so if you could, would you help me. please.

yeah i havent been on here in a while and i have returned, but i need peoples advice, so if you could contribute, that would be absolutely WONDERFUL!

 

my parents found a note from my boyfriend talking about us having sex. so now they dont trust my boyfriend. i just need to know how he can get their trust back and how i should i act. i dont know if i should yell at them or cry or be happy and forget about it...

 

HELP ME PLEASEEEEEEE!!!!

I don't think yelling would be the best thing.

How old are you?

16

Don't have sex till you're married.

Be more careful with your notes!;)

hey now. who ever said i had sex?

Well...if you were at least 17 you could talk straight to your parents about you having sex, but being 16.....ouch

listen to Radiohead and forget this story

Yelling, screaming, and crying isn't going to do you much good. The best way to earn your parents trust is (no matter how much it hurts) to handle yourself like someone mature enough for them to trust.

 

If their problem is your boyfriend, and he can handle himself well around adults, perhaps it would be a good idea if you let them talk with him... give him a chance to reassure them that he's not a jerk. That depends totally on the personality of the guy and the parents, though.

listen to Radiohead and forget this story

that is a grand idea.

How old is your boyfriend?

that is a grand idea.

 

i don't know much about your parents, but maybe they will calm down???

 

listening to Radiohead helps in fucked up situations

*tested by me* ;)

my boyfriend is 17 almost 18

so have you had sex with him or not? maybe I should just mind my own bussiness

no its fine.

ask your boyfriend to tell your parents that you weren't having sex, you were "making love" ;)

ask your boyfriend to tell your parents that you weren't having sex' date=' you were "making love" ;)[/quote']

that would definitly help.

i just wish they were like neoparentsorwhatever and didnt care whether i had sex or not. they're so conservative. bleeeeeeeeeh.

noooooo! I won't be held responsible for any hospital bills!

Do your parents know your boyfriend?

 

Maybe the best thing is if your boyfriend can talk to your parents. I'm not sure though, honstely I don't think I would have done that when I had your age.

 

Maybe they generally think that you are too young to have a boyfriend. My parents are very conservative as well in those kinds of things, therefore they had a problem with my ex-boyfriend, whom they had just seen a few times, because they thought I was too young.

how well do you get on with your parents? can you sit down with your Mum, and explain to her?

worth talking to her, letting her know that you're not having sex, and that even if you were you'd be taking precautions.

 

plus, you have to bear in mind that you're their little girl. in the same way that we hate the thought of our parents having sex (the stork dropped me off!!!!), they also don't like the thought of their kids having sex!!

jenjie is right. Speak up with them........you, your boyfriend and your parents!

so if you could, would you help me. please.

yeah i havent been on here in a while and i have returned, but i need peoples advice, so if you could contribute, that would be absolutely WONDERFUL!

 

my parents found a note from my boyfriend talking about us having sex. so now they dont trust my boyfriend. i just need to know how he can get their trust back and how i should i act. i dont know if i should yell at them or cry or be happy and forget about it...

 

HELP ME PLEASEEEEEEE!!!!

 

 

How long have you been with your boyfriend?

 

Just like other people said, the best option could be to talk to them about this question. Sooner or later you'll practice sex with someone and your parents won't be able to do anything for stopping you... they'll have to realize that you're not that child you used to be and that you're growing, so, you'll have a complete "control" of yourself/your life in a few years.

Anyway, you're 16, so you're quite young and its normal that they were worried about you...

Don't have sex 'till you are married, that way it'll be more romantic.:curtain: