i hope im posting in the right section now... i dont see any hopless love forums

 

but yeah this chick i like is on aol right / and i mean i think she's into me but i cant read her very well she's confusing so to say / she looks at me all the time in class and at lunch (i mean i cant be that ugly can i) / but its like i'll talk to her and i get like 1 line answers out of her / im not much of a note passer but i passed her a note one day and seriously this was her answer and i quote- "haha... i dont know... hmm' / wtf is that / i wrote at least 4 lines and thats all i get in return / why do chicks have to do that to guys / its so lame

im doing that to a guy right now.. and he doesnt get the message

i hug him everyday and then i told him that i hoover him and i take lotsa pics of him

i know thats borderline stalker and already obsessive eh!

 

what did your note say btw? and you know what, she probably does like you because i only stare at people i like, not ugly people.. even though ... i dont think many people are ugly but if i hate them i dont think i would be staring at them

it was prolly a shit note but cmon... i put my balls on the line on that one... and get this she like just got out of a 7 month relationship with this kid... and her profile is just full of all her damn poems... she listens to dashboard confessional so shes like an emo chick but whatever i dont mind... i just wish girls weren't this emotional... it makes it so much harder on us guys (maybe i just suck with the ladies) but i need something interesting to talk about that will carry on you know? and not last 5 minutes... any suggestions

if there's one thing i've learned in my 26 years of life, it's ...

 

... don't waste your time. if you're interested and you think she's interested, be more direct, don't waste time with games. you don't have to walk up to her and say straight out "i like you. do you like me?" but you can just talk to her a lot more, be sure to be around her a lot more.

 

i'm surprised, talking to people after high school, how many time i should have done this. people like each other allthe time in high school, but you're at an age where you just aren't too sure about the opposite sex. just be direct. if worse comes to worse, always ask yourself this question: "if i was in her situation, would i mind if somebody came up an talked to me? if they were direct with me?"

 

what's the worst that can happen? she doesn't like you, you were misreading her, and she rejects you. sounds bad? it isn't. it happens all the time, and you can just tell your boys the truth: you thought you liked her, but she didn't feel the same way.

 

i guarantee you they have or will encounter the same situation at some point.

sorry cdplayer ... i guess my post didn't help much. i got off on a rant. apologies.

 

just ask her to do something with you. if she says yes, then you know she likes you. if she says no, she either doesn't like you or she's too shy to waste your time on. odds are that if she likes you then you're doing something right and some other girl will catch onto the uber-cool cdplayer vibe.

yeah im tired of all this high school drama.. but i mean obviously i try and talk to her but she never says anything back if that makes sense.. i'll say something and she just says 'awe' i hate the internet i cant tell if they're sarcastic or not.. but yeah thx for the advice i know i should be upfront but i have classes with her all year so i'd have to see her everyday - im prolly just being a whimp right now

youre so right (rf).. i want to kill my friend right now because all she does is ask me about the guy she likes and all she says is DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME..

 

and i tried to make her just ask him.. or i was going to tell the dude but she almost murdered me over the phone.. they touch each other and hang out all the time, i dont see how thats not a healthy relationship

 

and girls arent that emotional eh..

at least im not... its probably the fact that shes an emo kid and she writes poems..

im not knocking poems but did you read hers? see what shes thinking about.. i hope theyre not all sappy

hmm i feel kinda bad but this an exert from one of her novels (poems) :

 

I try to tell myself that things aren’t my fault in this relationship, but I always feel so guilty. Like I had committed a crime and I was being charged with the silent treatment. Memories of spending endless times together would roll through my puzzled head. Stupid things like sharing a fork when eating mash potatoes

 

i hope shes not on this forum! but yeah i mean how can i know if shes into me without being to direct?

and girls arent that emotional eh..

at least im not... its probably the fact that shes an emo kid and she writes poems..

im not knocking poems but did you read hers? see what shes thinking about.. i hope theyre not all sappy

 

one of the problems is that,at 15, guys and girls think they're so different ... that they're different enough to have totally different trains of thought about similar situations. this si why you get people wondeirg what the other person is thining, whether they like a person, blah blah blah ...

 

... people aren't that different, even at that age. odds are that if a girl didn't like you, you would know really quick. odds are also that if she likes you you're going to talk your way out of it because you're unsure of yourself around girls.

 

just be a little more forward. it will be a learnign experience for both of you and, bottom line, it will speed things up and you won't waste as much of your life on issues like these.

i feel so enlightened / do u have any material that will speed this process up? i.e. how i know if shes into me or not... geez that sounds so lame i cant believe im posting this

why dont you just tell her you hoover her... or ask her out.. you dont have to come on too strongly like OMG I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND IVE READ ALL YOUR POEMS

see how she reacts.. or if there isnt a reaction.. i suggest you consider her a robot

 

theres no other way else to find out.. if you ask your friends its all just speculation anyhow

loving people is so much work... and what the deal is hoover her? is that some kind of norwegian slang im not up on?

i feel so enlightened / do u have any material that will speed this process up? i.e. how i know if shes into me or not... geez that sounds so lame i cant believe im posting this

 

let's see ... you're 15 ... are your school's football games a big thing? they were at my school (central california). just something like "are you going to the football game friday?" if she says yes "that's cool, because i was hoping we could hang out together during the game and maybe do something afterwards."

 

and if she says no, then she doesn't like you or she's too shy to bother with. if she says yes then you're gold.

 

and seriously ... it's not easy, but confidence is a big thing. if you just keep in mind that your life isn't going to change whether she says yes or no then youll be fine. it's only going out once. who knows? you might start hanging out with her more and then not even like her.

 

another idea: just say something to her like "i really don't get a chance to talk to you enough around school, so i was hoping i could get your phone number and call you sometime."

 

just be natural.

um.. sorry

im used to saying that

 

... its not norwegian.. its.. something that i COULD explain but you probably wouldnt want to hear but it basically means you like/love something

another idea: just say something to her like "i really don't get a chance to talk to you enough around school, so i was hoping i could get your phone number and call you sometime."

 

dont you talk to her on aol? ... or something

lol@norwegian slang

 

:lol:

 

sorry but i'm no help at this.

another idea: just say something to her like "i really don't get a chance to talk to you enough around school, so i was hoping i could get your phone number and call you sometime."

 

dont you talk to her on aol? ... or something

 

Talking online is cool and all, but when you're online you could be maintaining conversations with 10 different people at once. When you're on the phone you have her undivided attention. Plus, going from IM'ing to phone conversations is a step up in the relationship: a way to know if she likes you, a way to show you like her, and a way to get to know her better.

plus when you talk to someone online you don't really know what kind of tone they're using.

 

i can be pissed at someone and they think i'm joking with them sometimes.

yeah i asked her to this concert... but its slightly stoopid and the ziggens... and i dont think shes into them too much... but maybe if she likes me she'll go even if she's not to keen on them... and id ask her to a game or whatever but im seriously the most boring kid you've ever met... i totally freak around chicks and dont say anything at all... i need something interesting to say to her on aol... but yeah thats pretty smooth i dont know if she's over her ex boyfriend yet but i'll play it out and see how it goes... but friggin im sure she's given bj's and i know shes done pot and booze im prolly just not enough for her

plus when you talk to someone online you don't really know what kind of tone they're using.

 

i can be pissed at someone and they think i'm joking with them sometimes.

 

this is true. gingerag doesn't know this, but i'm actually yelling this at her because i'm very, very upset at her ...

 

... or not.

i think the talking to people on the phone is a bit more intimidating if youre prone to freak outs..

when you chat online you can sort of go slower, mostly avoiding awkward silences on the phone and interuptions

yeah i would think so.

 

i hate talking on the stupid phone anyways.

stupid phone can go stupid fuck itself stupid stupid stupid!

i love stupid

heh when i talk on the phone i pace around the room / ive got some major problems - but no one has any ideas of what i should say to her right now we're not talking

why is your location girls suck?

girls dont suck.. we blow HAHA sorry