So I guess there has been a similar thread, but I feel like talking to "someone" right now...

 

 

 

 

 

I'll start my time at uni in October and currently I'm searching for a flat in Bonn (the city where the uni is), because it's 70km away from my village...

 

 

so some hours ago I went to Bonn to view a flat (flat-sharing community)....actually almost everything was perfect...it's in the middle of the city, right next to the uni....and it's not THAT expensive and they said the neighbours are nice hehe....only the bathroom wasn't that nice....eheh...

 

 

well, the other girl who lives there is 10 years older than me and she already finished studying...she was nice, but uhm...

 

 

 

so now I'm torn...on the one hand I think I should take the room, because I know it's hard to find flats or rooms there...but on the other hand there is somethnig that stopd me from doing this...I don't know what it is...if it is the girl who lives there....or if it is the fact that I expected more or somethnig else....or that it was very small....or it is just the fear of leaving home....so I don't really know what it is....

 

 

 

now the question is what shall I do? Should I call them tomorrow and tell them I take the room? Or exactly the other way round because I want to keep looking for other flats and rooms (today this was my first room-viewing...).....

 

 

I don't freaking know what to do.....argh....damn it

 

 

so, what I ACTUALLY wanted to ask is:

 

 

Shall I make my decision in an emotional (I mean the first thought) way or rational?

 

 

 

:thinking:

No,finding a place to live is a very hard task,i have gone against my instincts on several occasions,and ended up with nightmare house mates...although i also reckon it sounds like fear of leaving home,as it's a natural thing really,but you would get used to it after a while.

 

Make sure you look at some others as well,cos then you will have something to compare it to,I've probably moved around about 35 times in the last ten years,and have learned the hard way,mainly cos i tend to rush things etc..

 

 

Excuse me,i think i got a bit carried away...:wacko:

Thanks Rick....:wacko:

 

 

I had the same thought....I mean viewing other places as well to compare them to each other...and yes probably it's just the fear of leaving home-...esp. in my case...I mean I live in a big and cosy house...I have a big room...I have parents who care for me and a little sister who sometimes keeps me being a child...I always took these things as a matter of course...but right now I just feel how much I'll miss these things....especially my life in this big house.....but well everyone needs their experiences..

That's okay Julia..:) yeah that is understandable then...how far away is it from your parents house? Oh and then you will need to pay,so less money for other things..:P

 

 

Oh and when i go to look at new places,i can usually tell instantly upon meeting that person,whether i will be able to get along with them,i have on a few occasions ignored that..and the people ended up being monsters..:lol:

well, it's not THAT far away......something like an hour with the car...hehe and yeah i totally forgot about the fact that life is much more careless when you live at home....that's so true...

 

I seriously need to make a decision......if I want to keep living like I do right now and go to uni by train everyday...or if I want to "grow up" and move out and start an adventure with all its advantages and disadvantages (which i better should do...I mean I'm 19 years old....)----.

 

 

hahha monsters?Wow...that must've been hard

Yeah monsters...

 

 

Yeah well you gotta move out sometime,so might as well make it now..:)..although i didn't move out till i was about 22 myself.

Yes....actually it's the best time now...but it would be soooooo much easier for me if my best-friend could come with me....actually we wanted to move out together but she won't have enough money for that....and I think 19 is a good age...;)

Oh that's a bugger..moving somewhere with your friend would have been easier i guess..

OH YES.....most definitely!

 

well, she'll go to a private uni and has to pay a lot for that, so it's understandable that she just can't move out...:(

Don't ignore your emotional side.

 

But don't ignore your rational side either.

 

I don't know what to advise, cause if you don't accept it, in a months time or so you could regret it if you don't find a better place. If your mind tells you that it's not the place for you, though, it'll be hard to get that out of your head. You should listen to it.

 

 

My completely useless contribution to this thread ;D

I guess you'll need to see more places...you need to feel good in the place that you'll live for some years

 

 

and of course If you can't find any nice place there... you can come here :wacky:

OH YES.....most definitely!

 

well, she'll go to a private uni and has to pay a lot for that, so it's understandable that she just can't move out...:(

 

 

 

Oh yeah,you cant expect her to come with you then...

@Jack: I don't think it was that useless....becâuse I think a good balance between both is not bad....but I know if I'm in such a situation I think rather want to decide in a emotional way....that just normal I guess heheh....

 

 

@Lore: awwwwwwwwwww.....what a nice offer.....so my problems are solved:wacky: hehe .....:blush:

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hope you find a nice place soon :wink:

i'd move out if i was you. however if you dont feel well about living with this girl i'd call them and tell them you dont want the room. i wouldnt be worried because shes a few years older though, this really doesnt make much of a difference.

if i were you i'd just take that flat.

you know, you're so young and it's finally the time to be all adventurous and to have your own experiences. :smug: