tonight i had all of my problems with meeting people perfectly outlined by my friend lee. lee makes great first impressions with women, and has the looks and charm. they throw themselves all over him. his problem is that once he gets past that first step, he makes a complete ass of himself and loses any interest. and yet girls will always throw themselves at him, and he'll always blow it with every single one of them.

 

meanwhile, i have the opposite problem. i'm extremely shy around new people, and, i'll be honest, i'm not really that attractive, so it's hard for me to get that first chance. but once i do, and once i get past that first step, i've got it made, because i am a genuinely nice, considerate, caring person. and hardly anybody other than the few actual girlfriends i've had will ever know or care.

 

so lee brought a new potential girlfriend over tonight, and this is what happened:

 

- i make conversation with her while lee walks around asking, "can i touch my penis?"

- i actually remember things about her like her major, where she goes to school, her hometown, while lee talks about how he doesn't like japanese people

- i help her walk home through the snow and ice while lee staggers behind yelling at cars

- i give her a few bucks to take a cab the rest of the way home (because it becomes clear that we're not walking all the way there and back on a sheet of ice at 2 am through some rough neighborhoods) while lee tells me to go home so he can take her back to her place and "get it on"

 

and after all this, it ends with her giving lee the goodbye hug and kiss while i'm barely able to get her attention to say "it was nice to meet you." it's not like i was even trying to make a good impression or anything, that's just how i am.

 

i know every nice guy goes through this stuff, and it's typical, and blah blah blah, and a bunch of girls have already told me "well if it were me i would recognize who they right person is," then gone off to make plans with some other guy that i don't have the heart to tell them is completely wrong for them. i'm just sick of it. and angry. so if you want to tell me to shut up and stop whining, go ahead. frankly, i don't care.

you have every right to be like that. You're not whining, you're just sick and tired of this scenario happening, which it does happen, all the time, to good guys. I know that situation all too well... Girls are always like "I just want a nice guy" and then they stop answering your calls and the next thing you hear about them is that they're having sex with their best friend's boyfriend. Girls who say one thing and do the opposite are confused, dont bother with those girls, especially if they're attracted to someone like Lee. Find a girl who not only says what she wants, but actually goes for it. This lee guy doesnt sound like a great friend, otherwise, he wouldnt have acted like that while you were trying to make a good impression on a girl, he should have given you space, but instead he seems like a spotlight whore who needs attention from every girl he meets. I feel your pain.

lee sounds stupid. maybe she likes stupid funny people? or maybe she was looking for something else? or maybe she wasn't interested at all. who knows? :huh:

Lee doesnt sound like a funny guy, I think he'd annoy the crap out of me. "Uh huh huh, can I touch my penis???" Like, OMG, like that is soooo FuNnY!! *vomits*

 

You gotta be more witty than that to have a real sense of humor. He's trying to compensate for something.

:lol:

 

I'd like to have you on my side if I was in an arguement!

i'd think he was a dumb ass. :rolleyes:

 

do you think the girl thought the same thing? probably not :huh:

the thing about Lee is that he turns into the most obnoxious asshole in the world when

 

a) he gets the slightest amount of alcohol in him

or

2) he gets within 50 feet of a single woman.

 

unfortunately he had both tonight. in all honesty, he's not a bad person, or a bad friend, he just has terrible self-control problems.

i was going to ask if he was drunk.

 

staggering and yelling at cars :rolleyes: :lol:

a good test for friendship would be to confront him about this problem and let him know how it makes you feel when he does this sorta stuff. Work on a solution or set-up boundaries, like he isnt allowed to interrupt when you're with a girl. Or isnt allowed to drink when you're with a girl. A real friend would respect that. Maybe he is a real friend, if so, he'd respect your feelings.

:lol:

 

I'd like to have you on my side if I was in an arguement!

 

who me?

Yep :)

aw thankyou! Well, if the time ever comes, let me know

Hey Tom take it easy m8 - it's difficult in those situations - the best thing to consider is keeping other company where you don't have to contend with people who take all the attention. Girls r strange creatures - they often go for the most loud guys on the basis they see them as more 'macho' (can't think of a better word!) but it always ends in something pointless and short lived but hey that's their loss - just keep going - there are different and special girls out there, you just have to find them :D

Ok it sounds to me like, yeah even though your friend was acting like an arsehole, the problem is really with the girl! if she can't recognise a good guy when she see's one then she is very stupid!! she might have just been looking for some arsehole to have a laugh with but if she was then she shouldn't have given you the impression that she did! :( :rolleyes:

 

anyway Tom you do seem like a really nice Guy and if this girl acted like that well then you deserve much much better!!

Hope you're ok! :kiss:

reading into it....

 

1. you're acting as his sidekick! stop it...

2. It was his potential girlfriend... one thing girls don't really like is their boyfriends friends hitting on them. Being nice is fine, but even though you said you weren't interested it sounded like you were.

3. there's a fundamental difference between being friends with a girl and girlfriends. And that is the crossing of the line between you being the knight in shining armour to your jerk of a friend, and telling someone that you want to be more than friends..

 

ask yourself if that evening was a waste of your time... and then why!!!

 

here endeth the lesson from an old fogey who should know better... :)

i honestly wasn't interested in her, and i definitely was not hitting on her. i guess i pointed it out more because i'm jealous of how lee has this great gift and has no idea what to do with it than because i'm mad that she didn't fall for me or something like that.

 

put it this way: i'm pissed off at girls in general, not necessarily this girl. and i know that's means the problem lies with me, not everybody else, blah blah blah.

 

there's no way for me to say anything about this that doesn't make me sound like an immature crybaby anyway, so i'm not going to bother after this one.

 

thanks for all of your advice, though. :D

if all else fails

 

befreind a badger :D

:lol:

 

or a hammy :o ;)

:huh: i wish that we could all just get into the heads of members of the opposite sex for the day, because to be quite honest as a girl most of the guys that have approached me have been the 'lee' types, who i am completely uninterested in, not to mention they are usually uninterested in me as well. i wish everyone could just walk around with signs saying "this is what i want." i don't know what the correct answer, but if its any consolation, there are plenty of girls that are sitting around being angry and bitter about guys not liking them... or at least one, which is me.... :confused:

yeah the problem isnt stupid girls or stupid boys (and trust me, i've meet just 1 to many of those) but stupid PEOPLE. No need to bash the oppistite sex, but just... ARGH! I dont know... some people should just have a good beating once in a while!

:kiss: there there tom peed..

awwww

 

just remember though, TOM PEED IS SO FRICKIN COOOOOOOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

dont worry boot girls eh.. the quiet ones probably like you but dont bother to say anything boot it

i wish everyone could just walk around with signs saying "this is what i want."

 

 

hmm, i just got an idea for a T-shirt

i wish everyone could just walk around with signs saying "this is what i want."

 

 

hmm, i just got an idea for a T-shirt

 

ooooh... can i see what it looks like when you're done?

here

:lol: