how old are you again? I read it somewhere...but I can't remember

I don't know.

I've had one crush and then I liked my best friend, but I didn't have a crush on him, or it started the more I started to like him.. so is that considered..love?

 

For me, I always feel uncomfortable, if it's somebody that I am aware does not like me, and I know what's coming.

I don't even think it is possible to fall in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I might be totally wrong though...

I don't remember the point at which I actually fell in love. I think I vaguely remember it being quite stressful, nauseating, and anxiety-inducing. Like everything else is for me. lol.

I don't even think it is possible to fall in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I might be totally wrong though...

 

Yeah, you got a point there.

I'm not sure what it's called.

Well that question can't really be answered because it's not as if different degrees of attraction can be measured and you can be in 'love' at some point, so I think you can 'love' someone even if they don't love you. But for others to look at that it may seem a bit sad.

 

So as it's a matter of perspective anyone can be in 'love' with anything (Like a Korean man and a cushion for example).

 

But a less ridiculous situation would be a 15 year old kid who gets his first girlfriend after many unsuccessful attempts, instantly feeling they're in love and in that moment in time they are, there's no way of saying otherwise. Of course anyone would know that some time later they would laugh at the idea of it being love (Assuming like most teen relationships it won't last very long), but at the time they were, and it can't be questioned.

 

In the future though, when said kid grows up and claims 'they weren't in love' I guess we can take it that they truely weren't, but it completely relies on the persons own perspective, so I'd say technically someone can be in love with someone they don't even know, if they feel so strongly about them.

 

Although in societal terms, it's completely different. You can always look at people who claim to be in 'love' and are doing it clearly for personal reasons, money, status, desperation, there's many alterior motives. In those cases then it's different, because you can claim the person is lying to everyone or possibly even to themselves, and posing to get ahead in life/or stay content. Even then you can't say they definitely don't love someone, even the mega rich can be loveable (Which is something I can't imagine cuz if I was loaded I'd be wearing a freaking CROWN right now!).

 

Another way of looking at it is when a friend seems to instantly 'fall in love' with a partner and you feel that they may feel in love, but it won't last long. There it is though, in that moment, they're still in love, even if it's a bit premature.

 

But if a person claims to love someone and seems to have no alterior motives then to me, they're in love. Maybe a bit pathetic, but they are in love.

it is the greatest feeling i have experienced and i long for it to come back. when it leaves you, you become empty and everything loses its meaning.

 

it is ultimate contentedness, though at the same time you don't lose your drive and ambition. you know that if you died right then it would be fine and you needn't have regret.

 

it consumes you and becomes the focal point in your life, but it isn't overbearing or claustrophobic.

 

 

 

i like the daniel johnston song - love defined. he took the lyrics from the bible, and even though i am against organised religion i like this description very much.

 

 

this basically :wacky:

 

 

Being in love is just one of those things....

I wouldn't change the feeling I have that grows more and more each day. If I could feel this way everyday for the rest of my life, that would be beyond bliss.

this basically :wacky:

 

 

Being in love is just one of those things....

I wouldn't change the feeling I have that grows more and more each day. If I could feel this way everyday for the rest of my life, that would be beyond bliss.

 

awwwww :hug:

I'm 16, and there were times I believed that I was in love, but when I think of the future, what I thought as 'love' just seems so feeble.

Perhaps immense feelings, yes. Maybe not love. I don't know. Time will reveal itself.

 

The dangerous thing about being obsessive is that you may end up being possessive, too. And that's never a good thing. It'll only drive the other person away.

 

Lyvie, I agree with what Braddock said about how you just know when you're in love. Crushes make you feel all giddy and lusty and giggly, whereas love... Well, you may at often times feel giddy and giggly too, but most of the time you feel content. Like, the happiness sticks, and it comes from somewhere deep down (and not just the crotch area, if you know what I mean). :P

It's being able to be real with each other and not worry about trying to cover up your flaws in order to impress. I dunno, it's hard to describe. It's contentment.

 

I suppose everyone is a little possessive when it comes to love. Any form of love.

I agree with you. But is it possible that, instead of happiness, it's sadness? Not every relationship turns out well, and feelings can't go immediately.

 

that is natural. it makes sense that you don't want to miss out on love again or get hurt. if you do find yourself in a situation where you develop feelings for a person then the best thing to do is try to keep control of what you are feeling as much as possible. try and be rational. do not let the other person take advantage of you and speak to them honestly. if they are not interested or demand to be in charge of every situation and try to play games which make you feel bad then distance yourself as the likelihood is that they do not feel the feelings you feel or at least not to the same extent.

 

Control. That's basically it, I suppose. I too, think it's natural. It's human to protect yourself.

But sometimes can all this feelings really be controlled? Is a person telling himself/herself a lie, or are they just controlling their emotions?

 

It's scary but it's worth it.

 

I think that's the verdict. Along with contentment too. :nice:

 

Of course anyone would know that some time later they would laugh at the idea of it being love (Assuming like most teen relationships it won't last very long), but at the time they were, and it can't be questioned.

 

That's the thing. At that time, anyone could believe they're in love. But as time passes and feelings change, they could think that 'Oh no, it's not love after all'. What you feel at that point and after, could be different. Which is really the one after all?

That's the thing. At that time, anyone could believe they're in love. But as time passes and feelings change, they could think that 'Oh no, it's not love after all'. What you feel at that point and after, could be different. Which is really the one after all?

 

Like I previously stated, the latter would indeed be correct, they may have felt they are in love but weren't and everyone knows this is right. ;)

 

[/mark]

 

Used a bit of comedy there, but I did say that if someone admits that they weren't in love but at the time they felt they were, we'd generally accept that they weren't. But I see your point, at the time, if you feel you were in love with someone, looking back on it is the same thing as looking at another persons experience, you can't possibly remember just how strongly you felt.

 

Technically you were in love, but you see 'love' as being different as you grow older. When you're young, you think of love as wanting to be with someone all the time and make them feel great because you love them. But as you grow, you realise that loving a partner isn't just as easy as thinking they are great. You have to think about the future, you may really like the person now, but will it always be like that? Could the partner be capable to raise your children? Would you be able to rely on them to their half of a mortgage? It gets an awful lot more complicated.

 

Loving someone at a given time is easy, but thinking that you can love them just as much, for the rest of your life, and being 100% sure, is completely different. Maybe that's true love?

 

When you're a kid you can love someone but you'd never think about the things I've just mentioned, I guess that could be critical in defining what love is. Not just feeling an overbearing sense of emotion towards someone, but actually being able to imagine feeling that way about them forever. That's not an easy thing to imagine at any age.

I'm 16, I don't think I have to think of paying mortgages now.

 

they may have felt they are in love but weren't and everyone knows this is right.

 

This is right? You mean the fact that they weren't in love, though at that point they felt so, is right?

I'm sorry, I can be pretty blur.

 

Oh, and Mark would have loads of fullstops at the end. :P

Probably best to ignore the Mark part, it was meant to be nonsensical.

Haha sure................................:dozey:

That's par for the course. ;)

not necessarily but i do believe that the physical embodiment of love is needed to take it to the next dimension. once you have made love (and i mean really made love, not just fucked) your entire outlook on things change. whether that is regarding your emotions towards the other person, your interpretation on what you think you must do to try and extend your current happiness or indeed both.

 

Uhhh... no. Just no.

Oh god I half agree with Braddock, what becomes of me?

 

It depends on the relationship and both people involved. I do believe that intercourse in most relationships is an important part of love, but not exactly vital.

there's two aspects of a relationship

emotional and physical

if you can find someone who grasps both of those then you are set

... well for the most part

there's two aspects of a relationship

emotional and physical

if you can find someone who grasps both of those then you are set

... well for the most part

 

I see what you mean, but like you said, .........for the most part.

 

It's that simple when you're young, but there's a lot of other factors that come into consideration when you get older. To be honest it's pretty easy to love someone's personality when you first get to know them, and if they're a great fuck, then you think you love them. Totally not true because it takes a lot of time to figure out why you love their personality, and even if you actually do.

Not really that simple, for example I am one of the people that can only "grasp" (for lack of a better word) the emotional aspect in others and it hasn't really ruined anything too badly

age can be a factor in the physical aspect

obviously there are some trashy young teens out there though

When you're young, you think of love as wanting to be with someone all the time and make them feel great because you love them. But as you grow, you realise that loving a partner isn't just as easy as thinking they are great. You have to think about the future, you may really like the person now, but will it always be like that? Could the partner be capable to raise your children? Would you be able to rely on them to their half of a mortgage? It gets an awful lot more complicated.

 

Loving someone at a given time is easy, but thinking that you can love them just as much, for the rest of your life, and being 100% sure, is completely different. Maybe that's true love?

 

When you're a kid you can love someone but you'd never think about the things I've just mentioned, I guess that could be critical in defining what love is. Not just feeling an overbearing sense of emotion towards someone, but actually being able to imagine feeling that way about them forever. That's not an easy thing to imagine at any age.

 

 

 

 

YES.

 

And it's not like going, 'oh I wanna have your babiez!'. It's about being realistic. It's about knowing that you'd still feel the same way even after you've both gone through a whole lot of crap and seen each other go through the less glamorous side of being 'in love'. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, it's about sticking with each other through thick and thin.

Another aspect is loving someone's flaws, that to me is true love. When you get into a relationship, everyone has flaws, and at first you wish they didn't exist, and may even go to the extent to try and change them. But when it comes to that point where you can actually learn to accept and genuinely love someone's flaws, you know you care deeply about them, because those bad points are what makes the person who they are.

<3

Like falling off a bridge without the last part.