Guest Grace Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 it's just another breakdown. i'm sitting here studying for history. it's 1:38 am. yeah, i just remembered that my history teacher once tied me into knots so bad. i would never admit that in front of my friends, but i was about to cry back then. he said, i made up a new word, which was wrong after all. but yeah, never told him that "rechtsbewegung" is a word. what a fucking idiot. well, but that's not what my thread is about. this thread is about how other people are so much better than oneself. i mean, how other people are so much better than me. i look out at the world and there's those kids with their posh clothes and they have everything. they have a loving and caring family and a house with a garden...and yeah, a dog. everything's fine. the parents earn a lot of money, the kids are good at school ...blah blah blah. they're good at everything they do. they're all pretty and beautiful...and they're gonna attend the greatest unis and they'll have the best education. and then i look at myself. at my family. at my environment. at my home. i look in the mirror and all i see is that weird-looking girl that does not know where she belongs. i really wonder where i'm from. i know that those people i've described are so unreachable for me. they're in a higher class and no one of the will ever be interested in me. they just have a whole other background. they haven't seen the things that i'Ve seen and they'll never see through my eyes. hope you kinda got what i'm getting at. i guess i'll just continue studying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackchickintheback Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I feel like this a lot! Like, the kids at school have everything handed to them! I have to work for everything. Most of them wouldn't even HAVE to work a day in their lives. And there are a few people who don't even seem to try and do better than me. The POTHEAD in my Chemistry class has a better grade than me. :dozey: But you have to ignore all the negativity. Like when I feel out of place at school, I think, "Well, they can't live off of daddy's money forever. 7/10 will end up at McDonalds." And I used to feel like I was weird looking too, but I don't anymore. Like, when I first started going to school I felt that the popular kids would give me funny looks. They still do, but whatever. Like I said, I'll be a writer and they'll wait on me at McDonalds! :D And you shouldn't feel like you look weird because you're very pretty Grace! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClearAsCrystal Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 A LOT of people feel this exact way. But look at the other side of the glass. YOU don't see the lives they really live. real life: I knew a wealthy (her father is the CEO of Woodforest Bank...big bank in US). She drove THE flashiest car, had the top notch Gucci ... and she just happened to be gorgeous and intelligent...sorta. BUT what no one knew for a really long time is that she hated her life and her parents for not being around enough. Always traveling without her...too busy to give her time. And she ran away a lot...got into drugs and started banging guys for comfort... and she tried to commit suicide plenty. The family kept it to themselves and nobody even knew all these things until we didn't see her in school anymore. She was in a fucking psychiatric hospital. But that just is one case of out MANY MANY...MANY cases. It goes on a lot ... which is why you shouldn't assume things based on what you see externally. I like to assume that everyone's life is just as fucked up as mine. Might be true, might be false. But that's just it. I DON'T CARE. My life is my life and theirs is theirs. If kids want to prance all pretty with their PARENT'S money, so be it. Make something of your own life and ignore the rest. it doesn't concern you what everyone lives as. It shouldn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I think that's just life....period. But I must admit that I felt like that and that I know many people feel like that. There will always be people who you think are better than you.....I think even if you had everything (a nice car, a wealthy family.,....) you would still think others are better......because then you still only see the problems you have and maybe even wish you were like that girl next door.....who has a small car, a caring family and lives a normal life...... I think it's just the problem that other external lives seem to be better than your own life in most of the cases (except for homeless, poor, etc people of course....) and I agree with Crystal......probably those people do also have big problems....but you can't see it because of their material wealth... but you described it as if there really was a perfect family.....wealthy, living in harmony, caring, etc... I think that family doesn't even exist in real life....it would be too perfect... and now think harder.....do you really want to live like that? In my opinion life is not only about wealth and superficial perfection......there is one other important thing in life which is PERSONALITY. now this could be a quite prejudiced example but I don't think it is too far fetched.......look at all these people....even if they have a great education....do you really think they know how to manage all day life?.....How to behave in which situation.....in which COMMON situation....how to handle common problems....I don't think so..... even if they attend a superior school where they only are specialised on certain subjects.......I think they can't develop their personality as much as we as normal people do....because they seem to live in another world...in a world which is not common... I'm not sure whether this was explained logical enough to get what I mean....so I hope you get it;) I think as long as you have enough money to live and you do what you want to do you shouldn't care too much about these people.....there are and will always be problems... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 my parents are pretty rich, we do have a house and a garden, i did go to good schools and we've always had a dog. the dog's probably the only thing i wouldnt want to miss. its not all that nice. just because they were pretty rich didnt mean they supported. well my mother did and still does but she never was the one who made the decisions. so whenever i wanted to do something they didnt want me to do, i didnt get their support. i went to a so-called good school and i hated it. i was way too lazy and everyone, especially my parents put a lot of pressure on me. that also influenced my future plans a lot, everyone expected me to go to uni. almost all my former classmates are going to uni. however i wouldnt get my parents financial support if i went to uni. i wouldnt get a scholarship either because my parents earn too much. its a law in my country that your parents support you financially if they can but this wont change their decision. i know people whose parents are a lot poorer but they do get their support. i went to england when i finished school to work there. i hadnt been to the city before and i didnt know the area where i was going to live. i ended up in a poor area. however i never thought i was better than anyone just because my parents were richer and i did interact with the people who lived there. plus i was from a small village in switzerland and i didnt have a clue what richer people thought about the area and that it was considered dangerous. i did find a lot of friends and i got on better with some of them than with many people i knew since i was a kid. some of them were more interesting and more intelligent than the ones i met at grammar school. i sometimes seriously wish i had grown up there. the people who went to good school and all that dont live a better life. loads of them spend all their time studying, go to courses their parents force them to go and all that. they have to go to university whether they want to or not. they read books just because you're supposed to read them or go to the theatre even though they're not interested. i rather talk about things that interest me than things which make me sound intelligent. i feel odd. its like i dont belong to either group. the more i think about it the less i want to go to a so-called good uni because i dont think i'd be happy there and i dont think i'd meet friends for life either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc_squared Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I think the very best people "don't know where they belong". IMO, conformity is dull, and having so much money that you have no motivation in life (e.g. Paris Hilton) must be a terrible burden. There's no reason at all to envy these people - you should be thankful you're not one of them!!:cool: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 its a horrible feeling if you dont know where you belong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Grace Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 ^ true and although i'm not a filthy rich person i don't know where i belong either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 well.....isn't it just a normal phase everyone has once in their life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Grace Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 well, if it is a phase... then it's a freaking long one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 hehe well all I can say is that I have gone through this as well......especially 2 years ago.... for some reason it has changed.....don't really know why.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc_squared Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 its a horrible feeling if you dont know where you belong. Only if you allow it to be. It's far more important to know where you don't belong and what you don't want to do. The rest will take care of itself........................;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Only if you allow it to be. It's far more important to know where you don't belong and what you don't want to do. The rest will take care of itself........................;) but you will have to make decision which lead you in one or the other direction. this feeling makes it very hard to make decisions. especially because it would be so easy if you looked at rational arguments. nobody seems to understand why it isnt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 hehe well all I can say is that I have gone through this as well......especially 2 years ago.... for some reason it has changed.....don't really know why.... well its more than just a phase in my case and i dont its something i can go through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc_squared Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 but you will have to make decision which lead you in one or the other direction. this feeling makes it very hard to make decions. especially because it would be so easy if you looked at rational arguments. nobody seems to understand why it isnt. Ignore them and go with your gut instinct. It's the only way to go................ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petit Prince Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 well i know far too much to just make some decision i might regret later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byron369 Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 About this where someone belongs... There's a song from Hercules. Shooting Star http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/hercules/shootingstar.htm Anyways...I feel as if I don't belong "here" But I'm actually happy. I don't want to belong in some category. :wacky: I simply want a life of my own...where I'll belong. Even if it's a life that consists of only me...that'll make me happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc_squared Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 About this where someone belongs... There's a song from Hercules. Shooting Star http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/hercules/shootingstar.htm Anyways...I feel as if I don't belong "here" But I'm actually happy. I don't want to belong in some category. :wacky: I simply want a life of my own...where I'll belong. Even if it's a life that consists of only me...that'll make me happy. Well that's definitely a good start!!:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClearAsCrystal Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 I think the very best people "don't know where they belong". IMO, conformity is dull, and having so much money that you have no motivation in life must be a terrible burden. There's no reason at all to envy these people - you should be thankful you're not one of them :crown: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryujiki Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Life always give us the opportunity we are looking for,but sometimes we are busy in other things,stupid things btw. There are people with better life than us and other with a worst life. By my experience,I can said that people with worst life than us,barely complain about that situation,maybe because they are too busy dealing with their life. My life is great,it could be better but I did not make it better.Its sucks and is sad,but that make me learn and be more wise now. Life goes on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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