Coldplaying be da home of the lonely <3

 

I know how you feel, Rudz :hug:

 

But you're an awesome guy and we love you here :hug:

exactly Rudy we love you:hug:

 

and I am sure one day you will meet the right people....I know it's stupid that I am saying that, because I feel like you so often, but I never give up hope...

... I'll make a thread about it. :sad:

 

I feel so left out these days, I tend to stay in my room alone.

 

I don't know why but it seems like my recent days are not good as they were before. I miss laughing, joking and talking randomly with my friends, but I found that the bond is keep on loosing. I'm not sure what is going on exactly though, but I try to not to blame it on others.

 

We don't really have interests in common. As they love movies and games, I hate both with my soul. I'm not sure if listening to a lot of music (and maybe being obsessed with it) bothers people, and what makes thing worse is as if I live a boring life.

 

I already lived on this earth for 19 years, but the term 'best friend' hasn't ever existed in my life. I hardly put trust on people to be so-called best friend, because I think at the end of the day, I'll be isolated. Why am I so pessimistic? I've experienced it too many times.

 

I'm in search of a best friend, if and only if he/she exists. :(

 

Sorry for being so emotional and depressing, I just need a place to pour everything that I feel, as I can't write it on my blog or twitter because they will probably stalk those websites. :freak: That's the reason why I love Coldplaying so much.

no one has a perfect life... believe it rudy! I have a lot of things in common with you i confess, about everything you said...

I just gotta say I'm with you :nice: we are

oh Rudy, i told you how much i love seeing your tweets every day, its like someone is always there, and you know how much i want you to come to NY for school!!! please dont be sad, We love you!!

You need to move to Australia so I can befriend you.

Rudy, I know how you feel cuz I'm there too

 

the truth is... friends will come and go and theres really nothing you can do about it but try and make new ones,

ones who share your interests

 

someone once told me that part of being an adult is lerning to be alone a lot of the time, i think you and i will get used to it and pick up new friends eventually. Ones you can be yourself around and share things in common with. In the mean time just focus on making yourself a better person.

 

hang in there :hug:

Rudy, I'm just like you.

... I'll make a thread about it. :sad:

 

I feel so left out these days, I tend to stay in my room alone.

 

I don't know why but it seems like my recent days are not good as they were before. I miss laughing, joking and talking randomly with my friends, but I found that the bond is keep on loosing. I'm not sure what is going on exactly though, but I try to not to blame it on others.

 

We don't really have interests in common. As they love movies and games, I hate both with my soul. I'm not sure if listening to a lot of music (and maybe being obsessed with it) bothers people, and what makes thing worse is as if I live a boring life.

 

I already lived on this earth for 19 years, but the term 'best friend' hasn't ever existed in my life. I hardly put trust on people to be so-called best friend, because I think at the end of the day, I'll be isolated. Why am I so pessimistic? I've experienced it too many times.

 

I'm in search of a best friend, if and only if he/she exists. :(

 

Sorry for being so emotional and depressing, I just need a place to pour everything that I feel, as I can't write it on my blog or twitter because they will probably stalk those websites. :freak: That's the reason why I love Coldplaying so much.

 

You're definitely not the only one on this. I think that a lot of people have similar issues w/ friends or lack there of. It's natural for you to drift apart from some people as sad as it may feel at times. It could be just from interests not lining up, or a persons actions. It does suck, but I find in some sense in the end it's helpful because for me it helps you really see your true friends.

 

Personally I'm similar in that I can be somewhat anti-social at times, but also the feeling of isolation. Unlike you I do have a best friend, but the problem is that outside of that person I don't have any other friends (except people I talk to online and family). Going to a school that I couldn't connect with people made things difficult.

 

I think that everyone has these issues at one point or another whether they want to admit it or not. I really wouldn't worry about making friends though. Clearly you have friends on this site, so I'm sure that there's plently of people you can socialize with... you just have to find them.

 

Lastly I have been in a bit of a funk lately in terms of not being productive, but just these last few days things have turned around. As I mentioned in the thread that briggins made, the only person that can really change things is yourself. I unfortunately have started to learn that sitting around letting life pass by is no way to live, so I want to change. It can be tough but it's something that you can do!

But people are so boring Rudy :(

Not all of them though.

 

Don't worry, you'll find someone :wacky: we all do.

You guys are the greatest. :hug:

Thanks for the support and advice, really appreciate it. :nice:

I agree with others. You are a cool guy and I reckon I'd hang out with you in real life. I remember I was so down a few years ago before I went to college. I felt so isolated. I had nothing in common with my friends from school and I wasn't even myself when I was around them since they wouldn't appreciate me for who I was. I remember wondering if anybody would truly get to know me and it got me really down.

