Prince Myshkin

I'm going to sleep now. 11 hour shift tomorrow from early :( I'll be around at some points quite soon though.

Esteamed potato? Fuck me, I'm Mark.

A girl was telling me her boyfriend had said he'd find it a lot easier not to cheat on her if she lost some weight. I told her to break up with him. She said he paid her mortgage and car. I asked her what she wanted from life. She said she didn't know. She said he was nice 95% of the time. I asked her how much the other 5% occupies her mind. She said about 95% of the time. It went quiet. She's still with him and I have to meet him tomorrow night. Ugh.

There's no real need to think of it as being a virgin despite being almost 18.

Soooo Christmassy.

Now that's a whole other debate.

Fuck spoilers, just don't read it if you don't want to.

OK, I'll try and write what I wanted to write, but I've forgotten half of it and I've just finished an 11 hour shift starting at 6am with only a half hour break. So this will not be written very well at all. First of all, as I've said, I wouldn't look down (or up to) on women, or girls, who watch porn, nor would I look down (or up to) women, or girls, who do not watch porn (be that for ethical reasons or simply because they do not get turned on by it). As for the public view of what sex is being damaged, this can indeed be the case. But it is certainly not the case across the board. Especially if you consider that many who watch porn are already in relationships and so are well aware of what sex is to them in real life. But with regards to young adults, it can be very negative indeed. Personally, I think one thing that is needed is for females to interact with pornography more and for them to voice their opinions more on the matter. The more voice women have in pornography, the greater the variety will develop and there will be much more people would be comfortable viewing. It would also be easier to find because right now you have to search to find something specifically tasteful on the free sites, at least. But it can be found. It is the case though, that there are relationships where one partner is more dominant sexually. In other cases there is no dominance at all. In others these roles alternate. One thing for certain, however, is that all of this came about long before the internet. And the internet can be seen (in many places but not all) as a representation of real life. There is plenty of pornography that is not a representation of common occurrences of real life, and there is pornography that is a representation of the real life that we wished didn't exist. Pornography can change for the better though, in the way that I explained above. Pornography will loosely mirror society, one would hope (though not completely as pornography is a world of fantasy for many). But I hope it will be similar to what the gaming world is about to go through as more people interact with it, the obviously skewed sex dynamics become far less one way. You also have to realise that just because you watch something in pornography it doesn't mean you necessarily want to do it yourself. The issue then of course becomes if the actors want to be doing it themselves. But talking of the viewer, if you watch something "degrading" (and one would hope consensual), it doesn't mean that one would want to do that in real life (just like I can watch two people having sex who are completely different to me, be it race, body type or whatever, it doesn't mean I'm going to take anything away from it. Sex can be completely different to real life, or it can be interlinked, depending on those involved. If people accepted this it would be a lot easier for people to accept theirs and others preferences). But I personally feel that the working conditions of those involved in pornography will not improve unless society stops deeming it as so much of a stigma. The more it is talked about, the more improvements you will see in such areas, and I'm talking both the type of content produced and working to help those who work in the industry. One would hope that the current debate on actors wearing condoms, and the fact that has become (relatively) mainstream, for pornography at least, will lead to a better life for those involved. If the decision is left to those with vested interests on the money side of things and the mainstream refuse to engage out of shame then that will be a tragedy if more people contract hiv. So with the two major problems as I see them being the experience of the actors (as I mentioned above) and the impact it has on the young, I think the main thing to realise is that the whole issue needs to be confronted. In this country, sex education experts are crying out to include pornography as a topic to cover. Obviously there is a backlash from some but you have to accept that pornography is going to continue to be made and people are going to continue to watch pornography so ignoring the issue will not help. And the fact that young people are going to watch pornography, many of whom that won't understand the true nature of what is being depicted, this means that there should be something put in place to explain these things. Just like I think how feminism should be explained and taught at school, to a decent depth (rather than just the superficial and usually incorrect things that are projected in the media about it being man hating or a lack of humour) I feel pornography needs to be broached in an educational setting. If you can't grow up and face the facts that young people are watching it and provide them with a mature forum with which to discuss it, then you aren't going to be able to help them. As for any forms of ban (passed what is actually legal or health and safety, with condom use, etc) then most certainly not. Any form of censorship for the sake of "the children" would be a poor excuse for the sexual dysfunction society already has, regardless of whether or not it is possible. And we know that it isn't really possible. Technology always finds a way around it, see illegal downloads. You can ban what you like but online a way can be found. And in the meantime, innocent targets tend to be hit. Sex education sites for example are having a tough time with the proposals taking place in my country whereby a blanket ban on pornography is the default setting and you can choose, as a family (with all the negative stigmas our current society holds) to have the ban lifted. The ban was specified as being against violent pornography and child pornography, but as usual plenty of others suffered who would not be classed as pornography. And that's forgetting the fact that truly violent pornography and child pornography (though I hate that term in itself, it's child abuse and/or rape, it is not pornography) are already illegal and so they should be going after those who are uploading and distributing such material rather than taking heavy handed measures with little to no effect for anybody who really wants to find such things. But anyway, I could debate the censorship of pornography for much longer than I have time to sit here. All I will say is that the internet isn't the problem, if you look at the way society is set up (as this thread has highlighted). Sexism came long before the internet, and the internet is merely replicating real life. To make the changes you want to see on the internet you need to fight for the changes you want to see in real life, and to do that you need women to engage as much as possible in these things, and you need people to help others understand exactly what happens in this society and the pitfalls that have come about. A ban on the internet would not solve that, it would be ducking the issue, especially considering that much of would be banned could be done, and sometimes is, in a consensual setting. Anyway, yeah. Not well written and my points are all over the place, but I really don't have time to structure this much better. i've not reread this so there will likely be plenty of repetition and bits that don't really make sense, but I started this last night and finished it this morning.

A little kid at work today called me Dad.

I have a looooooong post to make on the subject. Stuck at work though.

Yeah there is plenty of different porn. There's also a hell of a lot of awful porn, of course. I certainly wouldn't look down on someone if they watch porn. Like I wouldn't think anything if they didn't.

Humourous but also depressing. Shows how some think less of women if they watch pornography.

I'll be on later.

Or maybe young. But I don't wanna be young.

I laughed at something Chris Martin said.

Twerk me to the afterlife.

Will you twerk at my funeral?

Would you twerk at a funeral?

Back to work. Bye!

Most certainly.

However you do it it'll be a great Xmas present.

It is in my opinion. But being a geek isn't a problem.

If somebody draws my mind it will blow my mind.

Tell me something interesting

Somebody draw my mind.