Love for me is finding that one person who you just crave to be around. They understand you, and you feel like you never have to prove anything to them. Maybe it's just me, but I always find myself giggling and blushing randomly while on the inside I feel somewhere in between my insides melting to gooey mush and the feeling I get while listening to a sweet and cheesy love song.

Haha you're right. :wacko:

 

Do you think a person must be in a relationship, have something two way, to be in love?

 

not necessarily but i do believe that the physical embodiment of love is needed to take it to the next dimension. once you have made love (and i mean really made love, not just fucked) your entire outlook on things change. whether that is regarding your emotions towards the other person, your interpretation on what you think you must do to try and extend your current happiness or indeed both.

 

i felt a love for the girl i loved before i even met her. i could just tell with the way she spoke about things. her perceptions on the world. everything about a person that you can draw from them using text on a messageboard alone. when i did meet her we went to the next level but i knew that love was inevitable before i met up with her.

Love for me is finding that one person who you just crave to be around. They understand you, and you feel like you never have to prove anything to them

 

to quote another daniel johnston lyric (he really is the best when it comes to songs about love, alongside leonard cohen) 'to understand and be understood is to be free'.

Love is just a very fancy word for sex.

Haha, I was never in a relationship before. But I think I've felt love. :\

Haha, I was never in a relationship before. But I think I've felt love. :\

 

well that is good

you are aware of it's existence and possibility (many deny it) and therefore realise that it is something you can experience again in the future hopefully

well that is good

you are aware of it's existence and possibility (many deny it) and therefore realise that it is something you can experience again in the future hopefully

 

That was in the past. Now that I'm older, I find myself guarding myself. Thinking, hesitating, before actually liking somebody, even if that somebody doesn't like me.

 

Greg, you're very insightful. :nice:

not necessarily but i do believe that the physical embodiment of love is needed to take it to the next dimension. once you have made love (and i mean really made love, not just fucked) your entire outlook on things change. whether that is regarding your emotions towards the other person, your interpretation on what you think you must do to try and extend your current happiness or indeed both.

 

i felt a love for the girl i loved before i even met her. i could just tell with the way she spoke about things. her perceptions on the world. everything about a person that you can draw from them using text on a messageboard alone. when i did meet her we went to the next level but i knew that love was inevitable before i met up with her.

I agree. Oh, I feel jealous for your future wife, because it's hard to find a guy who thinks such like you! :)

i don't think obsession is a direct by-product of love

i think some people are just obsessive and that happens alongside love

love itself is the purest thing i have ever encountered

 

The dangerous thing about being obsessive is that you may end up being possessive, too. And that's never a good thing. It'll only drive the other person away.

 

Lyvie, I agree with what Braddock said about how you just know when you're in love. Crushes make you feel all giddy and lusty and giggly, whereas love... Well, you may at often times feel giddy and giggly too, but most of the time you feel content. Like, the happiness sticks, and it comes from somewhere deep down (and not just the crotch area, if you know what I mean). :P

It's being able to be real with each other and not worry about trying to cover up your flaws in order to impress. I dunno, it's hard to describe. It's contentment.

That was in the past. Now that I'm older, I find myself guarding myself. Thinking, hesitating, before actually liking somebody, even if that somebody doesn't like me.

 

Greg, you're very insightful. :nice:

that is natural. it makes sense that you don't want to miss out on love again or get hurt. if you do find yourself in a situation where you develop feelings for a person then the best thing to do is try to keep control of what you are feeling as much as possible. try and be rational. do not let the other person take advantage of you and speak to them honestly. if they are not interested or demand to be in charge of every situation and try to play games which make you feel bad then distance yourself as the likelihood is that they do not feel the feelings you feel or at least not to the same extent.

 

the right person will share themselves with you and not feel the need to be in charge of things. it should be a union rather than a struggle for power. that is not to say that if they play hard to get or tease you a little (in a friendly way) they do not like you. it is very hard but you have to judge every single situation on its own merits. all i would suggest is try to keep hold of the things that make you happy. if you do this, whilst thinking rationally then you won't go far wrong. it is a difficult balancing act though.

 

I agree. Oh, I feel jealous for your future wife, because it's hard to find a guy who thinks such like you! :)

 

haha, well i know of quite a few people who feel the same than myself. you just have to get out there and meet them. it's just a shame there are so many people who give men a bad name :p (and indeed women)

The dangerous thing about being obsessive is that you may end up being possessive, too. And that's never a good thing. It'll only drive the other person away.

 

Lyvie, I agree with what Braddock said about how you just know when you're in love. Crushes make you feel all giddy and lusty and giggly, whereas love... Well, you may at often times feel giddy and giggly too, but most of the time you feel content. Like, the happiness sticks, and it comes from somewhere deep down (and not just the crotch area, if you know what I mean). :P

It's being able to be real with each other and not worry about trying to cover up your flaws in order to impress. I dunno, it's hard to describe. It's contentment.

 

yup

contentment is the ideal word to describe it.

that word gets overlooked a lot and i think the power of it is often lost. i think it is because people often say they are content... for the time being. and now people always link the two together. a kind of settling for something, rather than becoming one with it and letting it consume you.

 

i certainly agree with happiness sticking. this is also why people find it so overwhelming. happiness in other forms can be very brief but through love it is far different and people have to learn to deal with it.

 

 

 

haha, well i know of quite a few people who feel the same than myself. you just have to get out there and meet them. it's just a shame there are so many people who give men a bad name :p (and indeed women)

I'd really come one day, believe me ;)

I'd really come one day, believe me ;)

do check before coming then, i don't know how much longer i'll be stopping in the country.

(:laugh3: i just saw the spoiler in your sig)

do check before coming then, i don't know how much longer i'll be stopping in the country.

(:laugh3: i just saw the spoiler in your sig)

yeah, I know...but I'm not planing this year, maybe next summer or even later.

Are you planning to leave the country?

yeah, the spoiler...it was so nice that i couldn't not to post it :D

btw, you told me there is a bad version of this song, couldl you write it ;)

yeah, I know...but I'm not planing this year, maybe next summer or even later.

Are you planning to leave the country?

yeah, the spoiler...it was so nice that i couldn't not to post it :D

 

i will return in the future but i think some time soon i'm gonna need to spread my wings a little, coincidentally perhaps in order to search for love (this is not a blind search, i know where i need to go). but i'm saying too much :p

btw, you told me there is a bad version of this song, couldl you write it ;)

 

haha, no not a bad version of the song, just that i did worse things as a child compared to singing that

i will return in the future but i think some time soon i'm gonna need to spread my wings a little, coincidentally perhaps in order to search for love (this is not a blind search, i know where i need to go). but i'm saying too much :p

why? not too much, where are you willing to go? :)

that is too personal for me to discuss i am afraid

that is too personal for me to discuss i am afraid

oh, I'm sorry for bother you, then...

oh, I'm sorry for bother you, then...

 

i'm sorry. it's just not something i want to say on a messageboard in front of a lot of strangers

i'm sorry. it's just not something i want to say on a messageboard in front of a lot of strangers

yeah, i understand. your life it's just not my bussiness...

yeah, i understand. your life it's just not my bussiness...

 

i will tell you if you wish, you are not whom i'm referring to as a stranger. but this is a big messageboard and you never know who is reading. pm me about it and i'll tell you there if you want, just not on the board.

i will tell you if you wish, you are not whom i'm referring to as a stranger. but this is a big messageboard and you never know who is reading. pm me about it and i'll tell you there if you want, just not on the board.

hm..neither stranger nor friend. difficult situation :confused:

Scary. Only been in love once. And it all happened so fast. From the first day we met we started spending every spare minute together. And it felt amazing... fun, exciting, new. Just getting to know the person, getting attached. It was only 11 months ago but I still look back at that time and sigh... cause it was amazing.

 

But at the same time... Sometimes I'd sit there wondering and worrying. I'm pretty young and the odds are against it lasting. So I'd worry about how difficult it would be when (I was certain it eventually would) ended, etc etc. It's hard when you have a pessimistic type of outlook like I usually do.

 

But at the same time again... As time went on it's an odd feel cause I'm independant usually but also such a comforting and new feeling being able to share everything and knowing that no matter what this person is gonna be there to support you etc. Cheese cheese cheese but it's true.

 

It's when you can't go an hour without thinking of them. You can't go a day without speaking. You've never been as happy in your life as you are with this person. And you've never been as angry either cause your emotions are so invested in them.

 

I am rambling on and on. It's scary but it's worth it. On year in a month and probably the best year of my life.

I have never been in love I must admit... quite sad