I guess it's that time of the year again for me. I've needed 2 years I think and tadaaaa here we are again.

 

I realise that I am getting tired of my current "friends" more and more. And I seriously wonder if that's normal or if I am just not able to be constantly together with other people or if I just do never ever find the right friends....

 

even my best-friend is starting to annoy me. Currently I feel not bothered to meet her. Her behaviour starts to annoy me (esp. because she does some mistakes, but I just ignore them, but if I do the same mistakes she starts complaining or asking what's wrong argh....)....

 

So, I came to the conclusion that I could never be together with just a random person

 

and the only people I can constantly be together with are my family.

 

 

I feel so confused and I am worried that I will be super lonely soon. But I can't help it. It happened to me quite a few times in my life. I feel like I only have friends...uhm to say I have friends....we do mostly not really share the same interests...and none of them really knows me....

 

my life is so super lame, because I am so super dumb...other people are just happy with their lives and their friends....and c'est ca.

 

guuh....am I the only one?:bigcry:

This thread is annoying me.

That was rude, I'm sorry.

hahah no problem...I guess it's too serious and random for this place

actually, thanks for posting this. i've been feeling the same way about some of my friends :\

I wish it was just some friends....but actually I feel that way about all of my friends....:disappointed:

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So, why have they become your friends in the first place? There must be something you like about them, something you share? :smiley:

this may sound so rude, but I am not bothered to spend my time with people who I just spend my time with just to spend some time with some people...you know?

 

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I've had my very close friends for over 3 years and i couldn't imagine my life without them.

Argh, that doesn't sound good. :\

But somehow understand that ...

So, why have they become your friends in the first place? There must be something you like about them, something you share? :smiley:

 

I became friends with my current friends just because we met at uni and we liked each other and because my best friend was friends with some people before I made friends with them,.....and we have some interests we share...whenever we want to go out or something like that I always let them decided what to do, because I am afraid they won't like what I want to do...and that's why I do everything they suggest...I think it's easy to get along with each other and to like each other...but being friends is so much more for me...I never ever had a friend I could share everything with...I don't know...maybe I expect too much and do not realise that we are all meant to be lonely deep inside...but I do not even know what to talk about with my friends except some gossip about other people...I really really get along well with my best friends...but there are some things that really annoy me...there are soooo many things she does not know about me and I feel not like telling her...

 

I don't know....currently I just feel like I'm not living, just killing time....my hobbies are at home...my family is at home and my friends....uhm well....I am so counting the days until I can move to somewhere else...

may be you are on a period of changes, or you notice your friend changes but not yours, and surely you have changed to, even if you don't notice it.

 

do your friends and you still have the same interests and priorities as you had when you became friends? surely most them have changed, and that it doesn't mean is bad.

 

i came to periods like this, when i feel my friends from high school and i are so different and i question myself why we were friends if we have "nothing" in common, but think that spend 5 years of your life 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, is a lot of time to understand why / how you became friends, and yet you have some common interests, hobbies or activities.

 

but i try not to worry too much, even when i was closer to them i didn't was like with them all the time, so i did my own stuff as they did too, but my attitude saved me to get involved in some stupid fights they had some times, and i was able to help them to fix the problem.

 

is not easy thing to do, and happiness is just a state of mind, if you start to think things are bad, you'll end feeling bad and not seeing the light under the storm.... so just change your mind. ;)

 

unless there are really serious reasons to quit your friends, like they betray you, or they have weird hobbies now.. :uhoh:

i've known some of my friends for five or six years :stunned: i think part of it for me is being on this site, i love you guys so much i begin to wish my other friends were like you guys :uhoh:

may be you are on a period of changes, or you notice your friend changes but not yours, and surely you have changed to, even if you don't notice it.

 

do your friends and you still have the same interests and priorities as you had when you became friends? surely most them have changed, and that it doesn't mean is bad.

 

i came to periods like this, when i feel my friends from high school and i are so different and i question myself why we were friends if we have "nothing" in common, but think that spend 5 years of your life 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, is a lot of time to understand why / how you became friends, and yet you have some common interests, hobbies or activities.

 

but i try not to worry too much, even when i was closer to them i didn't was like with them all the time, so i did my own stuff as they did too, but my attitude saved me to get involved in some stupid fights they had some times, and i was able to help them to fix the problem.

 

is not easy thing to do, and happiness is just a state of mind, if you start to think things are bad, you'll end feeling bad and not seeing the light under the storm.... so just change your mind. ;)

 

unless there are really serious reasons to quit your friends, like they betray you, or they have weird hobbies now.. :uhoh:

 

i thought that last bit was funny :thinking: :shrug:

and she writes me so often that she misses me and I am not able to say this, because I don't feel like that....I can go home for 3 weeks and do not miss her...I am afraid she is just a person I just spend time with...not more...shit

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and 2 years ago when I came to this town...I made some other friends, but I quit my friendship with them, because they turned out to be assholes....and in the end I realise that those were people I could spend a lot of time with and who I didn't get tired of, because we had the same interests...

i thought that last bit was funny :thinking: :shrug:

could be, but for me would be a reason to consider to quit a friend, really, i quitted some friends that were too weird at times, i don't like to be with people that can get into trouble easily, sorry if that is bad thing to do. :uhoh:

 

(ex. a friend of mine found funny to make comments on foreign people :confused: that's so weird, pointless and unrespectful, so i quitted friendship as soon and much as i could, yet when we meet we greet, but nothing more.).

its like a have this one friend who's really weird (she's extremely smart and always acknowledges that and brags and its annoying) but she has this weird obsession with musicals and she scares me now :\

Well, for some people it's hard to find friends they can talk to about everything.

I don't know ... it's hard to try to get along with people you don't actually "feel" for, I know that feeling. But maybe it's better to talk about it with them ... wether you're not talking to them at all or wether you're telling the truth will probably both make them feel unwanted. I don't know what I'd do ... I'm usually the one who keeps most of the stuff going on inside her for herself. :confused:

Well, for some people it's hard to find friends they can talk to about everything.

I don't know ... it's hard to try to get along with people you don't actually "feel" for, I know that feeling. But maybe it's better to talk about it with them ... wether you're not talking to them at all or wether you're telling the truth will probably both make them feel unwanted. I don't know what I'd do ... I'm usually the one who keeps most of the stuff going on inside her for herself. :confused:

 

I think I make and made many people feel unwanted....but not even on purpose...the same thing happened with my friends at home...when I left my home 2 years ago I really neglected them, because I found new friends here....and we spent a lot of time before I moved...and well...it's probably my fault that they are often angry with me....but not only my fault...and I am worried that the same will happen with my current friends as well...I know I wouldn't be worried if I didn't care about them, but I guess esp. my best friend has another view about friendships than I do....or I have the same view but feel she is not a real friend for me...just a person who comes and goes...

 

and I am realising that do not feel comfortable whenever I am with her...I rather feel like a child when I am with her...she tells me which clothes to wear and stuff like that...and I am often so depended of her...I visit parties because she asks me if I want to come to those parties, too....I don't know how to explain it....but I just feel like the friend of her and not like Julia when I am with her, because my real me stays inside me most of the time...

I feel smth like that when I spend tooooo much time with my best girlfriend...but it stops soon as I begin feeling lonely! Maybe the problem is that we are completely different people, I still wonder what on earth made us become friends:laugh3:Actually for me it's much more difficult to find real friend, a realy close friend:cry:

Anyway it doesn't bother me so much because my BEST-BEST-BEST-EVER-forever-ever:lol: friend is my twin brother!!!And I know I won't find anybody better than he:love: And sometimes I actually don't need anybody else in my life...

 

Do you have a boyfriend?If yes,do you feel the same about him? I guess you just have to find an appropriate person, though it is terribly difficult sometimes:(

I feel smth like that when I spend tooooo much time with my best girlfriend...but it stops soon as I begin feeling lonely! Maybe the problem is that we are completely different people, I still wonder what on earth made us become friends:laugh3:Actually for me it's much more difficult to find real friend, a realy close friend:cry:

Anyway it doesn't bother me so much because my BEST-BEST-BEST-EVER-forever-ever:lol: friend is my twin brother!!!And I know I won't find anybody better than he:love: And sometimes I actually don't need anybody else in my life...

 

Do you have a boyfriend?If yes,do you feel the same about him? I guess you just have to find an appropriate person, though it is terribly difficult sometimes:(

 

oooh you say your twin brother is your best friend....my best friends are my Mum, my Dad and my sisters...but they are at home....and those are the only people I really miss quite fast....

 

and nope I don't have a boyfriend...I guess I wasn't as depressed if I had one...but after all it's just so hard for me to find one, because I do not want to go out with any random guy who I just get along with....I seriously see no sense in this...I mean being together with someone means to spend a lot of time with that person and I couldn't spend much time with a guy I could easily get annoyed by and there are some guys who my friends thought I could fit together with and they never understand why I say no...holy shit it's so much more than just spending together imo....I mean I am supposed to love that person.......so, I rather stay lonely and listen to music