Well, its a complicated situation. We were together a while back but it didn't work out so we decided to be friends, although I never really stopped having feelings for her. So a few months go by and I tell her I still love her, and she has a boyfriend. I tell her I'll get over it and we stay friends and end up becoming really close, closer than we could've imagined. Then a few days ago, I told her and we haven't spoken since.

 

It doesn't help that I think her boyfriend is a total dick.

perhaps she got scared because you two got close again? A lot of people get scared by being "too" close to someone, and perhaps that's why you haven't spoken yet since that day. I suggest you that you don't force her in anything, but be there for her. If her boyfriend is really a bad guy, she'll perhaps need someone whom she can trust. And let her know that she can trust you. :)

 

she knows now. but both of them should have known. she knew my deepest secrets and stuff and last year was probably the worst time in my life, and i told her what was happeneing and why and i thought she would realise i needed someone... and she did know, but chose not to act.

 

and him... don't get me started... it just repulses me the way it all happened with the two of them going it. fucking disgusting. the worms....

mhm... i believe you that it is disgusting; i mean - she was aware that you liked her and he was your best friend; and yet they got together?!? yuck!! no doubt that your friendship is now ruined - their loss, not yours. But you know that you're worth of something greater, and they're definitely not even close to being great!

yeah. thanks nina :)

fuck it still makes me so angry. that bitch. and then him telling me about them having sex while i still hadn't told him i liked her was one of the most haunting moments ever, i'm getting the shivers right now typing about it...

I'm in love with a friend. She has a boyfriend whom she's happy with. Now she knows, we haven't spoken, and I haven't a clue what to do.

 

i know this first hand. a friend of mine confessed he'd falling in love with me and it made everything between us so very awkward. there was months of no communication. it was extremely unbearable but we've both gotten over it and now we're the best of friend once again. we definitely have a love/hate relationship that distance nor time has yet to affect. he's the one person in the world who's opinion can cut through me like a knife or make my year.

 

^ and that situation Josh, goodness. i had something similar happen to me but in a different way, if that makes sense :/ the very thought makes me s i c k .

Eglantine and Starskay, thank you for your words. They made me feel a bit better :)

 

But I still don't know whether to try and talk to her again when I know things will be extremely awkward or just give it time? :(

do it now i say, given it time can only make things worse. sort it as soon as you are able to, but don't force yourself i say, let it come naturally ;)

ouch Josh, I can't believe she'd really done that. :veryangry: things like that just piss me off. some people are really insensitive!

 

Sheepish, choose the middle way - don't force something because the result may not be good, but don't give it too much time.

Thanks Josh and Nina? (Hope I got the names right). Its much appreciated.

yeah. well shes not part of my life anymore. i just cant wait to get out of school so i never have to see her again

 

my sister was watching a movie tonight and i went down to talk to her and i heard the following lines, and its so what i want to say to the girl...

 

Girl - "i'm sorry i never meant to hurt you..."

Guy- "Newsflash! you didn't hurt me.... you killed me."

Yep, Sheepish, I'm Nina. Btw, I just noticed that we both have written the latin names of our cities. Well, I've written the river! :laugh3: I wish you good luck with solving problems with that girl. :)

 

 

Yeah Josh, i understand you. It must be really hard trying to live normally and forget everything if you see her each day or so. It will be much better in a few months, you see. Btw, when do you get out of it?

Those lines are sad... too sad. *hugs Josh*

i finish in late october then i only have to be at school for exams and they finish on the 15th i think for me. no more seeing either of them!

Oh yeah, haha. So you're from Ajdovscina I presume? I'm Matt btw nice to meet you :)

got to go to bed matt and nina. its been great talking!

i finish in late october then i only have to be at school for exams and they finish on the 15th i think for me. no more seeing either of them!

pctober will come soon. time's passing by so quickly, so there are no worries... =) okay, good night, Josh! Sleep well!

 

Yes, Matt, I'm from Ajdovščina. :) You're the first person who guessed that! :cool:

Yes, Matt, I'm from Ajdovščina. :) You're the first person who guessed that! :cool:

 

Haha, go me. I'm studying geography so I should know it! :P

Haha, go me. I'm studying geography so I should know it! :P

lol Interesting. My city has more of the historical meaning than geographic. Either way, I'm really amazed that someone from a big country knows a small town of a small country.

Hmm, if I'm not mistaken, your city has something to do with a castle surrounding it?

 

Ha, I'm such a nerd! :tongue:

Hmm, if I'm not mistaken, your city has something to do with a castle surrounding it?

 

Ha, I'm such a nerd! :tongue:

hehe... nope, it's not a castle, but it is an ancient fortress used for defending the Roman empire from barbarians. Now there are only two towers left of it, and the wall is almost completely ruined.

And no, you're not a nerd, you're just an educated person! :)

Ah, well I was semi-right. It sounds like an interesting place you live in :)

 

And thank you :D

Hey there... I've been thinking about opening this thread for quite a while. Lately i've been experiencing some "friends problems" and at the end everything clearly shows who's my real friend and who is not.

 

But anyway, I'm not opening this to moan about things that are happening to me, but just to ask you something, and discuss it. What would you say to a girl who you though she was your friend but in the end she was acting just like the rest - grinning and rolling her eyes when you said something stupid, but every now and then being so sweet, asking you about your personal life after saying that she was not your friend but merely an acquaintance?

 

 

how to simply, in a politely way but with a bitchy voice say that you've had enough of this kind of behaviour? Or would just be better to ignore that - but in my case this is impossible because we're in the same circle of friends - and here it goes again.

 

There must be a reason she's rolling her eyes when she looks away and she's pretending you are just an acquaintance to her when she's talking to other people. I'm not saying that it's your fault. I mean that she must FEEL like she has a real reason to feel that way. If you can find out that reason then you can avoid the problem hopefully without affecting your other friends.

 

Instead of just saying "what's wrong with you?" (which you said you don't want to say anyway) just ask her why she does what she does. Be specific. Ask her, "why did you tell [x] that we are just acquaintances?" Make it obvious that you noticed and that you aren't afraid of losing her as a friend, but since you want to be as kind as possible just don't grab her by the arm and tell her that.

 

Once you know why she said that, then you have some juice. If she has a stupid reason, like she's jealous that a boy looks at you, now you have something to use against her in the war of popularity :devil:

I don't know if you wanted any advice or not but I gave you some cuz that's what you asked for :uhoh: :tongue:

Ah, well I was semi-right. It sounds like an interesting place you live in :)

 

And thank you :D

It really isn't bad, you know. Greenery all around, shopping centres aren't far (though they're poor), the only bad thing is that we're still far away from the rest of the country (no direct highway or railway connection to Ljubljana), only to Italy. If you need anything to know about it, you know where you can find me. :)

 

 

Andrea, thank you for answering. She's been rolling her eyes since I remember (we've been schoolmates for 12 years, and also friends for 2 or 3 years). She told me that I was just an acquaintance of hers when I asked her why everyone else was informed by a concert except me (and a friend). And after a few words more she said to me the thing that was already mentioned.

 

As for popularity, she's the one who gets the attention of others - not in that kind of way when everyone's looking at her, but more like "I think she's cool, so I won't hang out with Nina." And she has a boyfriend, and I do not (not that i'd be bothered by this).

Btw, are those the lyrics of a song? What's its name?

 

ha! yeah haha it's by The Fray - How to save a life:lol:

ha! yeah haha it's by The Fray - How to save a life:lol:

thankies! :cheesy: *starts downloading*

thankies! :cheesy: *starts downloading*

 

You mean to say you have never heard of that song?:confused:

You mean to say you have never heard of that song?:confused:

Yeah, that's true. I haven't heard it yet. Not that I remember hearing it... :stunned: :confused: