I guess my point is that just because you aren't sexually compatible doesn't mean that you should discount a partner based on that. The sexual part of a relationship is so miniscule in the grand scheme of things. If you love someone, and they make you laugh, and you can really be yourself around that person, then....snatch that person up because one day everybody is going to get so old they will be unable to have sex. So, the emotional and mental parts become the only sustaining things in a relationship.

 

Pft. You guys probably think I'm just a prude, old fart now. *sigh*

 

Not really. The sexual part of our relationship technically fails at the moment, apparently thanks to me, but it doesn't really matter that much because we just both love each other and can just sit down and talk to one another. Which is generally just bettar anyway than having it the other way around...

 

Also, my condolences to Iz :sad: hope all goes okay now.

you think you can't fall in love unless you're married?

 

No I'm saying that for me marriage is what bond two lovers together.

It's a symbol of how much we (me and my partner) are willing to commit to a relationship.

But that's just me. Other people might think differently.

 

You make it sound awful. I guess a lot of people have sex with their partner before they decide to have relationship with them so it's not like you dump them.

 

It's from my personal point of view. I was just saying that I won't leave a person for that. I hope that my future partner would do the same for me.

 

I tried to make it clear that I'm not trying to criticise people who do, so I'm sorry if I sounded like I intended to.

 

Zeya...I get what you're saying. At the risk of being too open, my husband and I did not originally work....sexually, after marriage, however...we fit in all other aspects. We had to work to have a good sex life and it paid off in the end.

 

I guess my point is that just because you aren't sexually compatible doesn't mean that you should discount a partner based on that. The sexual part of a relationship is so miniscule in the grand scheme of things. If you love someone, and they make you laugh, and you can really be yourself around that person, then....snatch that person up because one day everybody is going to get so old they will be unable to have sex. So, the emotional and mental parts become the only sustaining things in a relationship.

 

That is amazing for both you and your partner.

Thank you for telling me that :nice:

Hey i used to be like a penguin and mate for life but then i kinda turned into charlie harper :drunk: Now i'm trying to be a penguin again :wacko:

My condolences :disappointed:

Even though I didn't totally get the penguin thing haha

 

Not really. The sexual part of our relationship technically fails at the moment, apparently thanks to me, but it doesn't really matter that much because we just both love each other and can just sit down and talk to one another. Which is generally just bettar anyway than having it the other way around...

 

Also, my condolences to Iz :sad: hope all goes okay now.

Sorry to hear that, but it's just another proof that there's definitely something else than sex :D