:hug: ^

 

thank you :)

Well I'm sorry it hurt your feelings then. :anxious: :huskyhug:

I have experienced cyber-bullying

 

for my reason to be.

 

 

and I will make every threads forum .

I have experienced cyber-bullying

 

for my reason to be.

 

 

and I will make every threads forum .

 

You will make your own forum? :wideeyed:

Some kid punched my arm and made a rumor that I have a penis :blank:

And I hope your arm hurts :mean:

 

PS Destrokk has a penis everybody.

Yes, and I am very proud of it.

You guys might want to re-read it all, and if it hurt my feelings..which it did then that is bullyin in my book, you were all makin fun of me and none of you even know me, i am a very carin and nice person and did not deserve for you all to make me feel so terrible, i have been thru alot lately and really did not need that as well.

I already re-read it all.

Bullying is only called bullying (see eg. wikipedia) if the bullier intents to bully the victim. I'm sorry if you feel like a victim even without intentional bullying.

I already re-read it all.

Bullying is only called bullying (see eg. wikipedia) if the bullier intents to bully the victim. I'm sorry if you feel like a victim even without intentional bullying.

 

I don't want to get into this argument since I don't know what it is about

But I do teach a course about Bullying to grade 5 kids and we teach them that it is bullying if the person feels bullied.

If someone feels like they are being bullied than you can't tell them that their feelings are wrong - if they feel like they are being bullied then it is bullying.

 

Just throwing in my two cents

there is a very good reason cyber bullies are not welcome on my forum... i do not care if they had a hard life before. it does not give them the right to attack other people and hurt them. if anyone bullies someone on my forum I kick them off no quesitons asked.

I kick them off no quesitons asked.

 

Unfair.

Unfair.

 

 

 

if they are going to be mean and make it so other members can't enjoy themselves. they can't stay. I have no pwoer over this place and I have no idea what the mods do about bullies here so I wont say anything about it. but on my forum I want everyone to have fun. and if that means kicking off some bullies that is what I will do.

But what if you're mistaken or something? You can't just make assumptions like that.

That's like sending someone to prison for the rest of their life without a trial or anything (only on a lesser scale of course).

Just wondering when you kick them off the forum. Is it when you feel that they are bullying people or when a victim contacts you with the notion that they are feeling bullied?

Just asking, because it now doesn't really seems clear when bullying takes place.

Is cyberbullying intentionally or is it all about how the victim feels? And how does that go in situations such as with Lory (sorry Lory) where she feels attacted/bullied but it's all a big misunderstanding?

 

I don't want to get into this argument since I don't know what it is about

But I do teach a course about Bullying to grade 5 kids and we teach them that it is bullying if the person feels bullied.

If someone feels like they are being bullied than you can't tell them that their feelings are wrong - if they feel like they are being bullied then it is bullying.

 

Just throwing in my two cents[/color]

Appreciated. This is - I guess - where we disagree. I could work like this many times, but sometimes people feel bullied by all the wrong reasons, eg. misunderstanding. For example, I had a friend crying that she was bullied because she wasn't invited to a party. She felt it was because we wanted to keep her out/bully her, but the sad fact was just that there was not enough place to invite everyone. She felt bad and took it way too personal, but there was never an intent to make her feel that way. Is it still bullying in that case?

 

I looked up the definition of bullying just in case. And do come across definitions that speak about it being intentionally. Must say, there are others that simply say it's hurting/frightening weaker people. Doesn't say it's intentionally.

 

Well, anyway. I didn't feel that I was (nor the person before me) bullying this girl on coldplaying. I guess she felt different about it.

^I agree. It is very vague how people perceive bullying. Sometimes it's just an argument, but the losing side might feel bullied because well, she or he is on the losing side.

I'm not saying that just because people perceive bullying differently that it is okay to bully people online, but people tend to exaggerate things sometimes.

 

Plus if you are going to be on a site where people are bluntly and brutally honest about what they think, you should be a bit more thick skinned.

the police have the greatest argument for people who intimidates bullying.

