Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Pretty simple question, really. Have you ever fallen in love with someone you met online? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Never in love, I've met some pretty good friends online but in my opinion you can't actually love someone until you meet them. If you fall in love after you meet them I understand, but I just don't get how you could fall in love with an online identity as it may not be the true person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Never in love, I've met some pretty good friends online but in my opinion you can't actually love someone until you meet them. If you fall in love after you meet them I understand, but I just don't get how you could fall in love with an online identity as it may not be the true person. You can sometimes get a more true perspective of what someone's like online, though. With technology these days... I mean, take me talking to GirlA for example. I talk to her on MSN, and see her facebook. I see how she talks to other people, how other people talk to her, I see what she looks like. Then if I talk to her, remember that I talk to her one on one. Say this girl goes to my school and she acts to fit in in a specific crowd in school. Talking to her one on one you get a more real respresentation of her personality because she's not trying to impress anyone or conform to any stereotypes. I'm just saying, I spoke to a bunch of people online from school in ways and about things that many of my friends didn't believe, cause of how these people were percieved in school. I think in this day and age with all there is on the internet and the decrease in technological ignorance (in that kids and whoever else actually know how to use computers and won't be fooled as easily by someone holding a cardboard cutout of Zac Efron up on webcam pretending to be it) means it's a lot easier to know the real person and trust who you're talking to, than a lot of older people think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You can sometimes get a more true perspective of what someone's like online, though. With technology these days... I mean, take me talking to GirlA for example. I talk to her on MSN, and see her facebook. I see how she talks to other people, how other people talk to her, I see what she looks like. Then if I talk to her, remember that I talk to her one on one. Say this girl goes to my school and she acts to fit in in a specific crowd in school. Talking to her one on one you get a more real respresentation of her personality because she's not trying to impress anyone or conform to any stereotypes. I'm just saying, I spoke to a bunch of people online from school in ways and about things that many of my friends didn't believe, cause of how these people were percieved in school. I think in this day and age with all there is on the internet and the decrease in technological ignorance (in that kids and whoever else actually know how to use computers and won't be fooled as easily by someone holding a cardboard cutout of Zac Efron up on webcam pretending to be it) means it's a lot easier to know the real person and trust who you're talking to, than a lot of older people think. I see what you're saying, and I wouldn't believe in falling in love with someone based on how they seem in public either. How they act in a crowd and how they act online might be totally different, but they both might be false. Until you actually know the person for who they really are as themselves, it's hard to know if you're seeing the real them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Jack and I are a good example of that, we never really spoke very much in person prior to us talking on msn, but we became good friends through the internet I honestly believe you can actually get to know someone better online than you can in person, as long as the situation is correct Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 you can meet people and make friends online so I don't think that's impossible to fall in love with someone from the internet... but an online relationship sounds weird to me, I don't think I'd like to have a relatonship with someone I can't see... but probably it works for some people Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Like I said, if you trust that the person you're talking to is truly who they are, then I don't see any reason it wouldn't work. But how can you know for sure? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lore Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 that's a risk even in real life I think Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 that's a risk even in real life I think I guess. Just seems like it's more likely for someone to change themselves online than in person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 you can meet people and make friends online so I don't think that's impossible to fall in love with someone from the internet... but an online relationship sounds weird to me, I don't think I'd like to have a relatonship with someone I can't see... but probably it works for some people It doesn't have to be a relationship. It could be someone you feel a deep emotional attraction for, that you know online. It doesn't have to be requitted. It doesn't even have to be "love" as in the big love that you find when you're "in love". You could just as easily talk about someone you had a massive crush on, without meeting them anywhere other than online. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Sorry but that's a stupid thing people who don't use the internet and think everyone is a rapist would say It's very easy to tell if someone is genuine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 I guess. Just seems like it's more likely for someone to change themselves online than in person. I disagree, on the basis that it's easier to embarrass yourself or feel embarrassed face to face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Sorry but that's a stupid thing people who don't use the internet and think everyone is a rapist would say It's very easy to tell if someone is genuine. Then you have no idea how easy and appealing it is for some people to fake themselves online, and make it seem genuine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pseudonym Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I disagree, on the basis that it's easier to embarrass yourself or feel embarrassed face to face. Yes, but online there is more freedom. You can say anything about yourself or act in any way that you normally wouldn't, because you know the other person can't see you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 i've never fallen in love online. i only make friends and chat with them, im pessimistic when it comes to meeting people online. I just dont want to take any chances, thats just me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HorrificAttack Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I do have an idea, but I also have an idea of how easy it is to tell when someone is genuine, by having a proper conversation with them, not going "omg you are a sexy girl with boobs, wanna sex?" That was just an example btw, I wasn't in anyway implicating you with anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrMagpie Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 None of the Above, explain below. I've never liked somebody based on meeting them online. Yes I have liked people that I communicated alot with online and got to know them better online. So I would say the internet is a good tool for getting to know people better and perhaps being a catalyst in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strawberryfields Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 None of the Above, explain below. I've never liked somebody based on meeting them online. Yes I have liked people that I communicated alot with online and got to know them better online. So I would say the internet is a good tool for getting to know people better and perhaps being a catalyst in a relationship. That's what I mean. I don't mean it as in have you been in love with this person BECAUSE you met them online. :P That would be dumb. But it's just as easy to gain feelings for someone online as it is to face to face. My last girlfriend and I met online, and I knew I liked her and she liked me. I knew what she looked like because I'd seen her on webcam, in videos, in photos. I knew I was attracted to what I saw in those but at the same time I knew that it might be a different proposition face to face because as everyone knows, people can photo well. I knew I liked her personality, we got along really well. When you put those together it's easy to like someone and want to spend time with them and want to be with them. It wasn't love until a while after we met. That's just the way it happened for us, I suppose there would be circumstances where it could be, but it wasn't in my experience. But in the end I was in love with a girl I'd met online and primarily spoke to online. It wasn't always love but I definately liked her and knew I wanted to be with her much sooner than I'd first met her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 will someone interesting share their opinion? i refuse to let this drop to the depths of the lounge and have some of the stupidest threads ever about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alyssa Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 No, but I've felt like I've made really good friends online... sometimes better than my "real life" friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Only if you're very unattractive. Thanks for your enlightening and interesting opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc_squared Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Thanks for your tedious and uninteresting opinion. :lol: PWND! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Thanks for your tedious and uninteresting opinion. This would hurt if it came from someone who didn't act like a total idiot to get attention. :lol: PWND! And as for this... You're a grown man....... Look at what you said...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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