 

When I went to college things changed and I met a group of like-minded people who shared my interests and outlook on life. Since then I've never looked back.

 

If I have any advice it would be on when, in the opening post, you say that you live a boring life. Are there any clubs you can join or any places you can go to, to do the things you like amongst others? That could be a good way to meet new people and it may raise your spirits. You could also try new things and try to find a new hobby as well, this way your days won't feel as wasted. In the words of Thom Yorke 'Be constructive with your blues'.

 

In the meantime, hold on to the hope that you will meet like minded people in the future. If you search for it then it will come to you. There are so many people in the world. If cannibals can meet up and form social circles then I am pretty sure a dude like you, who isn't a freak, can too! The key thing is to keep busy and putting yourself in positions where you can meet people who share your interests.

... I'll make a thread about it. :sad:

 

I feel so left out these days, I tend to stay in my room alone.

 

I don't know why but it seems like my recent days are not good as they were before. I miss laughing, joking and talking randomly with my friends, but I found that the bond is keep on loosing. I'm not sure what is going on exactly though, but I try to not to blame it on others.

 

We don't really have interests in common. As they love movies and games, I hate both with my soul. I'm not sure if listening to a lot of music (and maybe being obsessed with it) bothers people, and what makes thing worse is as if I live a boring life.

 

I already lived on this earth for 19 years, but the term 'best friend' hasn't ever existed in my life. I hardly put trust on people to be so-called best friend, because I think at the end of the day, I'll be isolated. Why am I so pessimistic? I've experienced it too many times.

 

I'm in search of a best friend, if and only if he/she exists. :(

 

Sorry for being so emotional and depressing, I just need a place to pour everything that I feel, as I can't write it on my blog or twitter because they will probably stalk those websites. :freak: That's the reason why I love Coldplaying so much.

 

Bad times will pass.

Maybe you could pinpoint the problem or the source of the problem, and when you do, think about it and sort 'scan' it in your head. See what you could do about it.

I don't believe in the term 'best friend' as I don't think we should rate our friends that way. Yes, there will be friends whom you will trust more than the rest, but the term 'best friend' is kind of over-rated and a little misuse. Is it possible to find a best friend? Remember, no one is perfect.

And sometimes it's not searching for a good friend (as I prefer calling it that way; a more genuine meaning compared to 'best friend'), it's how you make that friend a good friend.

 

When I feel down, I would love a hug. I shall give you a virtual hug.

:hug:

 

:smiley:

I agree with others. You are a cool guy and I reckon I'd hang out with you in real life. I remember I was so down a few years ago before I went to college. I felt so isolated. I had nothing in common with my friends from school and I wasn't even myself when I was around them since they wouldn't appreciate me for who I was. I remember wondering if anybody would truly get to know me and it got me really down.

 

When I went to college things changed and I met a group of like-minded people who shared my interests and outlook on life. Since then I've never looked back.

 

If I have any advice it would be on when, in the opening post, you say that you live a boring life. Are there any clubs you can join or any places you can go to, to do the things you like amongst others? That could be a good way to meet new people and it may raise your spirits. You could also try new things and try to find a new hobby as well, this way your days won't feel as wasted. In the words of Thom Yorke 'Be constructive with your blues'.

 

In the meantime, hold on to the hope that you will meet like minded people in the future. If you search for it then it will come to you. There are so many people in the world. If cannibals can meet up and form social circles then I am pretty sure a dude like you, who isn't a freak, can too! The key thing is to keep busy and putting yourself in positions where you can meet people who share your interests.

 

Goodness, Greg. What you wrote in the first paragraph explained my situation really well. I'll try to make a change, slowly. To make a change about my social life is a bit tough, as I stuck here with workloads, I don't even have time to go back home which is about 3 hours away. :|

 

I won't lose hope. I look forward to meet good awesome people in the United States next year.

 

Bad times will pass.

Maybe you could pinpoint the problem or the source of the problem, and when you do, think about it and sort 'scan' it in your head. See what you could do about it.

I don't believe in the term 'best friend' as I don't think we should rate our friends that way. Yes, there will be friends whom you will trust more than the rest, but the term 'best friend' is kind of over-rated and a little misuse. Is it possible to find a best friend? Remember, no one is perfect.

And sometimes it's not searching for a good friend (as I prefer calling it that way; a more genuine meaning compared to 'best friend'), it's how you make that friend a good friend.

 

When I feel down, I would love a hug. I shall give you a virtual hug.

