Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 It's meant in good taste, this thread. If you've not had sex and have an opinion, please state that, but don't use this thread to put all that "I'm still a virgin heheheh :o:o:o" stuff. This is a mature thread about mature opinions, if you'd please. So think about it, have a vote, and reply with why you think that, if you have a reason, and how old you are. I think it'd be interesting to see what the general opinions of different age groups are. Also... Just cause you have one opinion, doesn't mean you think everyone should be like that. So don't be ashamed to vote whatever you think, and worry that people will think you're trying to attack them with your view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Well in what sense? Like could a relationship exist without sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Does this belong in the Sex Thread? just wondering I think sex is important in a relationship. I obviously think there are far more important things like actual affection, but sex can be very important. It can give a sense of intimacy, and it can bring a relationship to a whole new level. I am speaking as a virgin but this is what I believe and what I look forward to about sex.:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yeah, like... If you were in a relationship, how important would it be to you. Would it not being there make a massive negative difference to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 No offense meant here 2732, but how could you possibly know the after effects of sex in a relationship, the idea of it in your head is romanticised Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Does this belong in the Sex Thread? just wondering I think sex is important in a relationship. I obviously think there are far more important things like actual affection, but sex can be very important. It can give a sense of intimacy, and it can bring a relationship to a whole new level. I am speaking as a virgin but this is what I believe and what I look forward to about sex.:) The Sex Thread is about "oooh i'm a virgin omg" more than it's about actual opinions. Plus, this has a poll. I can see why you might say that but if we always say "USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION" then we'll never get anywhere because threads will be littered with old opinions and older posters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 The Sex Thread is about "oooh i'm a virgin omg" more than it's about actual opinions. Plus, this has a poll. I can see why you might say that but if we always say "USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION" then we'll never get anywhere because threads will be littered with old opinions and older posters. True. That thread had some times when it was about real discussions and I liked it that way, but you're right, lately it's been pointless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 For my answer then, I think a relationship could easily function (for me anyway) without sex, it's just a primal urge, it's not connecting with the person, unless you make it that way, taking it out of the relationship should not detract from the connection between the couple and if it does, something is amiss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 No offense meant here 2732, but how could you possibly know the after effects of sex in a relationship, the idea of it in your head is romanticised I guess I couldn't possibly know. That's just what I hope sex will be like for me in a relationship. I won't want it just for the "urges" as you said. I hope that sex will be something I could use to make my relationship stronger. But like I said, speaking as a virgin, all I can do is hope that's how it will be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I agree with you, but surely it's only that amazing connection the first time because it is a huge step for the relationship, not when it's the 12th/13th time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaftell Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I think sex is an important part in a relationship but it shouldn't be the most important aspect in one. If it becomes one, then that relationship shouldn't be considered a "real" one. There is more to a relationship that just sex.Love and sex aren't the same thing because sex without love is just physical. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I agree with you, but surely it's only that amazing connection the first time because it is a huge step for the relationship, not when it's the 12th/13th time Well I would really have no idea. To me it seems it would be that amazing every time but I guess that's because I haven't experienced that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Well I would really have no idea. To me it seems it would be that amazing every time but I guess that's because I haven't experienced that. To be honest, I'm a virgin too, but that's just naivety on your part Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 I agree with you, but surely it's only that amazing connection the first time because it is a huge step for the relationship, not when it's the 12th/13th time I definately agree with that, it's a brilliant point. But I think it extends with many factors. I don't think it's just the first time, from experience. I think if you were having sex with a partner every night or so often, it'd become mundane and less special because you'd expect it and be used to it but I think if it wasn't a frequent thing and there was a build up. I don't mean foreplay as build up. I mean like, you said yourself it's an instinct, so when those instincts get to a point, if it's not happening all of the time like clockwork or something you expect to happen, those instincts and urges can make it more of a connection than something "you just do". If that makes sense... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 To be honest, I'm a virgin too, but that's just naivety on your part Or optimism. I don't see any reason why it can't be that way if the relationship is strong enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaftell Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I think if you were having sex with a partner every night or so often, it'd become mundane and less special because you'd expect it and be used to it but I think if it wasn't a frequent thing and there was a build up. I don't agree with that. If you actually love somebody, then sex should be something special all the time and it shouldn't be dull or ordinary. But the first time is always the most special. It just gets better after everytime :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I don't agree with that. If you actually love somebody, then sex should be something special all the time and it shouldn't be dull or ordinary. But the first time is always the most special. It just gets better after everytime :P That's exactly what I expect. If the love is genuine and mutual, why can't it be special every time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I love video games, but if I play them too much they lose the special feeling you get playing them and it just becomes routine. that is essentially the point Jack and I were making Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 I don't agree with that. If you actually love somebody, then sex should be something special all the time and it shouldn't be dull or ordinary. But the first time is always the most special. It just gets better after everytime :P No, I disagree. There's a difference between enjoying something and having a special connection. It's just human for it to lose it's shine after it becomes too frequent an occurance. This isn't really a fantastic example but say you're a musician, you play a big gig infront of 10000 people. The first one is going to be incredible because it's special, and if you do it every year, it's special. If you do it every night, it won't be that special every time. It's just human nature. I'm not saying you won't enjoy it more, or it won't get better, or you won't have that magical connection because it's someone you love. It would lose it's unique, specialness appeal if it became too common. If you've had sex every day for a week, and then you don't for a month, and then do again once. Can you say that the last day of the week, and the first day after a month is the same? No, you can't. Because the month after will be more special because as a human you'll appreciate it more since it's not been there for you the 6 days previously... God, it's hard to make sense, but I know what I mean... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I love video games, but if I play them too much they lose the special feeling you get playing them and it just becomes routine. that is essentially the point Jack and I were making Well I love playing guitar and after more than 2 years of playing I still get all the joy and excitement out of playing that I did when I first started. Perhaps it's because I love playing guitar more than you love those video games. The same with sex, maybe. If the love is stronger, I don't see how it could wear off. Maybe if does become routine it's because the love itself has become routine, it's no longer exciting or special. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You're missing the point, I think Jack put it slightly better than I did, I know what I mean and I can't think of how to put it into words Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Well I love playing guitar and after more than 2 years of playing I still get all the joy and excitement out of playing that I did when I first started. Perhaps it's because I love playing guitar more than you love those video games. The same with sex, maybe. If the love is stronger, I don't see how it could wear off. Maybe if does become routine it's because the love itself has become routine, it's no longer exciting or special. I don't think you're human. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shaftell Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yeah, I get what you guys are trying to say now and I do agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You're missing the point, I think Jack put it slightly better than I did, I know what I mean and I can't think of how to put it into words No I got the point, I just disagree. perhaps it's more of a personal thing. I don;t think you can say all people will feel the same way about sex. Maybe for some people it will get old, but for others (if they have the mindset), it can be just as special after time. Once again, this is all just my speculation based on other experiences. I really have no idea. I just think like anything else, it depends more on the people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I don't think you're human. How? Because I enjoy something so much that it still gives me that joy after 2 years? How is that inhuman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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