I did copy the day came and is easy to show the evidence written on a forum of act of bullying.

yes because the police know very well the English language and recognize bullying or not.

 

but I have already informed and shows messages to a mod each warning bullying message for bullying me by the people, members, mods .

 

yes David our mod I think it's one person who is pragmatic and be respected the law correctly in a forum because same rules for all .

But what if you're mistaken or something? You can't just make assumptions like that.

 

 

 

if more then one person tells me or another staff member on my forum that they are being bullied by the same person. Or if i see them doing it publicly. I will ban that perosn.

 

if I just get a complaint from one perosn. I will give them a warning and take away their ability to PM.

You guys might want to re-read it all, and if it hurt my feelings..which it did then that is bullyin in my book, you were all makin fun of me and none of you even know me, i am a very carin and nice person and did not deserve for you all to make me feel so terrible, i have been thru alot lately and really did not need that as well.

 

This is just gonna get you even more negative attention, complaining 'YOU HURTED MY FEELINGS SO YOU'RE AN MEAN EVIL PERSON' does not do you any good.

 

Example. My friends were having a party at a bar one night, I wasn't invited. I wouldn't have been able to make it in (under 18) and was rather upset about it.

Now you would call this bullying... which is silly. I would not. They did not intend to make me feel bad, it was just an unfortunate circumstance.

 

if more then one person tells me or another staff member on my forum that they are being bullied by the same person. Or if i see them doing it publicly. I will ban that perosn.

 

if I just get a complaint from one perosn. I will give them a warning and take away their ability to PM.

 

Hah! Ever heard of proof? Evidence? Instead of just 'SHE DID THIS HE DID THAT'?

there isn't a legal definition of bullying in th UK, but a series of cases brought against local councils seem to agree the following:

 

"behaviour needed to be 'deliberately targeted and persistent' in order to constitute bullying."

 

"Making repeated offensive remarks on websites can be a criminal offence. Perpetrators may also be found either to be breaking the Harassment Act 1997 or the Telecommunications Act 1984."

 

 

Whilst i was browsing, also found this about cyber harrassment which i thought was interesting:

 

There is no universal legal definition of cyber harassment, but it typically is defined as repeated, unsolicited, threatening behavior by a person or group using mobile or Internet technology with the intent to bother, terrify, intimidate, humiliate, threaten, harass or stalk someone else. The harassment can take place in any electronic environment where communication with others is possible, such as on social networking sites, on message boards, in chat rooms or through email.

 

A cyber harasser often will post comments to the victim that are intended to cause distress and will try to incite others to do the same.

 

and the NHS had some interesting comments

 

Even if you’re not the one who started the bullying, you become part of it when you laugh at a message that could be hurtful or threatening to someone else, or forward it on. [/qutoe]

 

This is just gonna get you even more negative attention, complaining 'YOU HURTED MY FEELINGS SO YOU'RE AN MEAN EVIL PERSON' does not do you any good.

 

Example. My friends were having a party at a bar one night, I wasn't invited. I wouldn't have been able to make it in (under 18) and was rather upset about it.

Now you would call this bullying... which is silly. I would not. They did not intend to make me feel bad, it was just an unfortunate circumstance.

 

 

 

Hah! Ever heard of proof? Evidence? Instead of just 'SHE DID THIS HE DID THAT'?

 

 

 

oh I do check things to make sure. though there are some things that are hard to proove. like PM's,on most forums not even the admins can read PM's. but the public posts I will go and read over them. or tell one of the staff members to look at it if i don't have time.

 

the thing I said before is what I do for PM's

 

 

 

I have not been here long, but I have been useing forums for a while. and I am pretty sure if I start attacking people here. I will be banned before the week is over. ((but i am not gonna try it. ))

 

 

 

wow, I think I am dragging you guys off topic. so anyway.. I'm gonna leave this thread before we start getting into a conversaiton about how forums work.....