:hug:

 

:smiley:

 

I know right, the term best friend is so vague. If you're a friend of someone, and realize that you're not his best friend, but you're just a friend, that sucks, isn't it?

 

Thanks for the hug, Ly. :hug:

I know right, the term best friend is so vague. If you're a friend of someone, and realize that you're not his best friend, but you're just a friend, that sucks, isn't it?

 

Thanks for the hug, Ly. :hug:

 

Yeah, especially if that's a really good friend and he keeps promoting his other friends as 'best friend'. :\

 

You're welcome. :lips:

find yourself a girlfriend who loves you ;)

what do you exactly mean by 'trend to stay in my room alone'?

i studie in another city now so i only see my familie and girlfriend in the weekend

and i didn't find some new friends who live here.

you just have to find a girl who lives near you. a girl who loves you as much as you love her.

thats something amazing, and will help you ;)

hey Rudy, I think I remember you telling me before that you'll study in another country? maybe when you get there you will eventually be able to have great friends (and a best friend) who think like you do :smiley:

 

or you can go here. I'm not that far from you :cheesy: !

... I'll make a thread about it. :sad:

 

I feel so left out these days, I tend to stay in my room alone.

 

I don't know why but it seems like my recent days are not good as they were before. I miss laughing, joking and talking randomly with my friends, but I found that the bond is keep on loosing. I'm not sure what is going on exactly though, but I try to not to blame it on others.

 

We don't really have interests in common. As they love movies and games, I hate both with my soul. I'm not sure if listening to a lot of music (and maybe being obsessed with it) bothers people, and what makes thing worse is as if I live a boring life.

 

I already lived on this earth for 19 years, but the term 'best friend' hasn't ever existed in my life. I hardly put trust on people to be so-called best friend, because I think at the end of the day, I'll be isolated. Why am I so pessimistic? I've experienced it too many times.

 

I'm in search of a best friend, if and only if he/she exists. :(

 

Sorry for being so emotional and depressing, I just need a place to pour everything that I feel, as I can't write it on my blog or twitter because they will probably stalk those websites. :freak: That's the reason why I love Coldplaying so much.

 

aww Rudy!!!!! :hug:

 

I'm not exactly sure that having a "best friend" is the answer to your problems. Take a look at me... I have friends. I have married friends, single friends, older friends, younger friends, an "adoptive mom" and guys guys guys guys to choose from. I don't want any of the guys and I've recently found out that as I have been annoyed that most of my guy friends have a crush on me :( Nooooooooooooooooo! just no!! :\

 

I think friendships hurts more than love or is it backwards? I hadn't told anyone but I lost a friend in the beginning of the year (probably as I'm trying to avoid that it actually happened) in a car accident. and I recently lost a family member about a month ago. It's been awful! It's been an awful year. I feel drained, and hopeless and helpless. I don't even know what I'm angry about anymore. I'm just ANGRY ALL THE FUCKING TIME! I just want to be left alone and I can't even do that because of this other situation.

 

I tend to care too much about people. It's my fault. You mentioned that it changed a couple of months ago. What changed between now and then? Hang in there hon! Love ya! :kiss:

 

Let me know if you need someone to talk to :hug:

Yeah, especially if that's a really good friend and he keeps promoting his other friends as 'best friend'. :\

 

You're welcome. :lips:

:botoxlips:

 

find yourself a girlfriend who loves you ;)

what do you exactly mean by 'trend to stay in my room alone'?

i studie in another city now so i only see my familie and girlfriend in the weekend

and i didn't find some new friends who live here.

you just have to find a girl who lives near you. a girl who loves you as much as you love her.

thats something amazing, and will help you ;)

How I really wish I had a girlfriend. :| :shame: :disappointed:

 

But getting a girlfriend is a good idea, at least I have someone who can understand :thinking:

 

 

 

 

 

 

:wacky: :awesome: :blush:

 

:|

 

hey Rudy, I think I remember you telling me before that you'll study in another country? maybe when you get there you will eventually be able to have great friends (and a best friend) who think like you do :smiley:

 

or you can go here. I'm not that far from you :cheesy: !

Yeah, I really hope so! I know Americans are friendly and awesome :wacky:

 

*books flight ticket to Manila* :tongue:

aww Rudy!!!!! :hug:

 

I'm not exactly sure that having a "best friend" is the answer to your problems. Take a look at me... I have friends. I have married friends, single friends, older friends, younger friends, an "adoptive mom" and guys guys guys guys to choose from. I don't want any of the guys and I've recently found out that as I have been annoyed that most of my guy friends have a crush on me :( Nooooooooooooooooo! just no!! :\

 

I think friendships hurts more than love or is it backwards? I hadn't told anyone but I lost a friend in the beginning of the year (probably as I'm trying to avoid that it actually happened) in a car accident. and I recently lost a family member about a month ago. It's been awful! It's been an awful year. I feel drained, and hopeless and helpless. I don't even know what I'm angry about anymore. I'm just ANGRY ALL THE FUCKING TIME! I just want to be left alone and I can't even do that because of this other situation.

