^I don't wanna live alone too!!!

I 'm looking for love too, as everyone on Earth!!

But I'm so complicated that I had so few girlfriends....

I know I'll find the one...

I don´t want to live alone either! But sometimes people are so frustrating, some of them can´t stop talking and questioning everything and makes me want to disappear or make them disappear which would be better.

I also know there must be someone for me out there, who might be as complicated as me, but I haven´t found him yet.

Are you a loner? Would you like to be?

 

The logic of a loner is that they maybe can have friends, but for the most part they enjoy living life completely on their own terms.

 

The idea of this comes from Crystal, who makes some interesting points about how she feels its really good to be on your own. I'll quote one post:

 

This is reasonable..the wanting to live alone. I have gone to movies with friends, and I have (most recently) gone to movies alone. Alone, I enjoy a movie ten times better. I get to pick it, I pick the seat, I pick when and where. And If I don't like the film, I can just leave all of these things are an amazing relief.

 

I have gotten tired of always having to do and go out when it is most convenient for anyone else. If I have to be spending MY money and MY time...I should at least make it worthwhile.

 

I can sympathyse with the idea, sometimes I feel like just going somewhere alone because it can be hassle. I live my whole life inviting people to go places with me and then end up having to wait for them and hear about their situation blah blah blah, and sometimes they can become completely ungrateful in acknowledging that I could've just gone alone.

 

But at the end of the day I'm too much of a social creature, maybe once in a blue moon I'll feel like going to a restaurant alone, but I do like someone there to chat with, the same with going to the movies, it would be shit if theres nobody there to make conversation with.

 

In fact, for me, I dont even go to see the movie, I go to have the company of a friend with me, pretty much, and the movie is just kinda there.

 

But I can see Crystals point. Discuss.

 

 

Hmm well I am a loner and that's how I've always been and will probably never change. I tried to change it but I freak out and get really moody and I just really need my alone time in a day. I was born into a family of 5 boys! My mother had a very complicated pregnancy with me in which we both almost died when she was giving birth to me. So you can just imagine how everyone was when they found out it was a girl and we were both healthy. The first and only girl of the family.. everyone was obsessed with me. (I know what does this has to do with the topic.. I'm getting there:P ) My family was too obsessed with me that talking wasn't really necessary for me until teachers started to have problems with me because I just simply wouldn't respond to whatever they were asking me until my family started to ignored me and getting me to talk. Anyway, when you have so many people looking after you and caring for you and doing things for you and so on..naturally there's a sense of desperation in wanting to break out and well allow you to grow up and wanting to be alone. My friend's mom (the one who passed away a few months back) said to me that she couldn't ever see me doing something bad even if she was seeing it with her eyes..because I was almost like angel something too good, too innocent that doesn't exit because it's not real. I wasn't quite sure whether to be flattered that she said I was like an angel or to be offended that she said I wasn't real. She couldn't understand really.. It is why I don't really feel the need to try and impress someone (which to me is simply not allowing to be yourself because you are pretending to be something or someone that it is not you) or if someone doesn't pay attention to me or even if someone doesn't like me. I simply do not care for what other people think of me. I don't have hate for people.. when I meet someone I'm just being myself and not really worrying on whethere they are going to like me or not. I'm not scared to be seen alone or to be alone. I find that people just want to be liked and they are too scared to end up alone. They want someone to have there with them, to be with them that it then it becomes something to depend on. I'm not saying that you shouldn't meet people:laugh3: :P just not to be scared to be alone or even to end up alone. Everyone is looking for love.. their other half.. yes it true, it can happen but what happens when they are gone before you? What do you do when you are left alone?

I can see how your birth situation ended up molding your family ..

 

that is natural.

 

It really is crazy to see the dynamics of family lives and how they mold us into our characters.

 

(i.e... my big ol family has just worn me out and I am ready for the life of an independent person!)

I think I'm actually the complete opposite of a loner. I actually hate doing things on my own! Even walking to the shop, I'd prefer to have company. I've just always been like that.

Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy spending time on my own and I do it quite a lot, but usually in the comfort of my own bedroom when there would be people in my house. I just enjoy stimulating my mind in conversation and I find that when I'm alone for too long, I over-analyse my own thoughts.

 

I just prefer good company :)

Yes but good company is hard to find!!!!

 

:lol:

Ah I've found many people whose company I enjoy, purely because they all have more than 2 brain cells :idea2: oh and they have to have a sense of humour HURRAH

Last time I checked I had "two brain cells left" So can i join you then?

 

:lol:

Of course you can Rick, we frequently indulge in conversations :lol: I thought your company would be a given! :laugh4:

Why did you think that Fiona?? :P

 

Oh dear I just had another beer and lost one of my brain cells...one down one to go..:lol:

Because you're an online acquaintance Rick :laugh4:

 

Oh drinking already...yay bring on the drunken conversations! What time is it in NZ Rick?

Oh of course..:dozey:

 

The time is now 10:11pm but I wont get too drunk,cos I have work at 7am in the morning...

Ah so you're 11 hours ahead! I didn't know that. Gah I'm stuck in work now trying to look busy even though I actually have loads to be doing :dozey:

Oh so you are posting at work..:sneaky:

 

What kind of work is it...data entry? :lol:

haha funny!....no, I'm a very important sales assistant in a very well known car company thank you very much!! :smug:

 

Hard work here you know!

Wow you sell cars? Amazing.

Oh sure it is feef....:P:P:P:P:P:P:P Sales are down then I assume?

 

Very well known you say..Toyota??

I don't actually sell the cars mimi, I work for the sales dept. I take care of orders and such. T'is nice :nice:

 

Oh Rick, you're a cheeky sod, you've changed the odds....if you know this song I'll buy you a llama!

 

Nope not Toyota, I care not to disclose such information to avoid stalkers :thinking:

I have no real friends. I call a few people friends but just out of need' date=' I don't like hanging out with them anymore and I feel like every word that comes out of their mouth is something stupid. Friends are useless indeed[/quote']

 

 

well, friends aren't totally useless. I have a best friend that is closer to me than my own sister. But I only have a few "real" friends. The others just help me waste time. At school when the people I hang out with start acting stupid I run off to the library. I guess that would make me a loner.

I don't actually sell the cars mimi, I work for the sales dept. I take care of orders and such. T'is nice :nice:

 

Oh Rick, you're a cheeky sod, you've changed the odds....if you know this song I'll buy you a llama!

 

Nope not Toyota, I care not to disclose such information to avoid stalkers :thinking:

 

 

I am not a cheeky sod thank you very much,I just like a laugh thats all!! :P:P

 

Stalkers??? :lol:

i like to walk on my own, just walk with no real purpose

i like thinking on my own as well, without anyone trying to influence me or invade my brain space

 

sometimes i just need someone with me, just because

if you're with people every waking moment my guess is that youd probably start becoming them and losing who you actually are