What is your opinion on holy matrimony? Do you believe it is as well-placed and modern as ever, or is it a dated tradition? Are you married or do you want to be? What do you consider as alternatives?

I don't think marriage can ever be considered a dated tradition. But it becomes a problem when more and more people are seeking divorce. When you get married you are tied down to a set of principles and beliefs that you have to be certain of keeping which a lot of people entering into marriage do not grasp. Otherwise marriage licenses are about as truthful and honest as a Premiership footballer's contract.

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Hmmm I'm not sure, If I ever get married it would be in quite a few years time :uhoh:

But more than anything I think I would be scared of the actual wedding day XD

All of my family and the grooms family in the same room? Not sure why, but I'd probably have a panic attack.

married 6 years next month, must be doing something right.................

I like the idea of marriage, though not in a holy sense. I see it as a statement between the two people, and also an act of sharing something potentially huge. How people use their right to marriage is up to them, and providing it is not being used in something like human trafficking then I'm all for divorce too if this suits the people involved. People can devalue the act of marriage all they like on the surface as far as I'm concerned, but when I do it it will certainly mean something. If people want to get married and divorced several times then that is their prerogative. People make mistakes anyway. My marriage, if I do indeed have one will be something incredibly personal anyway, rather than just a status symbol.

 

I was looking recently at the differences between French and British marriages. A marriage has certain religious ties, whether you have that wedding within a church or other place of worship or not at all. When it comes to civil partnerships, in England this is only available to same sex couples and not between a man and a woman. In France civil partnerships are available to both same sex couples and men and women, however they are seen as inferior to marriages and not recognised as highly.

 

The introduction of civil partnerships began much earlier in France, though has not progressed as quickly as in Britain and I'm unsure of the factors why.

 

I would like civil partnerships to be available in Britain for anybody who wants one, rather than just same sex. I think I would have a civil partnership if it was available and recognised by the state in the same way as a regular marriage, as it would be pointless to miss out on the benefits of marriage (tax reasons etc) simply to make a point about religion. Obviously tax reasons is not something I would get married for haha, but it's pointless passing up on that offer.

 

 

 

 

 

I could be massively wrong about this though and marriage may not have to be religious when you don't get married in a church, but I'm sure the state recognises it as at least semi-religious. I'm starting to doubt it now.

 

I just looked up that there is Common Law marriage but it is seen as informal.

I am in favor of the "tradition" of marriage. But couples should be sure they are getting married for the right reasons. and be willing to work through problems when they come up.

 

 

my parents have been married 20 years.

But couples should be sure they are getting married for the right reasons. and be willing to work through problems when they come up.

 

Very true indeed. Far too many people don't get married for the right reasons, and take it all far too lightly.:dozey:

married 6 years next month, must be doing something right.................

 

That's awesome :)

 

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But couples should be sure they are getting married for the right reasons. and be willing to work through problems when they come up.

totally agree with you on this one. So many peopkle out there are getting married for all the wong reasons. it seems its just the fashionable thing these days.

totally agree with you on this one. So many peopkle out there are getting married for all the wong reasons. it seems its just the fashionable thing these days.

 

Yes, and fashionable to have big, expensive "showbiz"-style weddings too, which says it all, really.............................. :dozey:

 

Exactly. How those two ever ended up together in the first place, I shall never know.................... :dozey:

Their marriage was clearly doomed to failure from the word go.

Yes, and fashionable to have big, expensive "showbiz"-style weddings too, which says it all, really.............................. :dozey:

 

Wut.

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I think the best age for someone to get married is in their mid twenties. after they have gone through collage. and I only if they truely love eachother. not if they only love eachother becuase one of them is rich or something.

Racial Fux.

I think the best age for someone to get married is in their mid twenties. after they have gone through collage. and I only if they truely love eachother. not if they only love eachother becuase one of them is rich or something.

 

I couldn't imagine getting married in the next few years. I doubt I'm gonna married before I'm 30. I think I'm far too young, I don't really know what I wanna do with my life.

 

My family seems to think that I should be getting married, which is quite annoying. Even my nan asked me when I'm getting married when I went home for Christmas. :thinking:

 

 

Btw I like your avatar. Reminds me of my first dog.

thanks :) that dog is seven years old and still acts like a puppy.

 

 

 

I am not going to be married untill I am at least 25 maybe later depending on how things go.

Mine never really grew up haha Is it a Golden Retriever?

 

 

I think it would be different if I had met my partner when I was like 17. I only met my boyfriend about three years ago and we haven't been able to live together for very long because he had to move back home after he finished uni.

I sort of think it's dated. I mean when you think about it it's really only a piece of paper that really states that someone is together, that's all you're really doing I guess is making legal.

 

 

At the same time from what other people have mentioned I think it is good because it shows how you really care for someone and are willing to take it to the level of being with that person for the rest of your life.

 

I guess for me I sort of think that people make a really big deal out of it. Like my cousin spent like probably 30-50 thousand dollars for just one day.

I think marriage is a concept and something personal to somebody so they can treat it however they want to. I'd want people to treat it with respect, but I honestly don't care. People can make their own problems by entering into contracts with people who they won't be with forever. They are idiots and can deal with whatever they choose. Marriage can be whatever you want it to be.

 

 

Let's talk arranged marriage.

it's really only a piece of paper that really states that someone is together, that's all you're really doing I guess is making legal.[/color]

and that piece of paper also means the federal government can take more money out of both of you than when you were legally 'single'

 

/currentlybeingfinanciallyrapedbypaying

thousandsmoreintaxesthanwhenIseparatelyfiledtaxes

I'm definitely in favour of marriage, but I don't have a problem with people who are in a relationship and live together without being married. I just know that when I am in a serious relationship, I would really like to get married. I'm too old-fashioned and romantic not too. :P

 

But I think it is something that needs to be taken seriously; if a young couple gets married just for the "fun of it", and to get attention and money (socials are massive where I live. I think they're ridiculous), I don't agree. They'll probably be divorced a year later, and that is more trouble than any of it was worth.

 

Marriage should be a comittment, not something that people do just for the sake of doing it. :shrug: