"Hello!"

 

"Hi!"

 

"How have you been doing?!"

 

"I have been just great! And you?"

 

"Oh, you know...I have been alright..."

 

 

"Well....I have to go now. But it was really nice to see you!"

 

"Yeah, same here...Bye!"

 

 

*exchange akward hugs/kisses*

 

 

 

 

 

If I could avoid these situations that I come across everyday...I would.

 

 

They are just like, random scenes in a movie. Like, if they weren't there..I would not miss them..

 

I know many of you encounter them everyday...formalities. Saying Hello and Goodbye to many people. Some you may wish you never had to say anything to. But certain social situations bring you there.

 

 

 

And at times, I could be facing a huge and ugly situation in my life...and basically, it could be like, the worst day in my life.

BUT even still, If I see (an aquaintance or someone) on the street approaching me, I have to force a smile and have one of those forced and akward exchanges.

 

And of course, I most usually say something like: 'I'm fine'

or if it's a really bad day 'O You know, I am alive...you have to be greatfull'

 

you know how it goes....

 

 

In anycase, I always end up feeling bad or worse because I feel like these encounters and the words exchanged are lies!

 

 

Because no one really says what's on their mind to people when the greet eachother (unless it really is the truth, but most of the time..its too general to be true)

 

 

No one says, "Yeah man, my marriage is on the rocks, and I think my wife/husband is leaving me...I won't get custody..."

 

If you said something like that, the receiver of that news will prolly feel weirded out...So they really want lies or a very far off answer so as to avoid truths.

 

 

I would rather know people's secrets, or the things that are really going on, you know, the truth?

 

But no one says these things.

 

 

I would love it if one day, when greeting someone...they would just spill it to me. I think then I would know that life ... is there.

 

 

not lies.

"Hello!"

 

"Hi!"

 

"How have you been doing?!"

 

"I have been just great! And you?"

 

"Oh, you know...I have been alright..."

 

 

"Well....I have to go now. But it was really nice to see you!"

 

"Yeah, same here...Bye!"

 

 

This sums up MSN Messenger pretty well....

 

I hate going on there and having that conversation. Mostly cause when you ask what someone's been up to, they don't even tell you. They could have saved 300 people's lives and they'd still say "oh, nothin' much..."

 

Annoys the hell outta me.

Damn, I hate it. Let's not be so banal whores.

the almost whole coldplaying is like this

 

especially n00bs

Yeah almost all coldplaying. This thread is exception, bliss.

why it would be an exception???

Because we're not talking like this right now, I guess.....It's complicated.

I completely agree. Far too much of this kind of thing goes on. There are times when it's unavoidable, of course, but otherwise I try to steer clear of it.:thinking:

fuck this! every thread is becoming a pointless conversation...just wait till someone will start this here as well

And what do you, Nik, think people should discuss here in the lounge?..It's normal for people to communicate in this way so feel free and talk about nothing.

some threads remind me of kindergarden

 

lolololololololololol

Really?..I don't even remember my kindergarden...And what's so funny about that? Everything annoys me today.

We always want that other people think the same way that we think,and that is IMPOSSIBLE!

 

If people wants to talk about nothing in particular,they can do it here,as long they do not offend other people

Hi boardies. Nice weather we're having, eh?

We always want that other people think the same way that we think,and that is IMPOSSIBLE!

 

If people wants to talk about nothing in particular,they can do it here,as long they do not offend other people

 

I agree with that, too!;)

Well I guess it can get a bit old....:lol:

First off, YOU'RE the coolest :thumbsup:

 

 

Hi boardies. Nice weather we're having' date=' eh?[/quote']

 

 

 

Okay, now to the juice.

 

 

 

I don't know anyway of changing these encounters. Other that to try and spice things up a bit. Today...I went and took some baby steps.

 

 

 

I am new at my place of work. So I still have that chance to make impressions of how I am with people. And I did. When co-workers would ask me how I was. I would search for the right words...And really think about how I felt. <<< by the way, I think people are lazy when they can't think of anything better that "I'm Fine."

 

 

 

THINK people.

 

And I gave it to them as simple and truthful as our code of ethics at work allows :wink:

 

 

Little by little, I hope that (even if they don't like the way I come off) people can get used to the way I change these social norms. Even if it is just in my part of the world.

 

 

In the very least ... if things get screwy... I will at least feel honest with myself and not so weird when I exchange formalities.

 

 

That is important to me.

 

 

I dunno about you all folks (ya'll) But I want things to CHANGE.

 

 

Because I suppose, you can't avoid these situations all together ... you have to deal with them. And I for one ...need the change.

 

:sunny: Crystal :sunny:

The thing is that you are expecting people to be open to you...but they won't be open to you until you are open to them. There's a lot of people who like me simply don't want to talk about the day they are having, the drama and oh the troubles life brings and balbla:rolleyes: but talk about something else that might make you honestly smile or laugh or simply feel better without having to mention anything of the bad stuff although they might get to tell you that after they feel better and laugh it off and balblaa. Plus, it's annoying and well no it's not annoying to talk about how you are feeling but it ruins your day and the day for the other person most of the time.. But Most of the time (I'm getting annoying with "most of the times" now :laugh3: ) is about giving the chance and be willing to wait for the other person to be open to you. I dislike people who tell you something "secretive" and then expect you to tell them something secretive back too :dozey: Hmm let's see anything else.. about the hugs.. I don't give hugs..and I don't like to randomly be touched. No one should touch you unless you let them to because who the hell do they think they are? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm anything else:thinking: I think that's about it.

Hi boardies. Nice weather we're having' date=' eh?[/quote']

 

yes nice weather, Henry:laugh3:

First off, YOU'RE the coolest :thumbsup:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Okay, now to the juice.

 

 

 

I don't know anyway of changing these encounters. Other that to try and spice things up a bit. Today...I went and took some baby steps.

 

 

 

I am new at my place of work. So I still have that chance to make impressions of how I am with people. And I did. When co-workers would ask me how I was. I would search for the right words...And really think about how I felt. <<< by the way, I think people are lazy when they can't think of anything better that "I'm Fine."

 

 

 

THINK people.

 

And I gave it to them as simple and truthful as our code of ethics at work allows :wink:

 

 

Little by little, I hope that (even if they don't like the way I come off) people can get used to the way I change these social norms. Even if it is just in my part of the world.

 

 

In the very least ... if things get screwy... I will at least feel honest with myself and not so weird when I exchange formalities.

 

 

That is important to me.

 

 

I dunno about you all folks (ya'll) But I want things to CHANGE.

 

 

Because I suppose, you can't avoid these situations all together ... you have to deal with them. And I for one ...need the change.

 

:sunny: Crystal :sunny:

 

Just don't become one of those people who go on and on and on about certain things. People are gonna start running away from you and plus it's annoying :wink:

Just don't become one of those people who go on and on and on about certain things. People are gonna start running away from you and plus it's annoying :wink:

 

 

i know where the fine line of intimate things to say and not to say is drawn. And I know when to keep my mouth shut. Always. I am not a talker.

 

The only thing I will fix is toooo general and vaugue answers.

well good luck in getting across okay

:thumbsup:

so yeah.. how are you?:laugh3: and before you ask me.. yes I'm about to leave..:laugh3: :P

Oh dear you did not just ask that....:lol:

 

But what's wrong in asking those questions,what if I want to know how a person is,and how their life is going I am going to ask those questions...