(Please, don't post a comment if you have not read and considered this fully. Any silly, or stupid/ignorant comment will be humiliated ... Thanks in advance.)

 

 

 

 

 

I am eighteen.

 

 

Being eighteen entitles you to certain priveledges...but also, there are norms set on that age.

 

People still say that you are too young to do certain things, stating that your maturity level is too low.

 

On any age, really... there are standards set with certain common ideas.

 

 

For example, wouldn't you be surprised if you heard a (say...7 year old) child using high level grammar? Or openly and confidently discussing topics concerning college level intelligence?

 

And aren't you disappointed when you hear a (say...17 year old) youth speak with low level grammar, speaking as a 7 year old child "should"?

 

I mean, I know a male who, at the age of 15 was already done with high school, and his "four" years of college (he took summer classes and skipped because he was advanced) and was working for IBM at the age of seventeen!

This was impressive for the fact that at the age of 15...most kids are still in high school, barely beginning. It's the "norm".

 

I mean, that is just it. Every age has this "norm" to fulfill... sometimes you willl find an individual who surpasses (or "fails") at those norms.

 

Like a mother with her baby... she knows that a certain months and years...her child will begin to walk (maybe at one year- to a year and a half), and learn to read at maybe 4 years old. But it could be earlier..she will never know.

It's just that idea..that most children will be able to do those things because it is common knowledge/common occurances.

 

 

Well this concept goes with other things as well.

 

 

For example. Here in the United States...the age 13 would be too young too marry, as well as up to the age of 18 (even though it is more and more common) it is still accepted as too young.

 

 

But I think people should not be too quick to judge based on age.... because like I have written earlier, sometimes, certain ages surpass the mental standards society has placed on certain ages.

 

 

I have been told that I am too young to marry, and that I should wait until I am 20 or so... (assuming they know how mature I will be at age 20..because this cannot be predicted!)

 

But you can never ever base maturity at ONE single digit. This is because you must take into consideration the lives every individual has lived.

 

Since this is a personal thread. I will say that I have lived a certain lifestyle that forced me to lose my "childhood innocence" at the mere age of 7!

Also, I, at an early age..had to learn how to run a household...and play the role of a mother to my younger sibling.

My "innocence"(sense of a child) was lost early, and I matured..more quickly than other children my age.

My intelligence is not SUPER above average, or anything like that ..its average ... but I have a different level or view (can't find the word for it) of the world ...not view... but for my age, it's surpassed the maturity of most kids my age.

 

Call it ...wisdom.

 

This is hard to explain, because none of you really know me. Take my word for it..I have been honest here.

 

 

When I am with people my age, I am bored of them..disappointed as well, because they don't have goals, or the know-how of everyday things. They don't want to work, let alone..have work ethics.

 

They speak of the now and of nothing else that is really important!

 

Those types of people do fit the norm of "age eighteen" ... the lack of maturity.

And that is where I am placed! Along with people I don't have a thing in common with but maybe gender and for certain, a digit. 18.

 

 

This upsets me to a point of madness. Because when I announce myself as eighteen year old..humans have that natural tendency in their mind due to age norms... to place ME in a maturity decficient state.

 

 

But like I said..some skins on this earth have surpassed or failed at thier age standards.

 

 

I have written enough. Let me know please, your opinion.

if you write -and think of course- those kinda things it means you are getting mature or you are already a mature :) do not consider that 18 or 20 year-old stuff much...

 

but still i find the first line inappropriate and needless...:rolleyes:

 

"(Please, don't post a comment if you have not read and considered this fully. Any silly, or stupid/ignorant comment will be humiliated ... Thanks in advance.)"

well...some people only pop in without reading everything and leave one-liners that look like this: :thumbsup: yeah thats true man.

 

 

and that is a big no no in my book!

(Please, don't post a comment if you have not read and considered this fully. Any silly, or stupid/ignorant comment will be humiliated ... Thanks in advance.)

 

 

 

 

 

I am eighteen.

 

 

Being eighteen entitles you to certain priveledges...but also, there are norms set on that age.

 

People still say that you are too young to do certain things, stating that your maturity level is too low.

 

On any age, really... there are standards set with certain common ideas.

 

 

For example, wouldn't you be surprised if you heard a (say...7 year old) child using high level grammar? Or openly and confidently discussing topics concerning college level intelligence?

 

And aren't you disappointed when you hear a (say...17 year old) youth speak with low level grammar, speaking as a 7 year old child "should"?

 

I mean, I know a male who, at the age of 15 was already done with high school, and his "four" years of college (he took summer classes and skipped because he was advanced) and was working for IBM at the age of seventeen!

This was impressive for the fact that at the age of 15...most kids are still in high school, barely beginning. It's the "norm".

 

I mean, that is just it. Every age has this "norm" to fulfill... sometimes you willl find an individual who surpasses (or "fails") at those norms.

 

Like a mother with her baby... she knows that a certain months and years...her child will begin to walk (maybe at one year- to a year and a half), and learn to read at maybe 4 years old. But it could be earlier..she will never know.

It's just that idea..that most children will be able to do those things because it is common knowledge/common occurances.

 

 

Well this concept goes with other things as well.

 

 

For example. Here in the United States...the age 13 would be too young too marry, as well as up to the age of 18 (even though it is more and more common) it is still accepted as too young.

 

 

But I think people should not be too quick to judge based on age.... because like I have written earlier, sometimes, certain ages surpass the mental standards society has placed on certain ages.

 

 

I have been told that I am too young to marry, and that I should wait until I am 20 or so... (assuming they know how mature I will be at age 20..because this cannot be predicted!)

 

But you can never ever base maturity at ONE single digit. This is because you must take into consideration the lives every individual has lived.

 

Since this is a personal thread. I will say that I have lived a certain lifestyle that forced me to lose my "childhood innocence" at the mere age of 7!

Also, I, at an early age..had to learn how to run a household...and play the role of a mother to my younger sibling.

My "innocence"(sense of a child) was lost early, and I matured..more quickly than other children my age.

My intelligence is not SUPER above average, or anything like that ..its average ... but I have a different level or view (can't find the word for it) of the world ...not view... but for my age, it's surpassed the maturity of most kids my age.

 

Call it ...wisdom.

 

This is hard to explain, because none of you really know me. Take my word for it..I have been honest here.

 

 

When I am with people my age, I am bored of them..disappointed as well, because they don't have goals, or the know-how of everyday things. They don't want to work, let alone..have work ethics.

 

They speak of the now and of nothing else that is really important!

 

Those types of people do fit the norm of "age eighteen" ... the lack of maturity.

And that is where I am placed! Along with people I don't have a thing in common with but maybe gender and for certain, a digit. 18.

 

 

This upsets me to a point of madness. Because when I announce myself as eighteen year old..humans have that natural tendency in their mind due to age norms... to place ME in a maturity decficient state.

 

 

But like I said..some skins on this earth have surpassed or failed at thier age standards.

 

 

I have written enough. Let me know please, your opinion.

 

 

Omg!!!

We have common points!!!

I lost my father when I was 3...

So my mother had to work a lot to feed us, to buy us clothes...etc.

As I've a brother, and we didn't have a nanny since I'm 8, my bruther and I should take care of us by ourselves...

Well, our grand parents were living close to us but they had a life, they couldn't be always here, taking care of us...

 

So, we learn how to cook, how to make the washing-machine works, cleaning the ground...all these stuff!

 

Now, I'm 20...As you say, Clearascrystal, the others don't think about their goals, and all that stuff they will be obliged to do in a close future...

I feel apart from the others...

I dislike go in the nightclub, dancing...Maybe I'm too serious, or maybe I'm simply too mature for my age...

 

A big event causes this change: my grand-mother's death...

She was like my mother for me...I lost the better part of my past 3 years ago...Now, I'm an other one...

Before I used to smile and laugh very often...Now I don't smile and laugh so much...I've change...really...

 

I'm not over the others...I 'm a normal guy, but I feel like someone special...I feel unfit for my age...

 

I feel like I've an house, a job and live my future life now...

I've goals:being a car designer, have a wife, maybe children, be happy, in love....like everyone...

And you know what???I really want to see how I would be in 3 years!!!!

 

So I understand you Clearascrystal!I see exactly what you mean!

That was somewhat my same situation..having to do tough adult things at a child age.

 

When I should have been playing..I was working (not like...bad child labor) but I did.

 

 

And I agree with that statement..about feeling something special...

prepared to live that life that adults take on.

 

This is a good thing :)

 

And I am glad you did find common grounds with me.

Yeah you're right, this is a really good thing!

oo, i agree.

 

i'm 15, and I should be stupid fuck. i don't think i am... honestly... heh.

 

and my friends bore me also. i always talk about things they don't care about. meh.

 

but i haven't really gone through anything that made me lose my childhood innocense (wow, i can't spell today)... i'm just different from everyone else my age, and i always have been, heh.

 

actually when i was 12, i think that's when i really started maturing... i don't know.

 

anyways, enough rambling for me... heh.

The input was useful.

 

 

Lately, that has been a big turning point for me..letting go of the friends I have outgrown.

 

It isn't a painful thing...I outgrew them ages ago...but I just now decided to do something about it.

Interesting topic!

 

I always lived and hanging with people older that me,because my brother that's older than (just a few years) and I was always behind him.

 

I do not want to sound arrogant,but many times in my school teacher want me to change the course I was taking,because they was saying that in the grade I was I can not learning more.I never did because I never felt good following directions,I think I have a problem with autority.Maybe I was more mature than the age I had.Or I was crazy,I dont know

 

For many year I feel tired of following what other people said,and I start to make my own calls,my own thoughts.

 

But after years I realize that all the time I expend really worth and now I am more mature.

 

And I like to hang out with people of differents ages and of course differents cultures.

 

You can learn a lot of young and older people

Older people are the coolest...more insight. More interesting stories..and the experience of an adult as well. THis is ideal company.

Well if you learned to read at the age of 4, then I sincerily congratulate you.

I learned at age 3 and 1/2- 4 :freak:

 

That is not abnormal here..parents teach their kids before they go into kider and prekinder.... i went into kinder at about the age 5

Older people are the coolest...more insight. More interesting stories..and the experience of an adult as well. THis is ideal company.

Oh, I beg to differ!

As a young kid I used to spend a lot of time with older people(granma', neighbours, etc), could be cuz I was a shy kid.Looking back at it from current situation, I'd definately spend more time with my peers.

Btw, are you sure that what you think is a stereotipical behaviour for a 18y/o is what other people think too?

for the most part..yes.

 

ne need to beg to differ. The opinion is yours

 

 

Grannies are no fun as a small child. I meant that for me NOW

I did not want to go to the kinder when I was a kid. hahahaha

 

I remember that I try to speak with my parents about that.They sing me up in a fancy kinder but I did wanted to go.

 

Then one of my aunt had a kindergarten next to my house,but I still did want to go.

I cry and cry all the days because I did not like the school,that is why I only take 2 years of kinder instead of 3.

Well one thing I find sad in the US laws is that one can go kill and die for his country legally but can't drink alcohol, talk about responsibility paradox to take someones life and to have a beer...

I did not want to go to the kinder when I was a kid. hahahaha

 

I remember that I try to speak with my parents about that.They sing me up in a fancy kinder but I did wanted to go.

 

Then one of my aunt had a kindergarten next to my house,but I still did want to go.

I cry and cry all the days because I did not like the school,that is why I only take 2 years of kinder instead of 3.

 

 

:laugh4: cry baby cry baby...i was glad to leave the house to play with play-do :wacko:

Well when thing I find sad in the US laws is that one can go kill and die for his country legally but can't drink alcohol' date=' talk about responsibility paradox to take someones life and to have a beer...[/quote']

 

 

This is exactly what I mean...there is an imbalance in the way age standards are set.

 

And you can get pilots lisence here at the age of 14! more dangerous than a car, I say.

In my times (ouch) there was not Play-do to play with.

 

But I did well,I and my brother and sisters learn to read before we were in the kinder.

Ok, so what do you think are differences beetwen you and a "typical" 18 year old?

Ok' date=' so what do you think are differences beetwen you and a "typical" 18 year old?[/quote']

 

 

re-read my thread, hunni :wink:

I've always been afraid of becoming adult and, even more, of being adult.

 

The world of adults for me is fake, phony world where people work, depend of money and have quarrels in their families.

 

I know that everybody grows up but I just can't, I don't want to. Some people can call me immature, I know. I mean, I'n 16 now and I mostly act like a 13-year old kid.

 

I don't care about sex, money or anything like that.

 

But I'm not immature in the way that I'm silly. No, I'm not, I act sometimes like I'm 30, I'm smart enough but I'm just childish I believe.

 

Problems of adult world don't bother me and I'm happy with it. I guees I'll be teen forever and it may be scary but not as scary as being adult.

The differences beetwen a 18 year old boy from 90's to one of this time are really huge.

 

People have change a lot.

Unfortunately for you, Lera...you will have to go into that world of adults. There is no way out but the hippie way..and you say you don't enjoy "sex" so watch out for the hippies.

 

 

Seriously. Most adults are like that...their world revoloves around money and there seems no way around it! What are they to do? Live single, no children, no work for support.

 

I see your point and wish things were different for all those entering into adulthood...but If you can tell me another way out.. You are a hero.

Obviously age isnt the best meter to judge people, but in my opinion its the only way.

 

For instance rules regarding drinking alcohol are normall at 18, 16 in other countries. That, obviously means that, according to the state you're mature enough to drink at 18, were as some are maturer at 15 then others at 18.

 

In terms of these 'norms' or generilisations, this is a different story. To say that its normal at 5 to talk, at 7 to spell, at 25 to be married is crazy. Unfortunately though, are society is dominated by these norms. You must fit in, and do what is 'normal' and what others do or else you'll stand out.