hey...

I want to share this with somebody... this might be very painful... maybe this had happened to some of you too... it's hard to talk about this...

Well, I've got a friend... well, she's an Internet friend, but in my heart, she's a lot more than it! she's a truly friend, you know?...

Today I found her on MSN and we started to chat. We ask each other how were we and she asked me that she was feeling bad. Very bad indeed. She's on the hospital, cos she tried to kill herself... That really hurt me...

I just dunno what to say to her...! I've never been on this situation... Apparently she tried to commit suicide because she feels alone. She thinks that nobody cares for her, neither friends or family... she says that she has lots of friends, but they're all far away from her... I tried to make her see how great life can be... and that sometimes, life can suck and be hard, but nothing is too hard.. I think that we have to face our main problems and never turn back to them... but I can't cheer her up...

Mostly, I'm afraid that she can try it again and perhaps she can make it...:cry: I really don't wanna loose her...:cry:

show her how much you care. even if it seems over the top just costantly show her you care. :)

 

 

and she's not going to kill herself. its just stuff everyone goes through :hug:

GOD! That is awful I agree with Izy and theres really not much you can do if you can't meet her outside of the internet :(

that's true... if I had her here:( but thanks anyway...:)now she's telling me that she had a problem with her boyfriend... no I start to understand all... People should never get to addicted to something/someone...

wow that is a pretty tough situation. im sorry to hear that! does she like coldplay? because listening to coldplay always gets me through a rough time. :) i hope things get better for her.

The fact that she's talking about it is a good sign, I think. She's prepared to talk about her feelings rather than keeping them bottled up, that's important.

 

Hopefully, some time in the hospital will do her good - she'll get professional help, and in the meantime all her friends, even the ones far away in the world wide web, just have to be there for her.

 

I hope she gets better soon, and take care of yourself too!

wow that is a pretty tough situation. im sorry to hear that! does she like coldplay? because listening to coldplay always gets me through a rough time. :) i hope things get better for her.

 

:lol:she is a Coldplay lover too, yeah:D that can really help! it happens the same to me...:)

Hopefully she will get well soon and won't do anything stupid again.

hey...

I want to share this with somebody... this might be very painful... maybe this had happened to some of you too... it's hard to talk about this...

Well, I've got a friend... well, she's an Internet friend, but in my heart, she's a lot more than it! she's a truly friend, you know?...

Today I found her on MSN and we started to chat. We ask each other how were we and she asked me that she was feeling bad. Very bad indeed. She's on the hospital, cos she tried to kill herself... That really hurt me...

I just dunno what to say to her...! I've never been on this situation... Apparently she tried to commit suicide because she feels alone. She thinks that nobody cares for her, neither friends or family... she says that she has lots of friends, but they're all far away from her... I tried to make her see how great life can be... and that sometimes, life can suck and be hard, but nothing is too hard.. I think that we have to face our main problems and never turn back to them... but I can't cheer her up...

Mostly, I'm afraid that she can try it again and perhaps she can make it...:cry: I really don't wanna loose her...:cry:

i can't advice you anything that coldplayers hadn't have adviced you already.

 

is sad that people ever think about doing those things.

life is hard at times and is not easy to be all the time cheerful, but be that sad isn't good.

 

she must try to change her mind herself, try to get some able objective to focus on and that will make life be worthy for that, a part of that i can't think of any other thing to advice.

she must know is loved by their friends, that is not to say hey i like you and stuff like that all the time and only through virtual means (mobile, net), is also to go out with her to some concert, things like that.

i know is not easy.

 

really i find those things so sad :(

 

i hope she change her mind herself soon, nobody can't do that for her.

plus, she's very worried with a guy she loves... he thinks that she's a liar!:(

she had a problem with her neighbour... they were both on her place and she fell asleep... her neighbour kissed her and told everything to her boyfriend! Now he thinks she's a liar and that she doesn't care about him...

love can really be good, but sometimes, nothing hurts more than it:(

i can't advice you anything that coldplayers hadn't have adviced you already.

 

is sad that people ever think about doing those things.

life is hard at times and is not easy to be all the time cheerful, but be that sad isn't good.

 

she must try to change her mind herself, try to get some able objective to focus on and that will make life be worthy for that, a part of that i can't think of any other thing to advice.

she must know is loved by their friends, that is not to say hey i like you and stuff like that all the time and only through virtual means (mobile, net), is also to go out with her to some concert, things like that.

i know is not easy.

 

really i find those things so sad :(

 

i hope she change her mind herself soon, nobody can't do that for her.

 

you're so right... but hey, "life is for living" and we only live once... I think that we have to do our best...

thats horrible. :o

 

If it makes you feel any better, there were 3 people who commited suicide at my high school. I knew two of them, one was a classmate that I saw everyday. We never really talked all that much but we did know eachother. Then one day she didnt show up for first period english and in second period the principle announced what happened. The entire school was devastated, and nothing seemed real to me either.

 

UNfortunately, since you only know her over the internet... the best thing you can do is let her know how much she means to you and try and cheer her up as much as possible.

plus, she's very worried with a guy she loves... he thinks that she's a liar!:(

she had a problem with her neighbour... they were both on her place and she fell asleep... her neighbour kissed her and told everything to her boyfriend! Now he thinks she's a liar and that she doesn't care about him...

love can really be good, but sometimes, nothing hurts more than it:(

i see, so complex and bad situation.

but she shouldn't blame herself for that, it is the other guy fault not hers.. and if the guy doesn't believe her.. no good that, they would break for other reasons, if he really loves her he would never think she is a liar.

 

she should give it time, at times when people try to get things quicker than they can be is things just get worst.

i know is not easy to do, but she shouldn't give that that much importance, or it will harm her.

thats horrible. :o

 

If it makes you feel any better, there were 3 people who commited suicide at my high school. I knew two of them, one was a classmate that I saw everyday. We never really talked all that much but we did know eachother. Then one day she didnt show up for first period english and in second period the principle announced what happened. The entire school was devastated, and nothing seemed real to me either.

 

UNfortunately, since you only know her over the internet... the best thing you can do is let her know how much she means to you and try and cheer her up as much as possible.

Gosh that's awful... It's hard to understand why people do that:(

i see, so complex and bad situation.

but she shouldn't blame herself for that, it is the other guy fault not hers.. and if the guy doesn't believe her.. no good that, they would break for other reasons, if he really loves her he would never think she is a liar.

 

she should give it time, at times when people try to get things quicker than they can be is things just get worst.

i know is not easy to do, but she shouldn't give that that much importance, or it will harm her.

I told her that...:)I think the same as you, if the guy thinks she's a liar, then he isn't good enough for her... if he really love her, he will listen to her and forgive her... she's going to talk to him and explain him everything. She can be disappointed, but she also can get him back:)I think she'll get what's she deserves!

 

and I'm pretty happy now cos she promised me she won't do stupidities like that again!:)

Gosh that's awful... It's hard to understand why people do that:(

i know i can't understand that either, but is so sad.

but is worst that when they succed nobody feels bad. i mean it happened something similar as what obolishknig has said.

a student of my first year at uni, died on a car accident that summer (on a car her parents bought her, was a so expensive car, that girl always said she didn't felt loved by her parents or anybody) , we got to know that the next year and i see nobody felt :( for that, i wasn't so close to her, but i felt bad for what happened :cry: is so sad nobody worried for that.

I told her that...:)I think the same as you, if the guy thinks she's a liar, then he isn't good enough for her... if he really love her, he will listen to her and forgive her... she's going to talk to him and explain him everything. She can be disappointed, but she also can get him back:)I think she'll get what's she deserves!

 

and I'm pretty happy now cos she promised me she won't do stupidities like that again!:)

good that. :)

Myths....

 

show her how much you care. even if it seems over the top just costantly show her you care. :)

 

 

and she's not going to kill herself. its just stuff everyone goes through :hug:

 

 

 

 

Indeed, just the fact that she mentions the desire to die is of course a plea for help- BUT;

 

it is a myth that "she wont do it" just because she spoke of it-

people do indeed attempt even after "threatening", it is NOT just an attention plea......take this gravely seriously, at all times.

 

*EDIT* (FROM WEB MD)-

Are there warning signs of suicide?

 

Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:

 

• Always talking or thinking about death
  
• Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse
  
• Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death such as driving fast or running red lights
  
• Losing interest in things one used to care about
  
• Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless
  
• Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will
  
• Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"
  
• Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy
  
• Talking about suicide or killing one's self
  
• Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
  

Be especially concerned if a person is exhibiting any of these warning signs and has attempted suicide in the past. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, between 20% and 50% of people who commit suicide have had a previous attempt.

*answering Ari:P*

that's terrible... I mean, life can suck sometimes... but life is to be lived with happiness, even if that is hard...

 

AND I MADE MY FRIEND CHEER UP!

 

by mention Coldplay:dance:she's a real Coldplay fan too:nice:

 

I guess Everything's Not Lost is a very touching song on situations like this...

thanks for the help all of you:nice:

*answering Ari:P*

that's terrible... I mean, life can suck sometimes... but life is to be lived with happiness, even if that is hard...

 

AND I MADE MY FRIEND CHEER UP!

 

by mention Coldplay:dance:she's a real Coldplay fan too:nice:

 

I guess Everything's Not Lost is a very touching song on situations like this...

good to know that :)

and yep i think ENL is a touching song.

I am so sorry for your friend because of what she is going through at the moment. It seems hard but it will get easier and it's good that she has promised not to try do that again.

Are there warning signs of suicide?

 

Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:

 

• Always talking or thinking about death
  
• Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse
  
• Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death such as driving fast or running red lights
  
• Losing interest in things one used to care about
  
• Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless
  
• Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will
  
• Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"
  
• Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy
  
• Talking about suicide or killing one's self
  
• Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
  

Be especially concerned if a person is exhibiting any of these warning signs and has attempted suicide in the past. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, between 20% and 50% of people who commit suicide have had a previous attempt.

that line that i've put in red, that is so true.

 

 

a tv collaborator did phoned her friends and next day they found her dead on her home.

obviously everybody said she didn't commited suicide.

but everyone said she always said she wasn't going to live long. :\

again that is a case of someone that had many things in her life to be happy but though she wasn't loved :(

 

that's so sad.

 

 

thanks for the info Karen and great to see you on coldplaying :hug:

Aww Leonor, hope everything works out okay :( I know what u feel like, my best friend tried to kill himself too with lots of pills, but meh, he's an emo, nowadays we kinda laugh about it and stuff, cuz now he sees how stupid he was by trying to give up on life...

Indeed, just the fact that she mentions the desire to die is of course a plea for help- BUT;

 

it is a myth that "she wont do it" just because she spoke of it-

people do indeed attempt even after "threatening", it is NOT just an attention plea......take this gravely seriously, at all times.

 

*EDIT* (FROM WEB MD)-

Are there warning signs of suicide?

 

Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:

 

• Always talking or thinking about death
  
• Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse
  
• Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death such as driving fast or running red lights
  
• Losing interest in things one used to care about
  
• Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless
  
• Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will
  
• Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"
  
• Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy
  
• Talking about suicide or killing one's self
  
• Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
  

Be especially concerned if a person is exhibiting any of these warning signs and has attempted suicide in the past. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, between 20% and 50% of people who commit suicide have had a previous attempt.

wow, thanks for this...! I remember some of this signs on her... but we're faraway from each other, I'm in Portugal and she's in Morocco, so I dunno how does she really feel or how is her all the time... probably if I were with her, I would notice some more strange signs...

 

Aww Leonor, hope everything works out okay :( I know what u feel like, my best friend tried to kill himself too with lots of pills, but meh, he's an emo, nowadays we kinda laugh about it and stuff, cuz now he sees how stupid he was by trying to give up on life...

 

I'm happy about your friend, now that he finally gave up of those stupid ideas... Life is for Living, right?! and thanks for your support! I had a friend too, in times, who was an emo too and she had thoughts like that very often and she kinda liked to cut herself and stuff like that... I've never understand that!...

i think the guys from coldplay should know how many cases of depression they have cured(including my own)

 

im glad you cheered her up! losing somebody is bad but it seems even worse when they do it to themself:( i had a friend in 7th grade that did that, i still wonder how he could drive himself to that so young:(

ITs extremely depressing how people that you know, or have at least seen around, tend to fade away as you go through your own life. Not too long ago, an old friend of mine was killed in a car accident. It was a really wierd feeling as I haven't seen or heard from him in 3 years or so, but I just always figured he would be around for a long time. Then all of a sudden I won't get the chance to see him again. :(

 

But life goes on...