If a good good goood gooood friend suddenly is in a similar problematic situation like you've been for some months and she wants you to care for her and to visit her although you really have to study for this main problem in your life and you have the impression that she didn't really care that much for it when you came in the same situation would you feel guilty of not caring so much for her at that point?

 

the question is:

 

Does anybody get what I mean?:wacky:

Yes, and I'd be frustrated too :\

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Nope. :cheesy:

Just tell your friend why you can't, or just help each other since you have the same problem? :thinking:

Erm maybe :thinking:

 

are you saying your goood friend is an attention seeker about it? :awesome:

:nice:

I told her that I really can't visit her right now and I know she is kind of mad at me now....

 

well, I want to help her but I am afraid, because the things I would tell her are the things she doesn't want to hear from a best-friend....those advices would be the same like my father did some months ago....I hated them, but now I know he was right:\

I think John needs a hug. :mellow:

^You're not funny.

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Erm maybe :thinking:

 

are you saying your goood friend is an attention seeker about it? :awesome:

 

In some way yes....but I don't really want to think like that, because everyone is different

Is it about a guy? :thinking:

I think I'm getting your problem. :uhoh: She sounds like she's being a little bit selfish about the situation lol.

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I don't think she'll be studying about a guy...:uhoh:?

It depends on the seriousness of that problem. She should know and understand though that you need your time to study. So if she's mad at you now because you can't visit her because you're busy, that problem better be huge.

And I would feel guilty, yes, but sometimes you have to look after yourself first.

That sounded selfish. :\

Hmmm you have to think long term here maybe :thinking:

Do you think by the time it's all over that spending time with her instead of doing what you were supposed to is going to be worth it?

I think probably not, but then that's just my opinion :lol:

 

Is there any way you can compromise with her? :P

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she wants to quit uni (the thing I did almost 2 years ago) although she has only 1 semester left until she will graduate (Bachelor)...she says her grades are too bad and her nerves are too weak for all that stuff....

 

that's her situation

 

my situation is:

My boss discriminated me, my apprenticeship is a big fuck...I am supposed to have an impotant exam in some weeks/ Daaaaaysss ahhhhh and I don't even know what to study for it....and well my apprenticeship has been problematic in general so far...I am just having the impression she is making kind of a big fuss out of it....I don't know...maybe she is really weaker than me...and that's my prroblem...I guess I can't accept this, because I've made it somehow....I am afraid I don't see the seriousness in this, because none of my friends really cared for me when I had a problem, because seem to appear quite strong when I am having a problem which might happen because I have always been used to being lonely when it comes to this friendship stuff....and this is why I might not be sensitive eenough in cases llike this....:thinking:

If she's a good friend, won't she understand if you can't visit and help her as much as you want to, because your studying(or whatever your doing :blush:)? :hug:

I'd feel guilty a bit yeah. If I were you, I'd try to help her as much as I could but since I had the same problem, I wouldn't really be able to.

 

This wasn't helpful, was it. :disappointed:

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Does she have any plans what she wants to do if she quits?

Just wondering, because quitting one semester before you finish seems pretty rash to me. I know this whole bachelor thing is a huge mess and it's not easy for some people (my friend actually had a nervous breakdown because of all the stress), but she's so close.

I'm guessing she just needs your support now. She might want you to tell her not to quit and to try and that you're there for her ... but on the other hand ... I know that you need your time too and she should see that you're under a lot of stress as well.

I'd love to tell her to do the same like me but that's be stupid, because everyone is different. I don't know if she is mad, but I am afraid she is

Does she have any plans what she wants to do if she quits?

Just wondering, because quitting one semester before you finish seems pretty rash to me. I know this whole bachelor thing is a huge mess and it's not easy for some people (my friend actually had a nervous breakdown because of all the stress), but she's so close.

I'm guessing she just needs your support now. She might want you to tell her not to quit and to try and that you're there for her ... but on the other hand ... I know that you need your time too and she should see that you're under a lot of stress as well.

 

No...she doesn't.....she had plans for her master and stuff....she is having the impression that she is too stupid for this....because she studies hard sometimes but doesn't get the best grades....but on the other hand she is having a jjob at uni and those people there have important connections and she got offers from them for some cool stuff to do and well I don't know how to explain this, but she is not as bad as she thinks. so, I think quitting qould be a really stupid thing to do