i just spilled my heart out to my best friend. see, in a group of 4 friends there's me, mindy, and lets say...lauren and ashley.

 

so i spilled my heart out to lauren. she's been acting really weird in the past few months. a couple months ago she said that ashley was ignoring her. everyone loves ashley, she's one of those fun loving, care-free happy people. so she changed to, so many people want to be her best friend that it leaves the rest of us standing in the dust. ashley also has SUCH a busy schedule we're haning out about 1/8 what we used to. like so little. so anyways, lauren seemed to think that ashely was mostly ignoring HER. so time passed, and laruen was becoming distant with ashley, and lauren changed. i don't know what, but it wasn't fun to be around her, and i found myself DREADING seeing her. and i shouldn't feel like that, cos she's my best friend. so i told lauren all of this, how she's changed and i don't like the person she is now but i still love her. god.

 

and also she's involved with this really fucked up senerio. her best friend is going out with my sisters ex-boyfriend. so i hear two TOTALLY different sides of the story...but thats not really involved, but it just set me off how i think she wants attention! she told me so many times it's unbeliveable that my sisters ex wants to do drugs with her...and im telling her no no it's not good and all that. gah.

 

and after i told her all this she just said "ok. ok. k. alright. im gonna go. bye"

 

i was going to cry, but my brother was in the room so i held it in :cry:

sorry for the vent.

 

now i need to face her tomorrow....what can i do about it?

aaahhhh *hugs* *hugs* :) :) :) hope it sorts itself out :)

awww thanks :) :kiss:

i avoided her mostly. or she avoided me. i was walking up the stairwell in our school and she was speaking REALLY loudly to my twin sister.

 

her: do you know that she made me cry?!

 

me thinking: *and i've cried because of the way you've been acting*

she just looked at me and walked off. and seriously, i think she's jelous of ashley. i told her that i was going to her house, she just looked at me and said "ok bye" and stalked off. and we live in the same direction!

oh, and she cries regularly anyway.

*sigh*

Friends have the up moments and down moments

 

the up moments are easy to get through, it's the down moments that makes a true best friend

yeah we've had ups and downs before. nothing ever like this between eachother. last time something like this happened with someone that was in our 'group' we had to give up our friendship :(

so yeah...i cried 2 days in a row while talking to her about it. bleh. and it's just added stress to everything else

*sigh*

*hugs*

:)

gah. i miss grade 8, when things were normal.

damn high school, it screwed everything up... :embarrased:

Friends have the up moments and down moments

 

the up moments are easy to get through, it's the down moments that makes a true best friend

 

Well said, Albie. :)

 

*hugs twin* :heart:

Friends have the up moments and down moments

 

the up moments are easy to get through, it's the down moments that makes a true best friend

 

Well said, Albie. :)

 

*hugs twin* :heart:

 

thanks :cool:

:)

gah. i miss grade 8, when things were normal.

damn high school, it screwed everything up... :embarrased:

 

Ahhhh I read everything and high school and growing up especially around age 15 leads to some really annoying and messed up stages.

 

Best friends are neither replacable or disposable, but you'll find new friends and they wont be anything like your old ones and times will be very different but they'll be cool in their own way.

 

As for Lauren and Ashley, I guess it isnt looking good. People do drift apart, its inevitable for virtually everyone to lose friends like that, but on the other hand its as if this could be just a jealous phase on Lauren's part, she might get over it and you guys will work past it. I guess we dont know yet...

 

But you never know, to me it seems like it could be just a situation that passes. Maybe you'll see Ashley more during summer? I bet she doesnt mean to lose out on your friendship, y'know.

 

Good luck mandy!

*hugs Mandy*

 

I'm going through a 'friendship fit' too... Ican feel me and my bestie just drifting apart... I don't want it to, but it feels as though I'm the only one in this friendship... Like I'm the only one who cares. I want to hold on, but its hard when I don't have the friend to hold on to it with me. :(

ok well here's an update. well we all talked. all 4 of us. but we kind of worked some things out....but not all of it. and some of it on some parts weren't completly truthful.

 

when i was talking to ashley after, she told me that she had gotton over lauren. like actually gotton over her. :( so i know things won't be the same. last time ashley experienced a change with her other friends she left them, and badaboum, came to us. but we worked some things out...but i know it will never be the same. i hope things turn out for the better...

 

 

aww pai, yeah i felt like me and mindy were the only ones that wanted to hold it together. it's their friendship that can't be fixed, but right now my relationship with ashley is good, i talked to her on just our friendship levels kind of....so hopefully things will be alright with her, it's just she's so busy. but lauren...well we don't share many friends...and she doesn't have a whole lot of other friends...but me and mindy and ashely, all of our friends are friends with eachother so we can hang out in groups.

 

but it'll never be the 4 of us again....i don't think that ashley's and lauren's friendship will last. probably turn into one of those hi/bye relationships. it kind of already is like that...

Oh that's sad. But I'm glad you guys all talked it through.

I talked to my friend yesterday night too. First she was like, 'I hope you die, cuz I'm not gonna do anything about this friendship.'

Felt like a slap across the face, after all I've done.

Then I asked her if she's sure, and then I said that its surprises me how easily she gives up-- that it shows that our friendship throughout the years haven't meant anything to her.

Then we talked some more, and somehow she felt guilty, so she took back the deathwish. And I gave her another chance to try and fix this with me. So she thanked me for that chance, and I think she's gonna try and treat me more like a friend now. I hope so. :cry: