I was thinking about this today, and how i wish i had "the gift of the gab"

 

do you think you have it?

Maybe you could explain to people what it is?

 

I'm certainly too lazy. Yes I probably could've explained it in the time its taken to write this (And definately within the time its taken to write this now) but thats just, that.

 

I think I have it.

haha well its the ability to speak well and with ease and to be witty...

 

my friend was bragging to me about having it the other day and how good he is with talkign to women.

Well it's not worth bragging about, but I have it. I'm natural at making people laugh without thinking about it much.

 

I think it's a skill that can be attained, if you just try and make yourself more comfortable around different people in new situations.

haha well its the ability to speak well and with ease and to be witty...

 

my friend was bragging to me about having it the other day and how good he is with talkign to women.

 

so when we say gift of the gab we mean regarding talking to people of the opposite sex only? or just in general?

in general

if we're speaking in general terms then i'd like to think i do. i find it easy to get on with people, speak to new people, make them laugh, have an interesting discussion, debate, etc. this is in general terms, speaking to new people, friends, etc.

i'd kill to have the gift of the gab...

Like I said Nick, its a skill you can aquire. You just kinda have to work at it, like everything else.

yeah it is...im working at it..its hard though when you have a natural problem with pronouncing many words...i was in speech therapy for 4 years when i was young. although its not very noticable anymore...except to me

Ahh people overcome things like that.

 

It's kind of intimidating when your around people who seem to naturally have gift of gab. They kind of always know the appropriate thing to say in every situation, they seem to be a natural but thats only because they've worked so hard at getting it right.

 

You may find yourself saying a few stupid things but at the end of the day its better then saying nothing.

"You may find yourself saying a few stupid things but at the end of the day its better then saying nothing."

 

i was thinking that the other day....even if you mess up or say words the wrong way, its alot better then not talking..it makes you look worse then not talking

i can make people laugh and i suppose im witty but i wouldnt say i have the gift of the gab.

its not just the gift of gab for me though, i'd kill jsut to be able to speak clearly haha...but its getting better as the months pass..in a few years it'll be even more better.

Exactly.

 

It's crazy how much people judge themselves, especially around girls. The other night me and my friend were talking to 2 girls, just briefly at a party, and he said a few things that were kind of un-funny and stupid (Generally just lame) but when they went on to talk to more people he was like "Ahh God, I really screwed that up, yet again..." but he didnt! He was just over-analysing it.

 

By saying something, anything, you at least become known to other people, and later that night we were talking to them again, he felt more comfortable and was doing fine.

 

Really its all just a matter of comfort.

Exactly.

 

It's crazy how much people judge themselves, especially around girls. The other night me and my friend were talking to 2 girls, just briefly at a party, and he said a few things that were kind of un-funny and stupid (Generally just lame) but when they went on to talk to more people he was like "Ahh God, I really screwed that up, yet again..." but he didnt! He was just over-analysing it.

 

By saying something, anything, you at least become known to other people, and later that night we were talking to them again, he felt more comfortable and was doing fine.

 

Really its all just a matter of comfort.

 

exactly...its comfort and not being shy or nervous...back in the day when i was never shy or nervous i talked just fine...now that im shy and nervous i dont...like around people im cool with i talk fine but new people or people i dont think like me i mess up alot...specialy pretty women...good thing most of them are nice and look past that.

part of my problem is im weird...so i think of dumb sarcastic thigns to say and i have to censor myself and that causes me to freez up or studder...and also lots of times i dont know how to respond..like when the hot girl who gives me rides to school said today "it only took 2 min yesterday to get there because we hit all green lights" i had no clue what to say to that so i was like "yeah, it must usualy take like 5 min when we hit the red ones" haha

Haha well, I wouldnt really respond much to that. I'd probably just say 'cool' or something. If I was in the mood for being goofy I'd probably say something about hitting baby carriage's

saying cool or yeah would come off as not caring, or calus...lol its soo complicated.oh well.

Well then mention the baby carriage's!

 

Haha I would say something like that, but only if I knew the chick well enough to know she'd laugh, not think of it as some weird sick joke. Most chicks would laugh.

she'd probably just look at me and be like "huh" if i said that....the times i make her laugh are when i do extremely dumb things on accident, like shutting my leg in the car or stuff like that...

Hahaha to be honest I can't give you too much credit for that :lol:

lol yeah....but it got her to laugh..but made me feel dumb..and it hurt

 

one problem though is my voice is different...its weird when im nervous our shy my voice is deeper and crappier sounding...so when i talk to her it sounds different then when i talk to my good friends...weird.