which one would you choose?

 

This thought just came from a random part of my mind:

 

What's worse:

A good friend/your loved one who is angry at you?

or

A friend/your loved one who is disapointed, because of you

 

Spontaneously I'd say disapointment is worse than anger, although disappointement can cause anger of course.

 

But disappointment may last longer. You won't forget it easily if someone who means a lot to you has hurt your feelings by disappointing you, because disappointment seems to happen if someone you trust proves you wrong.I think anger doesnt last that long. Anger is some kind of sudden reaction whereas disappointment might come from much deeper...

 

I really want to make up my mind about this now.

 

 

and what would you prefer:

 

to be angry or to be disappointed?

 

I'd prefer to be angry, just a sudden burst of anger and the be happy again.....this answer has just made me realise that disappointment is much stronger. Don't know if this thread is worthless after that.....but well, at least you thought about it

Anger. It tends to go away faster than disappointment.

Anger. It tends to go away faster than disappointment.

 

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What? :surprised:

is it a stupid question?

I think it's a good thread, Gitta. I'm thankfull you're making my lazy brain work a bit actually :wacky:

 

I also find dissapointement much worse than anger, for exactly the same reasons as you.

Anger comes and goes, we always upset someone lots of times in our lives. If we made someone angry it can at least mean that your existence still means a lot for someone, a friend or a lover; that your actions matter. Friendships and other relationships are made of fights too and they grow stronger with it.... as my grandpa used to say when I was little, you wouldn't be good friends if you never got angry with each other.

 

But dissapointement is a deeper feeling and lasts, as you said. When someone gets dissapointed for you that may mean that they gave up on caring for you. Your actions used to matter a lot for that person that hopefully still thought that you were a different person and would do it differently. But you didn't... so the person no longer wishes or hopes that you are that or may do that. It's less a point for you :\ Dissapointement breaks relationships....

 

It's one of my points of view.

I prefer angry

the disappointment is like the loss of confidence and become deseption

usually, when I'm angry I tend to unfairly judge the person

but when disappointed I'm sure of what it is that they've done

 

so it's easier for me to be disappointed because I'm calmer & that helps me analyze the situation better.

angry, for the same reason Christina said

Angry gives you more of a rush and I never really get angry anyway. I'm pretty chilled out. Disappointment, as mentioned before, is likely to lead to better analysis and a certain level of acceptance and understanding.

 

As for the other person I would rather they were disappointed as it is easier to sort things out when not in the heat of the moment. Obviously I wouldn't want to disappoint anybody I care for though.

I've had so many disappointments I Have to try and not get excited for stuff.

also I have this thing where I Feel awful for ages if I Let someone down.

I Say disappointment anyway

disappointment seems worse especially when your parents say it to you because anger will go away but disappointment seems to stay for a lot longer

 

but i'd rather be angry .

yeah talking of weak disappointments I usually don't get too excited about stuff just because I don't want to be disappointed afterwards.....I believe in things when they actually happen most of the time...

I think anger is the lesser of those two evils. It seems much shallower, especially if it's caused by some small mistake in something we did. But disappointment runs deep because it means that we've done something (in the other's eyes) that was totally unexpected and totally damaged their faith in us.

 

I'd rather be angry.

Angry. Anger doesn't hurt so much. But disappointment does. Really does.

If a person comes up to me and go 'I'm angry at you', I might be disturbed.

 

But if a person comes up to me and says 'I'm disappointed with your attitude and what you do', it might hit me worse than the anger one.

 

I don't know. All I know that both of it can kinda hurt a person's feelings.

angry, make up sex is very good xD (is said to me o.O)

angry, make up sex is very good xD (is said to me o.O)

 

Yeah, disappointment sex blows.

And not literally.

Is it just me, or is it a rising number of threads that end up being about something sexual?

It's not just you.

I don't think it's explicit in this case though. Apologies if anybody thought it was.

Disappointment is worse in my eyes, to me that kinda means I've let someone down, which I really dislike doing.

 

So I'd pick anger.

Yeah, disappointment sex blows.

And not literally.

 

This is something typically male.

the girls in general when they are angry or disappointed become that's broken or I do not know.

but it depends on the story that created the anger or disappointed.

This is something typically male.

the girls in general when they are angry or disappointed become that's broken or I do not know.

but it depends on the story that created the anger or disappointed.

 

The post wasn't serious.

I wouldn't ever have sex with somebody who was disappointed with me. My only aim is to please, not sort myself of.

 

 

Now the thread is about sex :p

Angry because I could easily forget what happened, and I'm able to let my feelings out as opposed to being disappointed; I might just collapse inside.

I'd rather them be angry with me. I can't stand disappointing people/