I'd love to sit back here and talk about how much I hate two-faced people, but the truth is, I am one.

 

I think most people are, without actually realising it. When you are talking about other people with friends or whoever, you may just find yourself saying bad things, and not even realising what you are actually saying because the person your talking about isnt in the room.

 

The truth is I wouldnt dare say about 90% of the insults I have said about people in the past, because obviously they'd dislike me (Which wouldnt be nice as usually I dont mean the things I say), and they'd probably worry about it and start thinking of ways to defend themselves.

 

I dont know why its so natural but when some people arent around it just feels so safe to speak your mind about them. I tried to put myself in the shoes of the people I talk about, so I was in my friends room earlier and put my ear against the wall because I heard my name mentioned in the next flat, but it was all I could hear was about how I'm a nice guy and stories that involved me.

 

This draws me to the conclusion that if you have bad things to even think about other people's personalities, I guess they deserve it! HAHAHA

 

HAhahahahahaha... Oh dear.

I agree, Reilly. For some time, I honestly thought in my head that I never talked crap about people. But my eyes were opened one night and I was like "Oh... I guess I did say that." And suddenly I realized how much crap I really DID talk about people.

 

I've been trying hard recently not to talk about people, though.

Maybe you just should say everything you yhink about people to their faces?I mean,If you yhink something about person,doesnt matter,good or bad,just let him or her know about it from you.

For me it's not so much that as it is I'll be in a conversation and want to lighten things up by making a joke -or- I'll spill some detail about someone that I didn't think would be personal or offensive, but they end up getting mad at me for saying it.

Haha Will you understand, thats it exactly. You dont quite realise when you are doing it, but sometimes when it gets played back to you from other people you begin to realise the amount of bad things that 'fall' from your mouth.

 

Maybe you just should say everything you yhink about people to their faces?I mean' date='If you yhink something about person,doesnt matter,good or bad,just let him or her know about it from you.[/quote']

 

Y'see the thing is I dont really mean all of the things I say, and also, sometimes its just way too cruel.

 

I'm upfront with people, really honest, but only in comparison with the average person who is usually very cowardly and sheepish when it comes to honesty. If someone asks me what I think of them, I wont hold back.

 

But otherwise, it's just pointless telling them. Obviously I dont speak badly about my best friends, because I like them of course, but its those people that are on the outskirts of our group that I only half-know but arent actual friends with, they are the ones I make fun of, and then the next day I'm having a brief chat with them. It would be pretty stupid to go up to Dave tomorow and instead of just asking him the usual about what he's up to this weekend, if hes going to footie on Friday blah blah, and just go "Hey yknow what, I have to be honest, I find your sense of humour incredibly cheesy".

 

Just wouldnt happen.

 

It's a pretty common and natural thing, all you have to do is watch something like Big Brother to see how easily it can happen.

Maybe it would be pretty stupid,but I do it sometimes haha.When I'm tired of my own two-facing,I just interrup someone,s joke,which is not funny at all for me and tell that person:hey,I hate your humor,leave me alone with oyur stupid jokes"Maybe thats why I dont have friends...:/

Maybe it would be pretty stupid' date='but I do it sometimes haha.When I'm tired of my own two-facing,I just interrup someone,s joke,which is not funny at all for me and tell that person:hey,I hate your humor,leave me alone with oyur stupid jokes"Maybe thats why I dont have friends...:/[/quote']

 

HAHAHAHAHA

 

I have done this before, you have to be brave if its just you and the other person. It's an incredibly uncomfortable and awkward feeling, but also theraputic.

Yeah you know I decided to be honest,next day came to school and told everybody what I really think about them....Now I think maybe it wasnt such a good idea...

Sometimes I have that behavior.

But with the time I change it.

I mention the things that people ask me.

I dont want to hurt the people,but if they ask my opinion I say it.

Why?

Because that's the same way I want to be treated

Hmm. I think you're definitely right. We're all two-faced, because we're all opinionated beings in some shape or form. But I think it's the measurement that makes the difference between two-faced and the thriving vulture-like two-faced people (or something). Lol. There are some people who proudly participate in this. The drama queens. Those people who are consistently in a row with others because of the things they do and say behind this one, or another one's back.

 

That must sound completely distorted... Anyway, I'm too tired to read through it to try to further a point. lol

i'm two faced, and yes i'm also a hypocrite.

but you know what, i have no issues with it.

because everyone else i associate with is too.

it's a lovely cycle.

 

i've come to the conclusion that i wouldn't really want to know what people actually thought of me

i know people bitch about me

i bitch about people too

it's part of human nature

you can't be perfectly honest

and you can't get along sickeningly well with everyone who exists

i just don't want to know what people say about me

because sometimes ignorance is really bliss.

Yeah, I'll talk about people. Esp the people I work with but I'm not fake with them afterwards! I'll talk to them, politely, for the sake of work, but I won't pretend to be their friend.

 

I recently heard someone in work had been talking about me, and it bothered me. Not because they had bitched about me, but because they were so friendly all the time.

 

If you don't like me, don't pretend you do. Y'know

Yeah, I'll talk about people. Esp the people I work with but I'm not fake with them afterwards! I'll talk to them, politely, for the sake of work, but I won't pretend to be their friend.

 

I recently heard someone in work had been talking about me, and it bothered me. Not because they had bitched about me, but because they were so friendly all the time.

 

If you don't like me, don't pretend you do. Y'know

 

 

totally agree Mim's! I am a person who well tell it like it is.. in your face, no matter what... and even more so if I like you! I mean, who can you be honest with if not your friends?? but fakers.. yeah, they get on my nerves..

Mimi's way of thinking makes sense but when I put it into practice it doesnt seem to work.

 

Gah :blank:

have you tried it whilst bouncing up and down on your left foot?? I find it works best then..

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Helpful... :shifty:

 

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