 

I tend to care too much about people. It's my fault. You mentioned that it changed a couple of months ago. What changed between now and then? Hang in there hon! Love ya! :kiss:

 

Let me know if you need someone to talk to :hug:

 

Nothing is more awful than losing someone that we love. Especially when he/she was really close to us. Somehow I think I should appreciate my friends (and family of course) while they're around, but seems like the situations and conditions made me to end up in frustration. :disappointed:

 

Thankies :hug:

Hugs Ruby :heart: :lips: :wacky:

 

I think if we'd live close to each other and hang out, I'd call you Ruby all the time and you'd hate me :lol:

... I'll make a thread about it. :sad:

 

I feel so left out these days, I tend to stay in my room alone.

 

I don't know why but it seems like my recent days are not good as they were before. I miss laughing, joking and talking randomly with my friends, but I found that the bond is keep on loosing. I'm not sure what is going on exactly though, but I try to not to blame it on others.

 

We don't really have interests in common. As they love movies and games, I hate both with my soul. I'm not sure if listening to a lot of music (and maybe being obsessed with it) bothers people, and what makes thing worse is as if I live a boring life.

 

I already lived on this earth for 19 years, but the term 'best friend' hasn't ever existed in my life. I hardly put trust on people to be so-called best friend, because I think at the end of the day, I'll be isolated. Why am I so pessimistic? I've experienced it too many times.

 

I'm in search of a best friend, if and only if he/she exists. :(

 

Sorry for being so emotional and depressing, I just need a place to pour everything that I feel, as I can't write it on my blog or twitter because they will probably stalk those websites. :freak: That's the reason why I love Coldplaying so much.

I just noticed this thread and i'm sorry to hear that Rudy! I think we all felt that way at some point in out lives. Sometime that happens when you don't really have anything in common with some friends , i mean sure you could hang out with them but you'd have to pretend to like things you don't really like and be fake. I hated that, especially when i was in school. Sometimes i feel left out when i'm with friends i actually like because it's not the same if you stopped talking to them for a long time and then you hang out with them again. It feels a bit akward cos they've changed and other times they have other friends other than you that became really close to them and of course you feel a bit left out but that's life. I know a lot of people irl, i consider just a few friends but i can't really say that i have a best friend, mostly cos it's hard for me to open up to someone and trust completely in that person, especially because i've been backstabbed in the past by some so-called friends.

Other friends just move on and become friends with other people and they bond or they start dating and don't have time for you anymore which sucks but that doesn't mean everyone is the same. It's not your fault at all and you won't end up alone rudolph! You're one of the nicest guys i've ever talked to ( maybe you're being a bit more evil now cos you've been talking to that damn cat but still haha) and i'd totally hang out with you if you lived closer, we could prank that cat from time to time too :wacky:

 

But seriously, cheer up Ruds and hey if you need to talk about anything, just drop me a line. :hug:

I think all your great friends said everything and more than needs to be said

do know that all of us care. new AND old friends

 

I'm sorry we haven't spoken in so long. I really wish you all the best

this will pass too.. like all the other awful things in life they come and go. sometimes to bring better days but sometimes I'm sad to say you feel like crap for months, like it never ends & you would rather do things in the lines of shaving your eyebrows with duck tape or sticking your head in a fridge filled with rotten food.. than being alone surrounded by all this individuals that haven't the slighted clue about who you are & what you like even tho' they see you every day? why.. because they don't really care. life IS a bitch

 

but you have us here.. I hope that comforts you

 

hugs :nice:

:(

 

I know exactly how you feel

 

:hug:

I'm going to the same thing right now :(

although I had a best friend but I lost him...

 

but yeah I've never felt more left out, all my teacher notice it ('cause I use to be quite loud in class and I'm not these days) and they concider to call my father :uhoh:

all my "friends" are going to parties and such, but I hate parties, bad music, bad dancing and drinking + smoking :wtf: what is there to like ...

 

so I know how you feel Rudy :hug:

it sucks :angry:

( maybe you're being a bit more evil now cos you've been talking to that damn cat but still haha)

 

Why do you blame everyone's evilness on me? :disappointed:

I know EXACTLY how you feel!

 

...I hope it gets better for you. :hug: