Over here it means sharing a house with other people,be they friends or strangers,I've had a bad run,I lost count of the number of times that i have had to move over the last few years,either I had to leave because of various reasons,or I could not find another flatmate,cos someone left,just recently moved into a new flat,fingers crossed.

 

So I am wondering if any of you have had the same experience,or how things went etc,have you got any horror stories,I mean the flatmate from hell type thing!!! :lol:

well....I've never had this kind of experience....

Well I guess it might be quite hard at the beginning....

But then It might be better...

 

I couldn't take part in flattering...I find it quite weird...even if it can be a good experience...I used to live alone...well, even if i live with my mother and my brother...But she is away during all the week, and I see my brother when he gets up and the evening when he's back from his job....

 

and...what were you doing when you argue with someone...?

I know someone who has to keep moving flats because his flatmates keep leaving him, or he gets in such strong arguments that he forces himself to leave (Despite holding on for a long, long time).

 

And its no surprise, hes just intolerable, people like that should be locked up, or they should take a long hard look at themselves and assess why the hell they are so unreasonable, weird and awkward when they could be perfectly fine human beings.

 

I never mention where he lives when I see him these days because he's just going to start up again on why people are ganging up on him, yet again. And I know some of the people he's lived with and they are perfectly fine, hes just an absolute freak.

 

I've had no problems with anyone in my flat this year, I'm living with 3 friends in a house next year and it should be good.

 

And its no surprise, hes just intolerable, people like that should be locked up, or they should take a long hard look at themselves and assess why the hell they are so unreasonable, weird and awkward when they could be perfectly fine human beings.

 

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I am living with my parents until I start school. Meanwhile, I already have had for some months now a flat/apartment in the city I will be schooling at. I go there to spend odd days from time to time until it becomes more permanent.

 

 

and I LOVE the feeling of living alone :D

 

I have got to say that this Crystal is too fond of "flatting" (or "rooming"/"boarding") with anyone :confused:

 

I am a total loner.

 

 

BUT I think if the cash flow is not consistent, I might have to get a mate to board with me in the extra bedroom :wacky:

 

 

Is this recommendable for a loner?! (advise please)

I dont understand you Crystal. No, I get you completely, wanting to be a loner, wanting to grow old, whether or not you actually want to do these things. They may seem cool to say and then look like a mysteriously odd character, but you'll see when its 8pm on a Tuesday afternoon and your house seems big and cold, and theres nothing to do but come on here and be very, very bored.

 

Get a housemate. I know the feeling of living alone may seem appealing, yknow its like, you can do whatever the hell you want without question from anyone, but thats just so anti-social if you are going to do it for 9 months. Sometimes its better to have a consistent contact that part-manages you and plays a role in your life, just make sure this person is right for you.

 

I have 3 people who will look after me and I'll do the same for them, maybe you feel you dont need to be looked after, but company is definately needed when youre independant for the first time.

 

Best o'luck.

I dont understand you Crystal. No' date=' I get you completely, wanting to be a loner, wanting to grow old, whether or not you actually want to do these things. They may seem cool to say and then look like a mysteriously odd character, but you'll see when its 8pm on a Tuesday afternoon and your house seems big and cold, and theres nothing to do but come on [i']here[/i] and be very, very bored.

 

Get a housemate. I know the feeling of living alone may seem appealing, yknow its like, you can do whatever the hell you want without question from anyone, but thats just so anti-social if you are going to do it for 9 months. Sometimes its better to have a consistent contact that part-manages you and plays a role in your life, just make sure this person is right for you.

 

I have 3 people who will look after me and I'll do the same for them, maybe you feel you dont need to be looked after, but company is definately needed when youre independant for the first time.

 

Best o'luck.

 

okay..so i sorted though the bull of your post. I have no intentions of making myself "look" mysterious of cool in the eyes of unknown strangers at cp...k?

 

 

I undertand the way you think living alone makes you anti social and all...very natural-like

 

BUT i will work a large chunk of the time and school another chunk of the time I am alive. Right? Yes.

 

And I will have time for entertainment. And I will have friends. That does not change if I live alone. I mean, it's like now. I don't LIVE with my friends while I live here with my parents...but we do go out and entertain ourselves. How is that different once I move out? They will still exist. We just go to sleep in different locations.

Right? Yes.

 

This is the attitude I love the most!

 

I'll skip my irrelevant opinions on the rest of your post.

such a difficult shell, you are Reilly?

 

I asked for advice not based on some kind of weird character analysis of what you think I am or trying to be with my posts!

Haha, ok thats fair enough (But I actually do enjoy this impersonal banter we have)

 

OK so I was being a bit dramatic, you wont be alone ALL the time but I'm telling you, its an effort you have to make to go meet people. This year I lived in a building full of people, and you could walk 30 seconds to any of your friends rooms, and see them, and by doing so I'd get to meet some really nice friends which I'll keep with me for the next years to come.

 

So it was kind of a natural thing to just happen.

 

For you I think it may be harder, if your friends are all living together and maybe you have to make an effort just to be around and join in their activities, you'll end up feeling left out. Ive seen it happen, a guy who we used to hang around with regularly moved out of our building and we still met up with him going out in town and played football and whatever, but he was never really just around for doing stupid small things like just hanging out in people's rooms for 10minutes. He ended up missing out on all the inside jokes and just the things that happen.

 

Entertainment costs money, I'd be amazed if you have enough money to keep yourself out of the house or interested every night of the week, because it just doesnt work like that.

 

But obviously its different if you already have friends, I had to go to a different country and make them, it would've been very hard if I didnt live in a building with 40 people.

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and I LOVE the feeling of living alone :D

 

I have got to say that this Crystal is too fond of "flatting" (or "rooming"/"boarding") with anyone :confused:

 

I am a total loner.

 

 

I'm with you. I could never leave with a flatmate, I have lots of unreasonable habits that I enjoy by myself only.

I've never lived alone, though I'm wishing to get a job as soon as I finish highschool to be able to afford a place of my own. I shared a room with my brothers til last year, I sleep alone now and you wouldn't believe the difference. I need my own space.

I'm with you. I could never leave with a flatmate, I have lots of unreasonable habits that I enjoy by myself only.

I've never lived alone, though I'm wishing to get a job as soon as I finish highschool to be able to afford a place of my own. I shared a room with my brothers til last year, I sleep alone now and you wouldn't believe the difference. I need my own space.

 

 

Mai, (and Reilly, take a read and you will better understand my character)

 

This is reasonable..the wanting to live alone. I have gone to movies with friends, and I have (most recently) gone to movies alone. Alone, I enjoy a movie ten times better. I get to pick it, I pick the seat, I pick when and where. And If I don't like the film, I can just leave all of these things are an amazing relief.

 

Other things are enjoyed by me in that same state. I mean I have friends, we go out...but I love the freedom of making my entertainment purely my own!

 

I suppose it's growing up with numerous siblings and family members and friends always around! This becomes annoying after many years of exposure. I have gotten tired of always having to do and go out when it is most convenient for anyone else. If I have to be spending MY money and MY time...I should at least make it worthwhile.

 

Call me greedy and self-centered. Go ahead.

 

I suppose I would kick out the "flat" mate the first day with thoughts like these.

This is reasonable..the wanting to live alone. I have gone to movies with friends' date=' and I have (most recently) gone to movies alone. Alone, I enjoy a movie ten times better. I get to pick it, I pick the seat, I pick when and where. And If I don't like the film, I can just [i']leave[/i] all of these things are an amazing relief.

 

Other things are enjoyed by me in that same state. I mean I have friends, we go out...but I love the freedom of making my entertainment purely my own!

 

I suppose it's growing up with numerous siblings and family members and friends always around! This becomes annoying after many years of exposure. I have gotten tired of always having to do and go out when it is most convenient for anyone else. If I have to be spending MY money and MY time...I should at least make it worthwhile.

 

 

 

You're so right, I've gone to movies both with friends and alone, and doing it by myself is better. I hate when the person next to me asks 'what did he/she say, I didn't get to read it (most movies are subtitled over here)' Big no-no. Do not speak during the movie. I know I can laugh at the things I understand and I don't have to explain my reasons, I love it.

Somehow I get that same feeling when I listen to music alone, singing and analyzing the lyrics at the same time.

Tell you what would be awesome, being in a movie completely alone. That'd be sweet........carry on.

I should start flatting when I go to Uni

but first I plan to bivi for pretty much an entire year

 

I like people but I also like being without them

I like getting into my house and see that is warm and there's someone to talk

but I also like when it's cold and silent

 

the thing is, can people handle my clumsyness?

I just lived 6 weeks with a guy on a tent in the middle of nowhere

I hadn't seen him before

it was funny and I didn't have freedom at all

We didn't speka the same language or anything that made us close

 

but I enjoyed it and enyojed being on my own after that

Everything you write looks like a poem.

 

And umm... so you just went to some tent with some guy who doesn't even speak your language and sat their for 6 weeks? or is there something I'm not getting?

yes, I forgot to mention we were on an expedition

he was british and I was a "local" venturer

and since I was the youngest and smallest

I had to share my tent with him, the biggest

 

it was funny

after I learned how to keep the tent clean and dry

and he doesn't speak a word of spanish

but I can speak english

and I tried to teach him some spanish

but I failed

 

and we did not sat there all the time

we were kayacking through Patagonia's fiords

and counting animals

 

it was pretty funny

I think I missed all the important details

haha counting animals

well, Huemules to be exact

i's a kind of deer in danger of extinction

very small, brown animal

that lives in Patagonia

and sourthern Chile

and Argentina I believe

I lived by myself for a while and I really loved it actually....... being alone is good for some people I think......

at least for a while...... I don't know if I'd do it forever...... but....... I actually liked it for the time I was there.... it was on like 5 acres

I used to live alone until I had a break in which wasn't nice. I was lucky and managed to get out safe... but but I haven't been well after that....

I lived by myself for a while and I really loved it actually....... being alone is good for some people I think......

 

 

I think that about sums it up ya'll.

Interesting comments,I also agree living by yourself certainly has it's good points,but I've been there and done that and it can get a bit lonely/weird,especially if you are used to having ppl around....

 

But in the end living by yourself is a lot less hassle,you dont have to worry about anyone and you can do whatever you want...only thing is it costs a lot more....