Would you rather date somebody smarter or stupider than you?

[whoopee]

Mmm?

[Cobalt]

Stupider, actually ;P But not like an insane amount of stupid.

[The Final Track]

Stupider, but comon sence stupider or schoolwork stupider? :thinking: She'll have to have an independant mind anyway.

[eff-exx]

Around my level of smartness/stupidness , so that we're always competing and striving to outsmart one another. LOLOL.

[nightmarequeen]

smarter or at the same level as me.

[Reilly]

It honestly makes no difference.

 

I've dated both extremes. I find that generally smart people have poor social skills, I've met people who attended top universities and private schools and you sortof think, really? They just seem so slow, they have a sense of humour but usually laugh a few seconds after you've made the joke.

 

I went out with one girl for about 4 months who got top honours in this really hard university course (Which I think shes doing a masters for now) and I can't even remember the name of it, it combined sociology (My entire degree) with like biology and environment science or something. It was so complex it just confused the hell out of me. Anyway, out of the 30/40 people on my course that I knew, not one of us could just read a sociology book like you read a normal book or a magazine, every 2nd word you would have to look in a dictionary or google it (Sociologist C Wright Mills made the point that sociologist authors intend to make things as confusing as possible when he translated about 150 words of someone's work into 2 sentences). Not only could she read it, but remarkably quickly, and sum up an entire chapter for me in a matter of minutes (Something which would literally take me an hour to do). She did admit that although she didn't understand every word and sentence, she could get the general jist of the argument and seemed to be spot on, I'd try to do the same but halfway through a paragraph I'd have to stop and realise that absolutely none of it was going in. I stopped complaining completely about my uni work because she'd end up doing everything for me, it's not that I was worried about feeling stupid it was more like where does it end? When I started literally writing off her notes in her own words it was kindof like I was taking totally advantage, after a few weeks it was getting to the stage where I may as well have just got her to write my essays.

 

I mean seriously, has anyone read one of these books? Fucking nightmare.

 

On top of that her general knowledge was also pretty scary, when we watched shows like QI or university challenge, she'd get like half the answers right (Which isn't something most of the actual contestants on university can do, as it takes 8 of them to get the right answer).

 

OK so you get the idea, she was really smart, it didn't bother me at all, it was kindof attractive, knowing a lot about the world, I could ask her about anything and she'd have a fair idea of what it was about and often understood the subject completely. But she wasn't funny, she didn't find interesting things interesting, she never loved or hated anything, almost like a robot, she was totally passionless in every way. She hated violence, swearing, she'd never been drunk! She didn't like Reservoir Dogs because it was 'overly violent' and that's fine, but I'd at least like a reason, I just wanted her to have a real standpoint on something but despite all of the knowledge she never really had opinions about general things. It feels really harsh to say this, but I really got bored, after a while I just got sick of making conversation, and we even stopped talking most of the time, you can imagine how awkward and stressful that is.

 

Now to the other extreme, and I feel harsh again saying this, but officially, IQ-wise, her results at school, I also dated a girl who wasn't smart at all, I went out with her for over a year. She was studying to be a primary school teacher, and really struggling with it, things you assume people know, I won't go on about it. But she was funny, always happy, made a good impression on people and very social, everyone liked her. I liked her a lot more, she might not have had great general knowledge on the world but she knew that, and she didn't care, it's like she realised she wasn't born to worry about complex issues so she didn't bother getting into it. While none of my friends (male or female) ever seemed to like the smart girl, when we broke up they almost seemed relieved, it was the complete opposite with the less intelligent girl, everyone wanted to know her, she could start/hold a conversation.

 

And those two sum up how I've seen things generally, basically smart people know a lot but have shit craic, and less smart people may not know a lot but in a way they almost seem more attached to reality, street-wise, they know whats primarily important for them, how to act around people. It wasn't just those 2 that I base my opinion on, but I've met a lot of both smart and not-so-smart people. I worked with one guy for 2 months, he got top honours at Eaton college, which is fucking hard, like his brothers, his dad's worth about £600m (MD for medicine in the North-East of England), and he was the slowest retard you'll ever meet. His general knowledge was astounding, even about things he had no interest in like football, but absolutely useless to talk to.

 

So I think this is kindof important and why I made a huge post, I'm not saying this is definitely the case 100% of the time. I'm sure we all think that being smart is a good and attractive quality, but what I'm saying is that it doesn't matter at all, I also went out with a girl who was both smart (maybe not as smart as the previously mentioned girl but still a lot smarter then me) and had people skills, it really doesn't matter.

 

Stupider, actually ;P But not like an insane amount of stupid.

 

This made me lol, haha 'insane amount of stupid'.

 

Wanner go on a date cobbie deerrhhh haharhurhurhurwee deerrhhh

[NumbersGirl]

Smarter. I could have really intense, deep, intelligent conversations with him that last for hours without him looking at me like wtf are you talking about this is boring.

 

But I got stuck with stupider. Oh well, it's not the end of the world.

[Arwen Evenstar]

smarter definatly

 

and Reily, the smart girl who you dated seems like she was just book smart and not street smart

I want someone who is book smart and street smart

[coldplay_is_louve.]

It doesn't really matter, but I prefer smarter.

[Crests]

The same or a bit more smart. :nice:

[Arwen Evenstar]

yes IQ doesn't really matter, but you should be able to hold a inteligent conversation, I'm sure you wouldn't want to be with a girl who only talked about Twilight and the latest fashion, you know what I mean,

I am not really book smart, but I do read a lot and I like to have conversions that don't consist of gossip, fashion, and boys.

I would like a guy who I can have a deep conversion with and who won't look at me stupidly because he has no clue what I am talking about

[Reilly]

Well yeah clearly she's book smart, but the whole point was to illustrate that it doesn't matter.

[Arwen Evenstar]

What is "deep" then by your definition? Because discussing the meaning of life must get pretty tiresome...

 

I know Reilly, I was just agreeing with you, but felt the need to mention there are different kinds of intelligence.

 

for example currently I am obsessed with space and Carl Sagan

I don't know anyone who has even heard of Carl Sagan

everytime I mention the LHC people look at me stupidly

I want someone who I can talk to about things like religion, politics, and stuff like that without them getting bored

ofcourse you can't talk about stuff like that all the time, but most people can't talk about it even ocassionaly

[Crests]

All his posts got deleted? :blank:

[Arwen Evenstar]

All his posts got deleted?

 

 

:stunned:

[whoopee]

for example currently I am obsessed with space and Carl Sagan

I don't know anyone who has even heard of Carl Sagan

everytime I mention the LHC people look at me stupidly

I want someone who I can talk to about things like religion, politics, and stuff like that without them getting bored

ofcourse you can't talk about stuff like that all the time, but most people can't talk about it even ocassionaly

 

Ugh, your life sucks if you can't even find someone who knows Carl Sagan, tonsss of people have heard of Carl Sagan... yeah your life sucks, my sympathies. And if you can't discuss religion or politics that sucks too.

[Houdini]

I wouldn't not date someone if they were dumber than me. I probably would have a problem in the long term though. Depends on how stupid.

[Arwen Evenstar]

Ugh, your life sucks if you can't even find someone who knows Carl Sagan, tonsss of people have heard of Carl Sagan... yeah your life sucks, my sympathies. And if you can't discuss religion or politics that sucks too.

 

are you being sarcastic :thinking:

[Tnspieler1012]

It's a tough thing evaluating potential spouses.

 

Too stupid and they're not worth dating.

Too intelligent and you lose self esteem and probably never get around to asking them out.

If you find someone just like yourself well...you might as well save yourself the hassle and masturbate.

[whoopee]

are you being sarcastic :thinking:

 

No, if you want to discuss something like politics and you don't have anybody who is on the intellectual level of discussing something fairly simple like what's going on in the news for chrissake you are in a really frustrating situation, I hate it when I'm surrounded by people I can't have a serious conversation with.

[Arwen Evenstar]

No, if you want to discuss something like politics and you don't have anybody who is on the intellectual level of discussing something fairly simple like what's going on in the news for chrissake you are in a really frustrating situation, I hate it when I'm surrounded by people I can't have a serious conversation with.

 

oh okay, yep it is pretty frustrating, truth is I don't know anyone who has the same interests or values as me, I don't why that is I mean my interests aren't that weird, oh well people nowadays, I really don't get em' :rolleyes:

[whoopee]

oh okay, yep it is pretty frustrating, truth is I don't know anyone who has the same interests or values as me, I don't why that is I mean my interests aren't that weird, oh well people nowadays, I really don't get em' :rolleyes:

 

You'll probably be okay, another thing is, how old are you? A lot of people who will mature a bit more (intellectually I mean I guess) start to really do so in college from what I can tell, so you may just be a bit ahead of the curve.

[Arwen Evenstar]

You'll probably be okay, another thing is, how old are you? A lot of people who will mature a bit more (intellectually I mean I guess) start to really do so in college from what I can tell, so you may just be a bit ahead of the curve.

 

I'm 19, just started uni, hasn't gotten better yet, but I'm sure things will change :confused:

[whoopee]

I'm 19, just started uni, hasn't gotten better yet, but I'm sure things will change :confused:

 

WTF? Do you go to a bad school or something? that's fucked up.

[IMightBeWrong]

As a rule of thumb, I only date people that I can wheel around in their wheelchair and whose height of intellectual being consists of drooling or yelping loudly. It does my self esteem wonders.