Do you ever feel really pressured by the people around you to succeed or do something or whatever? How do you tell them to back the fuck off??! Seriously. My dad is driving me nuts with this college bullshit. I know he wants me to succeed and blah blah, but I mean, there's no need to scream at me and hurt my feelings just because I'm not living up to is expectations, which are ridiculously high.

 

OK, I do GREAT in school. I'm not bragging or anything it's just that I do really good. I make good grades and everything. And I do a lot of things outside of school too, but is that enough for him? NO. I fail one--ONE--test and my life is over. He DIVES off the deep end and screams, "YOU CAN'T GET INTO COLLEGE WHEN YOU FAIL TESTS! HOW DO YOU EXPECT SURVIVE COLLEGE WITH THE STUDY HABITS YOU HAVE?! I DON'T PAY FOR YOU TO FUCK UP!"

 

But Seriously. How do I tell my loving father to calm the hell down. How can I assure him that it'll be alright and that I get to my dream college. Honestly, all the pressure he's putting on me and all the doubt that I doing good enough that he's putting in my head makes me NOT want to go to college at all. It makes me wanna say, "FUCK IT!" and run off to hollywood or somewhere and pursue a musical career or something...

 

Oh, and I'm in tenth grade.

 

HELP!

First: Have you ever attempted to talk to him about this^^^?

Not about the running off to hollywood, no.

But yes, I have. I'm always like, "You have nothing to worry about!" and I always make sure I tell him, "Oh, I got an A in English!" or whatever.

But nooo, it's never good enough. >.<

 

And I DO study. :\

what is his background anyway? Did he fail at one point or another in his schooling? Did his father pressure him?

 

Because there is no point in telling him until you know WHY he is like that.

Nah. He was good at school. Dropped out of college and joined the navy for 19 years. Retired now. Blah. But he didn't have a father figure around so I guess he's just wants to be there for me. :confused: He spoils me too. ^_^ I know he loves me and wants the best for me, but God DAMN.

That reminds me of my parents. Because most of my siblings got school captains they expect me to get it too. And my brothers are like super smart and got dux and went to the best university in the state so they expect me to do that too but I'm not that good when it comes to school, I'm just average. And yeah, they always nag me about that stuff and tell me to keep the family tradition going. It is so...grrrr!!! I can't control who the school votes for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you ever feel really pressured by the people around you to succeed or do something or whatever? How do you tell them to back the fuck off??! Seriously. My dad is driving me nuts with this college bullshit. I know he wants me to succeed and blah blah, but I mean, there's no need to scream at me and hurt my feelings just because I'm not living up to is expectations, which are ridiculously high.

 

OK, I do GREAT in school. I'm not bragging or anything it's just that I do really good. I make good grades and everything. And I do a lot of things outside of school too, but is that enough for him? NO. I fail one--ONE--test and my life is over. He DIVES off the deep end and screams, "YOU CAN'T GET INTO COLLEGE WHEN YOU FAIL TESTS! HOW DO YOU EXPECT SURVIVE COLLEGE WITH THE STUDY HABITS YOU HAVE?! I DON'T PAY FOR YOU TO FUCK UP!"

 

But Seriously. How do I tell my loving father to calm the hell down. How can I assure him that it'll be alright and that I get to my dream college. Honestly, all the pressure he's putting on me and all the doubt that I doing good enough that he's putting in my head makes me NOT want to go to college at all. It makes me wanna say, "FUCK IT!" and run off to hollywood or somewhere and pursue a musical career or something...

 

Oh, and I'm in tenth grade.

 

HELP!

 

oh i know this too well. my dad's exactly the same, maybe even worse.

 

he's still driving me insane.

 

the problem is that i could do anything in the world, i would be never good enough. if other people do the same, they're brilliant if i'm doing it its ok. the same goes for my brother, i'm so so sick of it!! we could do anything in the world, he's never appreciate it. he wanted me to go to grammar school if you dont wanna say he foreced me to go. i hated it but i did quite well. he always put enormous pressure on me but theres nothing i can do about. i saw myself trying so hard for goals i never had. but once you're there everybody is doing a lot and you dont wanna be worse than them so i wasted my time for things which meant nothing to me.

 

i'm 21 and he still hasnt changed. i lived abroad and i had the best time ever. i did what i thought was right and didnt have anyone telling me which way to go. i'm back home now and he still thinks he can decide anything. he just cant. my only problem is that i might have to go to uni and i wont receive any support from the state because my parents earn to much so i do depend on them if i ever go to uni.

 

theres nothing i can do abgout it because he never listens to me. i'm quite good at discussing things with other people but not when i'm around my father. i often exactly know how i'm gonna respond but i just cant say nothing at all. i hope this will eventually change, its so sickening!

 

and yeah i would love to leave one just now. if only i could. but i'd need a job in which i earn more than the one i currently found. my boyfriend lives abroad and i miss him so much. i would love to live with him and i dont think i'd have less of chance to find a job if i was there. but my father forbids me to go there. so i need to stay here and work that i have at least enough money that i could actually live there in case i wouldnt find a job in the city or anything. but theres something holding me back. i could find the best job in the world and i wouldnt be happy if it was here. the situation at home is just getting too much. i have to go my way and make my own decissons but i just cant while i'm here.

sorry, double post. :embarassed: