:"well, i do feel lonely although there are many people around me." i kinda start believing that he doesn't want any help at all... i think that he said that he want stay alone only because he's really depressed! but he NEED your help!
August 26, 200619 yr ^ his girlfriend dumped him after 4 months --- he is only 15 :dozey: that's not even close to 3 years! c'mon... i told him not to feel lonely now.., but he said:"well, i do feel lonely although there are many people around me." i kinda start believing that he doesn't want any help at all... wow, he's still very young so i'm sure he'll get over it and 4 months? hmm i dont think that's time enough to get to love someone so deeply , he probably had a huge crush on her but hey time is all he needs. Thought right now it'll be impossible to cheer him up i guess:\
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