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But yeah uh... my sister wrote this blog that i can relate to, and... it almost made me cry, heh. I didn't cry because she was looking at me while I was reading it.

 

EDIT:

 

http://www.coldplaying.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1001702&postcount=11789

I would be interested to read it alyssa...:)

this thread is so useless... haha...

 

ahahaha, wow. i'm crying. :cry:

I could write this story. No, really, my family is similar.

 

I mean, when our dad lived with us, he used to buy me different stuff, he was even kind, he always used to say that it's his house, his chairs, his plates. If I broke something, he screamed as hell, he used to say that me and my sis, we have to thank him every day, we have to understand how much he gives us, that we're so happy to have computers and own rooms.

 

And yeah, he was right, of course, but he wasn't a father, he was just like a man lived next door.

 

We've never even talked well since I was 5. He could only ask me to wash or to clean something or to cook or whatever, he never asked me how do I feel, how's my school and all that dads usually ask about.

 

Besides, he was drunk 5 days a week and he shouted at my mom, at me, at my sis when he was drunk.

 

I've never loved him really 'cos for me he was like a kind of a monster who beats my mom and ruins our family.

 

Then, after all, when my mom fell sick, he just left us and I haven't seen him for 5 years already. He called a few times, but he was drunk and all he could say that he loves me and my sis and all, but that's all.

 

Now I guess it's good that he left. Of course, my sister and mom need to work more and all, but at least we have a normal family.

 

Uh, sorry, that was a bit random.

I could write this story. No, really, my family is similar.

 

I mean, when our dad lived with us, he used to buy me different stuff, he was even kind, he always used to say that it's his house, his chairs, his plates. If I broke something, he screamed as hell, he used to say that me and my sis, we have to thank him every day, we have to understand how much he gives us, that we're so happy to have computers and own rooms.

 

And yeah, he was right, of course, but he wasn't a father, he was just like a man lived next door.

 

We've never even talked well since I was 5. He could only ask me to wash or to clean something or to cook or whatever, he never asked me how do I feel, how's my school and all that dads usually ask about.

 

Besides, he was drunk 5 days a week and he shouted at my mom, at me, at my sis when he was drunk.

 

I've never loved him really 'cos for me he was like a kind of a monster who beats my mom and ruins our family.

 

Then, after all, when my mom fell sick, he just left us and I haven't seen him for 5 years already. He called a few times, but he was drunk and all he could say that he loves me and my sis and all, but that's all.

 

Now I guess it's good that he left. Of course, my sister and mom need to work more and all, but at least we have a normal family.

 

Uh, sorry, that was a bit random.

 

not random at all

 

:( I'm sorry. Now i feel like i have no right to complain about my parents. :cry: I mean, I love them, and my parents don't drink, and they've never hurt me physically (though they have my sister, which pisses me off), they're just very very very naive. My sister has all the right to complain... though... not me.

She really has NO reason to be grateful...the bills they pay, and the things they provide monetarily do not make up for anything else they DONT give. Love.

 

I mean, what if they were poor and coudn't provide the things they throw in her face? Then what would she have to be grateful for? Nothing.

 

 

It's so unfair how parents get away with actions like this, just becuase they have the age of an adult.

 

I hope she high-tails it outta there as soon as she can. And never looks back.

 

She and I are basically on the same boat. But that is too deep to discuss in a public place like this.

mhhh .god,

it's almost like my family

i guess i wrote it down somewhere.

i totally understand you, alyssa.

 

is he like that to you too?

Wow. That's incredibly sad. It really makes me appreciate my family more. I mean, yeah, we've had our moments. I remember my dad throwing a freakin' heavy oak chair at me while I was sitting on my bed one time. I also remember my dad sending me to military school because I didn't have a job, then my mom stopping him like one week before I was supposed to go.

 

But that's nothing compared to this. I'm terribly sorry for this situation.

:( Im sorry Alissa and Lera , i mean its not pitty or nothing like that its suport hehe :)

i always thought that we're the only "not ordinary" family.

my dad freaks out pretty fast but then again he's very kind and all that but he never hurt me (only in an emotional way).

but my parents don't know me either. they just don't care. soemtimes i just wanna run away and never come back.

but i guess there are many people out there who feel the same ... :(

it's easy to focus on what someone does wrong and blame things on them. relationships are a two way thing also. you have to try to have a relationship and if you really want one and want to prove you want one you have to try hard. Complaining to people on myspace isn't going to help a relationship... she should be saying those things to them but instead of making the theme of "this is what you did wrong" she should try to make the theme of "let's make a relationship starting now"

Thats a heart wrencher indeed.

 

Good point by Eric though.

 

*Useless commentary post* hahaha

sorry, this is:

 

spam spam spam

 

But yeah uh... my sister wrote this blog that i can relate to, and... it almost made me cry, heh. I didn't cry because she was looking at me while I was reading it.

 

EDIT:

 

http://www.coldplaying.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1001702&postcount=11789

 

Oh god, im crying! :cry: Im so sorry about that Alyssa.

 

I can relate to so much of that. It's kind of theraputic to read...

Bah I spent about 30 minutes typing out what I was going to say and then the page froze! Argh!:dozey: So let me cut it short this time.. :idea2:

 

I don't have a relationship with my father. Sometimes I feel bad when someone randomly asks me about my dad because I honestly, honestly forget I still have a father and that he is still alive. Not everyone has a relationship with their parents and that's okay :)

 

Last time I saw my father (which was a couple of years back) it was fine the first couple of hours. I was willing to give it a chance to the situation. Unfortunately, as the minutes went by he started to get verbally abusive towards me in front of everyone. Hours later, he then tried to bride me with saying that he was going to leave everything to me which it then lead to him bossing me around and saying how I should do whatever he wants me to do if I want him to leave everything to me. He then tried to lecture me about life, respect, between right and wrong and all that stuff. At that moment, I couldn't help it but to laugh my ass off. It was so funny to me and of course my laughter only made him more upset and got heated and tried to hit me. I finally said everything I needed to say and ended my "relationship" with him. I know my words really hit him and was hurt but what could he expect..really..

 

Relationships are two way. Both persons have to be willing to try but when one stops trying, stops caring, stops wanting to still have a relationship with that other person.. there's really nothing anyone can do.

 

But it seems like your sister may still get what she wants, Alyssa. She just need to talk to them about it. The way she described her mother treating her makes it sounds as if she was she was raped (your mother) hope it not the case :)

Reading this thread, it reminds me how lucky I am that both my mother and father are still together, without any troubles.

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That's great to hear Dave. It makes me happy to see that with older couples.. :nice: Do you have any siblings?:)