First of all, let me start by setting the scene of my life right now at the moment!! I am 51, married and I have a 22 year old son who I love to death and will never ever hurt in anyway!! I love and care for my husband but i dont love him in a sexual way and anyway we both cant have sexual relations due to all my husbands illnesses and all the meds he has to take and everything!! Also, I am in the Uk right now and he is in the USA but I am returning back to him after a lengthy stretch out of the country for various reasons!!

 

Anyway, I live alone right now in a bedsit in a block of 8 other bedsits!! The thing is, one day, while I was in the kitchen I heard the strains of a Coldplay song coming from somewhere very close!! The song was Lost! from VLV!! Anyway, my curiosity got the better of me and I went and traced where the music was coming from!! It was from the bedsit directly above me and the guy and I eventually became firm freinds and then the inevitable happened!! We started having feelings for each other and we ended up being extremely close and very soon things started getting sexual, perhaps out of sheer desperation cos we both have been through some very tough situations in life and were both devoid of partners!! The thing is, I am very principled and even religious/spiritual and have strong morals regarding sex!! I have been riddled with guilt and everything that I decided to confront this guy this evening and tell him that I didnt want to get involved in him sexually because of my loyalty and love for my husband and my son, plus the fact that I will be rejoining my husband soon!!

 

The thing is I am in such pain right now physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, that I turned this guy down, but also because even though I love my husband, I dont love him sexually!! But, to me it is unthinkable for me to betray my family all for some forbidden pleasure!! Also, I turned him down, cos I was scared that I could catch something!!! But thing is I really do have deep feelings for this guy!!

 

I am in such emotional and mental turmoil right now!!!!

 

I guess, I just need a shoulder to cry on right now and need some help!!!!!:cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry:

i don't mean to be rude but why do you come to a forum full of strangers to tell this to?

LOL

Sorry but most of us in this forum are teens or early-late 20s we can't really relate to what you're going through... but if write it down and post it on here has made you feel better good for you.

I guess, I just need a shoulder to cry on right now and need some help

 

you and me both.

Just me who found this funny?

actully i think its quite funny too:lol:

 

 

sorry lady but if you dont like your husband then why are you with him?

^^^^

 

I don't think thats what she is saying.. I think she is saying that she loves him but can't have a sexual relationship with him due to his illness.. so she turned somewhere else for that.. I could be wrong on that though, idk the orginal post was a little confusing.. :confused:

FixYou319 : I'm sorry that you're having problems, but I don't know that here is the best place to come for advice. (especially the lounge where some people be a little rude) sorry I don't have any advice for you, but I hope everything works out!

i don't think it's funny.

 

i'm sorry lady, maiby you .. umm. "revelaed too much" :/ cuz most of us can't relate to you and this sounds like a very personal issue,

i think you should find a good friend to tell this to, or go see a psychologist who can help you feel better emotionally and give you advice in what to do.

i hope it gets better for you.

calm down with the melodrama, stop being so vulnerable, and take up badminton.

 

Hate to be blunt, but there's no advice that we can give you that you don't already know. Crying about it and telling a bunch of strangers about your personal, sexual situation isn't going to help anything. As Thom Yorke once sang..."you do it to yourself..."