Right, I have 3rd cousin

 

I get on really well with her and we chat all the time, but I absolutely I love her, she beautiful, smart, cute , clever, kind etc

 

Would it be wrong to date her or do anything

 

But then I remember that her dad was adopted, so that doesn't really make me her cousin

 

As title say, any opinions, advice etc

 

Thanks for any of your kind advice, help thoughts

 

Thanks

Does she act those ways because you're a distant relative?

 

Do you see this person at family gatherings etc?

No I genuinely think she is like to everyone and all the time in life

 

I have seen her once as few years ago at a funeral

 

Hopefully seeing her and family thus summer

Is this the same girl?

this[/url] the same girl?

 

No tash

You've had loads of girl problems so far.

You've had loads of girl problems so far.

 

Well maybe he's a socially awkward penguin :I

Well maybe he's a socially awkward penguin :I

 

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Well maybe he's a socially awkward penguin :I

 

Your prob not to far right

Your prob not to far right

 

 

 

You might be pathetic with your little useless wiggly arms, but you're still darn cute :wacky:

 

 

You might be pathetic with your little useless wiggly arms, but you're still darn cute :wacky:

 

 

Why Thankyou, will take that as a compliment..... I think ha

The only issue really is her being my 3rd cousin but is she when her dad is adopted

Idk, it depends on whether she thinks it's weird or not.

 

I don't think your babies will come out as mutants, so you're probably okay.

Third cousins is like... great-grandparent's sibling's crotchfruit, isn't it? The dad being adopted would only mean not related if he married into the family.

 

It depends on whether she thinks it's weird. It also may be a bit hard to make too many advances at a family gathering environment if you're that worried about it. Of course, this is all assuming you can actually talk to her (more than small talk preferable) without it being a shambles.

 

Although, if you last saw her once at a funeral years ago, I am curious, what has spurred the interest here?

Part 2

 

We going to visited her and the family soon,

 

Is it best for me to tell my mum and then talk to her when I get there or see her and make my mind up then tel my mum after then tell her??

 

What's best, or should I not wait

 

Many thanks for any help

Maybe it's better to see how she feels about you and then, if works out, jump in.

 

Good luck! :happy2:

Maybe it's better to see how she feels about you and then, if works out, jump in.

 

Good luck! :happy2:

 

How you mean jump in?

 

Could you re write your message again please in idiot form please haha

 

And Thankyou for your reply

^ "jump in" as in "follow along/go with her"

^ "jump in" as in "follow along/go with her"

 

yeah, it's that. Thanks Batman ;)

:batman:

Third cousins is like... great-grandparent's sibling's crotchfruit, isn't it? The dad being adopted would only mean not related if he married into the family.

 

It depends on whether she thinks it's weird. It also may be a bit hard to make too many advances at a family gathering environment if you're that worried about it. Of course, this is all assuming you can actually talk to her (more than small talk preferable) without it being a shambles.

 

Although, if you last saw her once at a funeral years ago, I am curious, what has spurred the interest here?

 

 

^What she said... Btw cobalt's input it's always spot on, had forgotten how much I like reading your posts :D

 

We going to visited her and the family soon,

 

Is it best for me to tell my mum and then talk to her when I get there or see her and make my mind up then tel my mum after then tell her??

 

What's best, or should I not wait

 

Many thanks for any help

 

Maybe it's better to see how she feels about you and then, if works out, jump in.

 

Good luck! :happy2:

 

^That too, also talk to your mom if you're gonna jump in.

^ :blush:

 

I think I meant to say not married into the family... of course it's not gonna matter if he married in. Silly!

 

I dunno what this talking to mom biznez is about lol

What I mean is

 

Should I speak to my mum about liking her, before we go to visit

 

Or

 

See her, and then tell my mum afterwards, then poss not see her for a while after I spoken to mum and her about it

 

You understanding me now?

 

Sorry not the clearest poster

No, why on earth would you need to tell your mum as a requirement lol

^ :blush:

 

I think I meant to say not married into the family... of course it's not gonna matter if he married in. Silly!

 

I dunno what this talking to mom biznez is about lol

 

What I mean is

 

Should I speak to my mum about liking her, before we go to visit

 

Or

 

See her, and then tell my mum afterwards, then poss not see her for a while after I spoken to mum and her about it

 

You understanding me now?

 

Sorry not the clearest poster

 

When is it that you're seeing her again?

 

No, why on earth would you need to tell your mum as a requirement lol

 

I wouldn't see it as a requirement, but my mom usually freaks out big time over everything. Mostly what family thinks about me and whatnot (I wouldn't really care if only my mom wouldn't go all over the top about the smallest things).

 

So if I was in his shoes I will tell my mom, not really asking for her consent because generally people add stuff up to situations just to make it look worse so if I'd told my mom beforehand, she wouldn't have to find out through someone else who would make it look like I am committing incest or corrupting family members or whatever else.