are you self confident?

 

i am not. i know i have abilities and qualities, but i find it to believe in them.

 

is there anything i can do to boost my self confidence?

 

thanks!!

Listening to everything's not lost always boosts my self-esteem...

 

I find that going shopping or out with your friends helps sometimes... but if you're really down on yourself... having a boyfriend could help.

 

I don't know I'm not very good at giving this kind of advice.

Everything's Not Lost is great for your self-cofidence!

Wearing my favorite clothes always makes me feel self-confident. And hanging out with really close friends helps also.

I am sometimes. And then totally not other times. Wearing nice clothescan help tho! And doing your hair & make up! THat makes me feel nice! :0)

Traveling helps, did wonders for mine !

oh yeah! It so does! Especially if you go somewhere you can't speak the language. Now there's a challenge! hehe

When you speak the same lanauage as someone you dont relaise until you dont how much you relay on body lanauge...

I know! I find it amazing that we can still communicate somehow even if we don't understand a word of what the other is saying. When I was teaching english in Italy one of my fellow teachers met her boyfriend while there. She met him in her first week when she didn't speak ANY Italian and he didn't speak ANY english! I always found that amazing. It's like the Colin Firth storyline in Love Actually! lol I never thought anything like that could genuinely happen! I met another woman who was Austrian, her husband was Italian and they communicated in english! hehe

My key to self confidence: Try something new.

 

It'll always make you feel better about yourself, make you feel like you can do anything, and its always easy to find something to do.

 

You could try cooking something difficult. Or if you dont read much, read a novel, in big chunks, it feels incredibly rewarding sometimes. You could exercise, going for a BIG run, until you're really tired. It feels lame when you first get out on the road like "What am I doing?!" but when you get back home after a shower, you feel great.

 

In fact exercise is a wonderful idea when your feeling low. Its a horrible concept when you are pushing yourself to get out of bed, nevermind doing pushups, but it is possibly the best feeling in the world. You feel fresh, and truely like you can do absolutely anything.

 

I mean going from a state of low self esteem to exercising is quite a feat, isnt it?

 

I wouldnt recommend this until your at least feeling a bit more confident, but possibly talk to a guy you like or something. And be confident about that. It may be a bad idea because if it didnt work out then you may feel even worse, but if you feel up for it and open minded to the results, give it a try.

 

So bottom line, theres always something new to do with your day, its a wide world full of cheap opportunities.

^Well said. :)

 

I went snowboarding the other day, and even though I'm absolute crap at it and fell way too many times, I felt quite confident afterwards. :smug:

 

Now I wanna buy a skateboard! haha

Good example, even if your shit at the new thing you try (No offense Alyssa! tehehe), you can still feel like a new person for daring to try it.

Or you turn out to be really good at it, which really boosts your confidence!!

Haha, yup!

 

It's a win/win situation! :blush:

Listening to everything's not lost always boosts my self-esteem...

 

I find that going shopping or out with your friends helps sometimes... but if you're really down on yourself... having a boyfriend could help.

 

I don't know I'm not very good at giving this kind of advice.

 

 

Don't mean to start something...but for those of you who DON'T know. . . having a boyfriend when you have low self-esteem is a baddie bad thing. I mean, how are you going out with someone if you don't even love yourself enough to see the good qualities. AND when a break-up follows, you will feel MORE like trash and nothing. It will be dozens of miles worse than before (your self-esteem)

 

Don't

do

it

I didnt notice the boyfriend comment earlier, but if I had, I would have quoted it and gave the same advice as Crystal (No honestly, I would).

 

Having another half of you can make you feel really good, but great highs can often be followed by great lows, and that just about sums up a relationship.

 

For a relationship, you need to be at a very stable point in your life, otherwise, it can lead to a crippling disaster.

 

But dont let it put you off boys, just, if a guy has kinda been after you for a while, dont jump at him as a boyfriend figure, because that needs to be a pure instinct instead of the result of a weak heart...

My key to self confidence: Try something new.

 

It'll always make you feel better about yourself, make you feel like you can do anything, and its always easy to find something to do.

 

You could try cooking something difficult. Or if you dont read much, read a novel, in big chunks, it feels incredibly rewarding sometimes. You could exercise, going for a BIG run, until you're really tired. It feels lame when you first get out on the road like "What am I doing?!" but when you get back home after a shower, you feel great.

 

In fact exercise is a wonderful idea when your feeling low. Its a horrible concept when you are pushing yourself to get out of bed, nevermind doing pushups, but it is possibly the best feeling in the world. You feel fresh, and truely like you can do absolutely anything.

 

I mean going from a state of low self esteem to exercising is quite a feat, isnt it?

 

I wouldnt recommend this until your at least feeling a bit more confident, but possibly talk to a guy you like or something. And be confident about that. It may be a bad idea because if it didnt work out then you may feel even worse, but if you feel up for it and open minded to the results, give it a try.

 

So bottom line, theres always something new to do with your day, its a wide world full of cheap opportunities.

If I had the printer online I'd frame this post.

Thanks Burns, but its basically the old "The world is full of opportunity!" preaching bullshit that has been said a thousand times before.

 

But the difference is, I acknowledge that the world is limited in opportunities, by money.

 

I cant go snowboarding tomorow, I cant go kite-flying, because I dont have enough money. But, I could buy a 2nd hand book for £3.

 

And, if you look hard for the thing thats new and exciting, and find it, it can often feel just as good as anything you can imagine.

 

Everything you do is simply removed from reality and inside your head and you decide how that affects you.

I'm not usually self-confident. But if I do have one little ounce of it, there's always something that knocks it down...

Pixie, you seem like the type who needs something thats stimulating, by the minute.

 

It doesnt always come like that, you have to feel good about the things that may not stick out like a freakin golden thorn. Sometimes you have to take a step back and look at the simpler things.

 

Sometimes its good to just sit and think, and try and get past the burrowing thoughts that at first scare you when you're faced with yourself, alone.

 

If I was a doctor, which I am, I'd recommend you a night of not sleeping, thinking, followed by a day, of thinking, and casual interuptions by friends and family. And get a good rest about 10pm the next day, when you'll feel greatful to crawl into your bed, really appreciating the splendours of life.

 

And Im not a doctor.

 

And I sound like a damn scientologist.

 

And I am in love, even if I dont want to be, Lord help me.

 

Good day.

Be in love is not that bad,well depends on the girl you fallen in love.

 

I had problems with my confidence,cause I used to think I was good in a lot of things.But I learn a lesson.

 

You can fail and is not that bad,as long as you keep trying.

 

Now I see my problems and the world different.

Reilly is so wise....

 

 

PS. It's Annie

:laugh3: Yes, call me Annie.

 

 

And Reilly is very wise.

This is a excellent link

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/confidence/learn/

Sorry Annie, guess I coulda looked at your sig haha ;)

 

And thanks guys, but I was very drunk when I wrote everything in this topic, especially this:

 

Pixie, you seem like the type who needs something thats stimulating, by the minute.

 

It doesnt always come like that, you have to feel good about the things that may not stick out like a freakin golden thorn. Sometimes you have to take a step back and look at the simpler things.

 

Sometimes its good to just sit and think, and try and get past the burrowing thoughts that at first scare you when you're faced with yourself, alone.

 

If I was a doctor, which I am, I'd recommend you a night of not sleeping, thinking, followed by a day, of thinking, and casual interuptions by friends and family. And get a good rest about 10pm the next day, when you'll feel greatful to crawl into your bed, really appreciating the splendours of life.

 

And Im not a doctor.

 

And I sound like a damn scientologist.

 

And I am in love, even if I dont want to be, Lord help me.

 

Good day.

 

Good lord, I was out of it.

I hate it when I write something really stupid when I am out of it and then read back .... but sometimes it shows your true inner feelings which you might not even realize when you're not out of it.