It's weird when you think a friend might have killed themselves.

 

Kind of worried.

 

Just made a Facebook status saying 'Goodbye everyone x'.

 

He's recently moved away to be with a girl at short notice. They were almost together for a long time but she was a bit messed up so they were always nearly getting together but then they didn't because she would say no at the last minute. Anyway, about two months ago they went out for a couple of days and then she broke up with him and he was suicidal. Then today he made the following status:

 

“If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”

― Bob Marley

 

Now he's just made the goodbye one and we can't contact him. What should we do?

Just had confirmation that they have broken up.

Could kinda do with some quick fire answer here peeps.

Would have made a poll but a bit busy ringing round.

can you contact someone from his family or something?

doesn't look good... I don't know what to say

I'm talking to his closest friend about possibly of ringing his Mum or his work (his work is a hotel where he lives), though I don't have either numbers.

 

He's the drummer in my band.

A call to 101 possibly?

What's the protocol with that? I've no experience with it.

me neither, but it seems a good halfway house between ringing in an emergency and doing nothing

Good call.

Though he's not in my local area so that might not work. I wish I knew exactly where he worked or had a family members number.

Try it anyway I'd say

His work said he went to his girlfriend's graduation (uni) at 8.30 tonight. (currently 11.07)

Did he arrive there? is the graduation still going on?

He just texted saying he was on his way home. Not sure if that's to the hotel or back home with his Mum or his Dad.

 

Thank fuck for that. Thanks for the advice guys. Appreciated.

Very true.

phew! Glad that this turned out well.

Hmmm

 

It turns out the message (sent to his best friend, bassist in our band) was 'don't worry I'm going home, you should forget about me... I love you I'm sorry xx'

 

Now I'm less relieved.

:/ someone should talk to him asap I think

This sounds bad... :\ I hope things turn out alright.

OK, so someone got through to him and he's taking it really badly and is drunk on a bench in the town where he works. Gonna drive up I think. Hour and half away and it'll be middle of night before I see him but wanna get him home. Phone cut off mid sentence so his phone may be out of battery or signal so friend is trying to ring him again and find out exactly where he is before we go.

It's only just occured to me he never drinks, so him being drunk is not the norm. Not actually sure if he's ever been drunk before.

Just went through the thread. Your friend needs help, I would say that driving up to him is a good idea. Maybe bring his best friend with you? Because he can try to keep contact with him while you drive, and also he probably knows more about him than you do...

Damn. I think that's the right choice Braddock

I hope you find him and be able to get him home

Closest friend lives an hour in other direction so that wouldn't be possible. Me and another friend can go though. He wants to get back home and his plan is to drive back when he has sobered up. He's sitting on a bench waiting to sober up. Can't get through to him as it keeps going to answer machine - dodgy signal where he is. As it stands still don't even know where he is exactly.

 

Other friend who has spoken to him says he sounds like he's coherent. Since he wants to get home I see this as a good sign that he's not going to do anything serious.

 

Closest friend just text this second and she said that she got a laugh out of him and he said he'd get a grip and call back soon.

Are you going to drive up to him now?