Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 I'm feeling bad. why? Because people say this guy I have a crush on is dating another girl. Well this wouldn't even be such a big problem for me (since it's normal for me, because I'm almost used to this situation to be the unlucky girl...), but: 1.) The first time he talked to this girl I went home with him. He didn't like her at all. She was so stupid in his eyes. 2.) She is a typical Indie girl. Her style, the music, everything. 3.) He was the one who always kept talking so badly about those Indie people....how he hates the style, the music (note we went to an indie club with some friends 2 weeks ago and he became agressive because of the music) 4.) She loves to go exactly to those places and parties he hates. to sum it up: She is exactly what he doesn't like (if you believe the things he said) So, what the fuck?I don't get this anymore....according to interests we would fit together so well. It's just seems to be the fact that my physical attractiveness is not that high as hers... well, so far this is only a rumour, but if there's any truth in it I'll be sooooo disappointed by him. He wouldn't be honest. Always talking badly about those people and now suddenly going óut with them. This definitely doesn't fit together... I so would love to talk to him about this....but I wonder when this chance will come, since we didn't go out together since 3 weeks now....we did so many things together, but suddenly he is so distanced from me. Although we wanted to go out together yesterday but this didn't happen. it hurts me so badly, I always enjoyed going out with him, because we listen to the same music and all that stuff.... sometimes I seriously hate this world. Obviously I always get to know the wrong people. Damn it, I don't know what to think anymore!:( I hope this weekend will make me feel better... probably I get on your nerves with all these threads, but I want to talk to people... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Well, sometimes you like people that have nothing in common with you. I'm going to ask out a girl who is nothing like me, but I like her becuase she is everything good that I'm not. You see what I'm saying? And don't worry, a couple years ago a girl I liked was going out with a guy I hated who was nothing like her, and they broke up after a few weeks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Oh sorry:(...BUT as you said it's still just a rumor...d-you know what_ something similar happened to me last year..I had a crush on a guy and once he said that a girl*who was a friend of mine( was so stupid he couldn-t even talk to her and suddenly I found out that right now he is disperately in love with her!!!.... buut returning to the point... well I think that you-ll have to wait!...if he really diliked indie so much and everything about it, maybe your friends are just wrong or mocking on you...maybe.. have you seen him after you heard this thing of him going out with her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yeah well the problem is not that they don't have anything in common it's just that I don't get him talking so badly about those things and now going out with her and her indie friends....this definitely does not fit to him since music is one of the most important things in his life...he even sometimes judges people according to their taste in music.. my friends are definitely not mocking on me?Why should they...? It is a rumour and I know that my friends sometimes exaggerate---I only know that they went out together last week and once for a coffee....so actually nothing bad...and my friends now act as if they were almost together although they don't know anything about it....that's why I just would like to talk to him... well I've seen him on tuesday and today at uni.....but then we didn't really talk... it just pisses me off that I'm always unlucky when it comes to love... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirmir Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 I'm sorry to hear that :( Why don't you just tell the guy how you feel about him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yes yes.....so many people on here have told me that....but I just can't, because I know that his answer will be negative (I guess.) and I don't want to risk it, because then it probably would destroy everything... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 ^^:(....why have those things always to be complicated?:(.....I am so sorry:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 Oh and funny: when we went to this indie club 2 weeks ago we were standing there next to the dance floor and didn't know many songs....so I said to him that I am obviously not indie enough for this club and he answered that this is really one good thing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 ^^:(....why have those things always to be complicated?:(.....I am so sorry:( awwwwwwww well I don't know....sometimes I think I am just a hopeless case when it comes to love...I never seem to find a guy....you may say now that I shouldn't be that negative, but oh well....:( there was another guy who even wanted to date me 2 months ago....he was good looking and all that stuff....after all I found that he is an ass-hole (surprise, surprise) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirmir Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yes yes.....so many people on here have told me that....but I just can't, because I know that his answer will be negative (I guess.) and I don't want to risk it, because then it probably would destroy everything... If you never try, then you'll never know... What if he thinks that you are just friends and doesn't realize that you have feelings for him. And he might have feelings for you but won't tell you cause it might hurt your friendship.. This exactly same thing has happened to me, i was stupid and let him go..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 ^:/...really it would be completely absurd if he were interested in that girl:confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yes, I had this thought so often that he might feel the same way....the problem is that I am just not confident enough to tell him....it was him who told me so many times that I should be more self-confident because I am such a great person....he has a high opinion of me I know that from conversations we had....we did so many things together....and now is the time that I realise how lucky I actually was... and I'm afraid that he even might have felt the same for me, but thought the same way like I did....he often says that he is an idiot and would be really lucky if he found a girl.... maybe it's too late now...too bad.... my biggest problem is that I am not convinced about my look....I don't think at all that he finds me attractive, although he has called me pretty lady many times....but he calls many women pretty... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 awwwwwwww well I don't know....sometimes I think I am just a hopeless case when it comes to love...I never seem to find a guy....you may say now that I shouldn't be that negative, but oh well....:( there was another guy who even wanted to date me 2 months ago....he was good looking and all that stuff....after all I found that he is an ass-hole (surprise, surprise) haha...don't worry it's the same for me...lol last year I went out a couple of time with a guy(he even bought me a present for my birthday--->a bracelet...I never wore it again:dozey::lol:) ...and then I found out he was a Complete asshole...seriously :o....:( anyway yes I am telling you to be more positive ...let's quote Jane austen: Do not be in a hurry: the right man will come at last:D:D ....yes she also said..The more I know of the world, the more I am convinced that I shall never see a man whom I can really love.....mmm :uhoh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yes, I had this thought so often that he might feel the same way....the problem is that I am just not confident enough to tell him....it was him who told me so many times that I should be more self-confident because I am such a great person....he has a high opinion of me I know that from conversations we had....we did so many things together....and now is the time that I realise how lucky I actually was... and I'm afraid that he even might have felt the same for me, but thought the same way like I did....he often says that he is an idiot and would be really lucky if he found a girl.... maybe it's too late now...too bad.... my biggest problem is that I am not convinced about my look....I don't think at all that he finds me attractive, although he has called me pretty lady many times....but he calls many women pretty... :o after that you're gonna HAVE to tell him what you feel:P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 I can't.....fuck it I can't!:bigcry: when I think of all these evenings now I could cry....the eve when he told me that he is happy that we go out so often and spend so much time together...on his birthday when he didn't want to let me go and kissed me on the cheek....and all these things...when we were acting like a married couple and he said to a friend of mine "Well we just know that we can rely on each other"....when he said that I am a 20 years old exception....that other 20 years olds are childish....fuck... I have to meet him this weekend....otherwise I'll probably go mad... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirmir Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yes, I had this thought so often that he might feel the same way....the problem is that I am just not confident enough to tell him....it was him who told me so many times that I should be more self-confident because I am such a great person....he has a high opinion of me I know that from conversations we had....we did so many things together....and now is the time that I realise how lucky I actually was... and I'm afraid that he even might have felt the same for me, but thought the same way like I did....he often says that he is an idiot and would be really lucky if he found a girl.... maybe it's too late now...too bad.... my biggest problem is that I am not convinced about my look....I don't think at all that he finds me attractive, although he has called me pretty lady many times....but he calls many women pretty... He obviously has feelings for you, you're just too colse to see it. The signs are all there. And don't be so worried about your looks. Even if you think you're ugly or something like that others might think that you are the most beautiful girl in the world. Women are so critical about themselves at times.... But hey good luck and hopefully everything goes the way it should go :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 maybe try to ask him about that story or let him understand(...not too clearly) that you are jealous....or just try to let him think something like that...so maybe he might tell you the whole thing through his point of view...:rolleyes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 He obviously has feelings for you, you're just too colse to see it. The signs are all there. And don't be so worried about your looks. Even if you think you're ugly or something like that others might think that you are the most beautiful girl in the world. Women are so critical about themselves at times.... But hey good luck and hopefully everything goes the way it should go :) *NODS* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmsv Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 I'm feeling bad. why? Because people say this guy I have a crush on is dating another girl. Well this wouldn't even be such a big problem for me (since it's normal for me, because I'm almost used to this situation to be the unlucky girl...), but: 1.) The first time he talked to this girl I went home with him. He didn't like her at all. She was so stupid in his eyes. 2.) She is a typical Indie girl. Her style, the music, everything. 3.) He was the one who always kept talking so badly about those Indie people....how he hates the style, the music (note we went to an indie club with some friends 2 weeks ago and he became agressive because of the music) 4.) She loves to go exactly to those places and parties he hates. to sum it up: She is exactly what he doesn't like (if you believe the things he said) So, what the fuck?I don't get this anymore....according to interests we would fit together so well. It's just seems to be the fact that my physical attractiveness is not that high as hers... well, so far this is only a rumour, but if there's any truth in it I'll be sooooo disappointed by him. He wouldn't be honest. Always talking badly about those people and now suddenly going óut with them. This definitely doesn't fit together... I so would love to talk to him about this....but I wonder when this chance will come, since we didn't go out together since 3 weeks now....we did so many things together, but suddenly he is so distanced from me. Although we wanted to go out together yesterday but this didn't happen. it hurts me so badly, I always enjoyed going out with him, because we listen to the same music and all that stuff.... sometimes I seriously hate this world. Obviously I always get to know the wrong people. Damn it, I don't know what to think anymore!:( I hope this weekend will make me feel better... probably I get on your nerves with all these threads, but I want to talk to people... First: How old are you? Second: Join the club :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yeah well....when I friend of mine told me about this rumour haha my reaction was rather jealous...I said that he can't understand this at all....and she doesn't either!We all don't understand it......it's really absurd! I thought I could say to him: "I heard you are turning into an indie now"...and then I wonder what he would say...and if he tells me that he goes out with them then I will tell him how disappointed I am....this will not directly imply that I am jealous, because you can also be disappointed by a friend... well, maybe I was just a dreamer all this time and he never had feelings for me....or maybe I am just building a story right now which does not even exist...(which would be good hehe...)...I just want to know what's going on... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 First: How old are you? Second: Join the club :) I'm 20....why? too childish? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 First: How old are you? Second: Join the club :) lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmsv Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 I'm 20....why? I was expecting 16 or so lol. If that were you age, well i would be saying "teen problems omg". Since you already have some knowledge, I am sorry to say, but you are in the friend zone. Does he know that you are interested in him? Is tough to say something without knowing him, 'cause everyone is different. Have you tried to ask him out? Not to the cinema. Some place where you two can talk, maybe a bar by the beach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giuly2E Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 Yeah well....when I friend of mine told me about this rumour haha my reaction was rather jealous...I said that he can't understand this at all....and she doesn't either!We all don't understand it......it's really absurd! I thought I could say to him: "I heard you are turning into an indie now"...and then I wonder what he would say...and if he tells me that he goes out with them then I will tell him how disappointed I am....this will not directly imply that I am jealous, because you can also be disappointed by a friend... well, maybe I was just a dreamer all this time and he never had feelings for me....or maybe I am just building a story right now which does not even exist...(which would be good hehe...)...I just want to know what's going on... good option(telling him hi's turning into an indi:P) ...just watch out and don't offend him ..I mean tell him everything as a joke, not seriously(...you know he might actually turn into an indie:P)... and about makin' the stiry up...I don't know but you know that when you have a crush on a pèrson you tend (tend...) to see thing worse than what they actually are...mmm I don't know.. I think the best thing right now is wait....and NOT think too much about WHAT has happened/is happining to him:P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gitta Rensolo Posted May 2, 2008 Author Share Posted May 2, 2008 shit...there is something that comes to my mind right now... it was his best-friend who told us that they went out for a coffee together and he said if he goes out for a coffee with a woman for no reason then he must really like her (his opinion)... so who was the one who invited me to his house one evening to watch a music magazine?Who was the one who I often went out with alone? arghs....maybe I really had my chance... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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