Hey there... I've been thinking about opening this thread for quite a while. Lately i've been experiencing some "friends problems" and at the end everything clearly shows who's my real friend and who is not.

 

But anyway, I'm not opening this to moan about things that are happening to me, but just to ask you something, and discuss it. What would you say to a girl who you though she was your friend but in the end she was acting just like the rest - grinning and rolling her eyes when you said something stupid, but every now and then being so sweet, asking you about your personal life after saying that she was not your friend but merely an acquaintance?

 

 

how to simply, in a politely way but with a bitchy voice say that you've had enough of this kind of behaviour? Or would just be better to ignore that - but in my case this is impossible because we're in the same circle of friends - and here it goes again.

i had pretty much the same thing happen with me.

 

the question you have to ask yourself is, is it worth the pain?

i faced that about a month ago, the weekend of the australian GP and i decided it wasnt, so now i dont talk to the person anymore at all, i was sick of the seesawing so i broke it off and im so happy for it.

 

tell your friend the issue you have first. if they fuck you ever break it off. if they dont wel then thats excellent. just yeah speak to her first before you make any rash decisions ;)

hey Josh, thank you for your advice! ;)

 

Well, I have to admit that I was accusing her for something she wasn't really guilty, but I later explained that to her but it didn't help - or she didn't want to understand or I sucked at explaining.... anyway, I know that it's not worth bothering about it - I can be around with her and the other girl without feeling guilty or angry, it's just that sometimes they really annoy me (the other even more, but she's the worst case *g*).

They both know what's going on, but I'm not going to speak with them about it, because we all know it's useless - even if one tries to solve things, the other person doesn't. And that's actually me in the most cases. Yeah, I'm not a saint, and perhaps it would be better if we talked that out, but it's not worth the pain and all. We won't be seeing each other after finishing high school anyway.

yeah thats what i've decided is gonna happen with pretty much the entire year level of my school. bunch of superficial idiots IMO

you're not the only one who thinks so! I'm amazed that there are so many people who judge you only by one criterion which divides people in two groups: cool and not cool.

eh, can't wait for uni and meet new people and stay with those that are nicer. :)

Oi... now I remember why I get along with guys better.

 

The best way to win a person over is kindness, but if the other person wants no part of it one-sided friendships can be kind of pointless and draining. I think it's a personality thing- there will always be personality types that will end up closer to each other than others, and people will always be at different points in their lives- both in maturity and just what's going on.

 

I've had plenty of friends who drifted away, and plenty of acquaintances who have turned into really dear friends. That's life. It's complicated. :confused:

 

But there is that old cliche: The best thing about high school is that it ends. And then everyone grows up and gets over the old cliques.

 

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I'm amazed that there are so many people who judge you only by one criterion which divides people in two groups: cool and not cool.

The funny thing is, as soon as everyone is out of that world, they suddenly realize that the people who were actually cool weren't who they thought all along. The ones who were actually cool just did their own thing, didn't worry about the distinction, and avoided all the drama. They're the ones who came out of it all with personalities.

yeah, guys seem to be less hypocritical and they don't compete with girls... so yeah, i should find a male friend.

 

Erin, you're wise. =) And it's true - being who you are, not worrying if you're cool or not, this is the best option. Wanting to be someone else just to be more popular is stupid.

I'm not wise... I just went through school on the wrong end of things and lived to tell about it later.

 

It actually freaked me out at first when I took a college course the year after I graduated. All these kids who would never have given me the time of day treated me like an equal and were actually amused (in a good way) by alot of my quirks. In fact some of the kids from older grades who had bullied me back in elementary ended up in the same class as me and had grown up so much by then they were really nice people.

Off topic remark, tonight I'm meeting one of my old school friends whom I haven't seen in over 3 years.

Just remember a friend will bail you out of jail........and a true friend will be sitting right there beside you in jail.:cheesy:

Girls are stupid. I know because I am one. I had a problem with a friend who was super nice to me to my face but then chose to say some nasty things about me when my back was turned, to people I've known since I was 5. It was fun because I found out eventually and was so upset, my friends acted out on their own volition and called her out, and she apologized.

 

The best way to do it is not get your friends to, first of all. It's kind of cowardly. I didn't tell my friends to talk to this girl, they did it by themselves. I was going to talk to her myself but she apologized before I got the chance.

 

Secondly, be honest. :D I've had friend problems since 4th grade, at least 2 a year, so I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the best way to resolve conflict is to be blunt and honest... I hate beating around the bush. If they don't accept it, they're not worth your time.

 

Good luck. :3

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life........

 

yeah.. I've also lost a couple of friends. I guess it's inevitable.. it happens to everyone.

 

 

Girls are stupid.

 

Well said, well said. No I like girls a lot but sometimes they can be so dang complicated!

Well said, well said. No I like girls a lot but sometimes they can be so dang complicated!

 

All I gotta say is Thank God I don't have any sisters! :cool:

I have one. We used to fight ALLLL the time but now we're pretty cool. We just don't get in each others way for the most part.

Is she younger or older?

Younger, by 2 years.

I don't care for having friends. I have a few, which aren't really close, either that or I don't know them that well, and that keeps everything humpty dory.

I'm in love with a friend. She has a boyfriend whom she's happy with. Now she knows, we haven't spoken, and I haven't a clue what to do.

Off topic remark' date=' tonight I'm meeting one of my old school friends whom I haven't seen in over 3 years.[/quote'] I hope you two will be having a great time. :) It's wonderful when you meet a school friend that you haven't seen for ages and then spend some time with him/her. :)

 

Girls are stupid. I know because I am one. I had a problem with a friend who was super nice to me to my face but then chose to say some nasty things about me when my back was turned, to people I've known since I was 5. It was fun because I found out eventually and was so upset, my friends acted out on their own volition and called her out, and she apologized.

 

The best way to do it is not get your friends to, first of all. It's kind of cowardly. I didn't tell my friends to talk to this girl, they did it by themselves. I was going to talk to her myself but she apologized before I got the chance.

 

Secondly, be honest. I've had friend problems since 4th grade, at least 2 a year, so I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the best way to resolve conflict is to be blunt and honest... I hate beating around the bush. If they don't accept it, they're not worth your time.

 

Good luck. :3

I tell what has happened to my friends, but I've got no intention of asking them to talk with her instead of me. It's cowardly, yes. I got used to tell exactly what I feel or think - it might sound harsh, but it's still better than speaking things behind someone's back and pretend that everything's fine and talk with them like nothing's wrong.

 

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life........

 

yeah.. I've also lost a couple of friends. I guess it's inevitable.. it happens to everyone.

yeah, people change, and so do the interests. And so friends drift apart... :\

Btw, are those the lyrics of a song? What's its name?

 

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Girls are stupid.

Well said, well said. No I like girls a lot but sometimes they can be so dang complicated!

yup! we can be very complicated. but guys are sometimes complicated as well..

I'm in love with a friend. She has a boyfriend whom she's happy with. Now she knows, we haven't spoken, and I haven't a clue what to do.

 

oh. i know all about that.... except the guy was my best friend... fucking hate them both... ew....

I'm in love with a friend. She has a boyfriend whom she's happy with. Now she knows, we haven't spoken, and I haven't a clue what to do.

*hugs* Did you tell her or did she find it out by someone else? Well, you can still explain to her your feeling for her, and try to be her friend...:\

oh. i know all about that.... except the guy was my best friend... fucking hate them both... ew....

oh yeah. something similar happened to me and that's why i'm having rows with these two girls. the guy is nice though, but...:cry: :veryangry:

Well, its a complicated situation. We were together a while back but it didn't work out so we decided to be friends, although I never really stopped having feelings for her. So a few months go by and I tell her I still love her, and she has a boyfriend. I tell her I'll get over it and we stay friends and end up becoming really close, closer than we could've imagined. Then a few days ago, I told her and we haven't spoken since.

 

It doesn't help that I think her boyfriend is a total dick.

*hugs* Did you tell her or did she find it out by someone else? Well, you can still explain to her your feeling for her, and try to be her friend...:\

 

she knows now. but both of them should have known. she knew my deepest secrets and stuff and last year was probably the worst time in my life, and i told her what was happeneing and why and i thought she would realise i needed someone... and she did know, but chose not to act.

 

and him... don't get me started... it just repulses me the way it all happened with the two of them going it. fucking disgusting. the worms....