June 21, 201115 yr Is that (in your all's experiences) for the most part bullshit? Can it even realistically be done on a long-term basis? Cuz two of my friends have been dating for a year and a half and realized about two weeks ago that they have to cut the relationship off cuz it isn't working for them, but both of them still want to be around each other and stay friends. However most of the people I've seen go through trying to stay friends just go through like an awkward phase and then gradually separate and never talk to each other again because they feel it would be too awkward? But I haven't seen enough people try it to be sure...
June 21, 201115 yr I know I personally couldn't remain friends with who I'm with now if we broke up. Too many memories and stuff. Little relationships that aren't so serious are easier to remain friends after. Most people I know who have the same group of friends and break up don't remain friends. A lot of the time cause it ends badly. But even if it ends okay... it ends up being awkward no matter how hard they try. And kind of fizzles out. They can talk but they're never friends like they were before. There are exceptions obviously. But for the most part... its too hard.
June 21, 201115 yr Once you like that person you can't like them the same way you did before, there will always be atleast a little of an akward feeling. Sometimes it goes away depending on how far the relationship went. so yeah bull crap
June 21, 201115 yr I think it all depends on how you break up. If you break up in a fight, it will be difficult. Sometimes people in a relationship, after some time, feel more like friends than lovers. In that case I think they could still be friends. It will be akward at times though, and might not be as easy and they thought it would be.
June 21, 201115 yr I'd say the majority of the time it doesn't work. And I don't think being casual "facebook friends" really counts. In fairness though, in respect to most high school friends (I'm talking regular friends here), over time you gradually separate from almost everyone you thought you would never gradually separate from, and don't talk to them either. So it's nothing to feel bad about if you don't really talk to someone you broke up with.
June 21, 201115 yr You can't remain friends with them its too awkward And in the next 6 months you will end up in each others beds anyway
June 21, 201115 yr Little relationships that aren't so serious are easier to remain friends after. Agreed. It might be possible after longer relationships as well, but I guess it takes loads of time. Dunno. And yeah, like NumbersGirl said before, I also don't think that being "Facebook friends" counts ;)
June 21, 201115 yr not know. I've always been one bullshit for men. then the respect in a relationship not know. :shrug:
June 21, 201115 yr Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!!
June 21, 201115 yr In my case she broke up with me and thought I was controlling her life when I wasnt, so we don't talk anymore...for the most part. I'm personally giving her space, hopefully she'll turn around but as I told my other friends, she doesn't need me; she's better off without me...
June 21, 201115 yr Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!! Dear god not this again
June 21, 201115 yr Author They don't want to stay together for sex, they want to stay together because they're in an emotional withdrawl...
June 21, 201115 yr Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!! you know men often confuse friendship and intimate relationship.
June 21, 201115 yr what? its true Well that's a yes and no. Personally I wanted a relationship cause I really had no one, not for sex (she was catholic anyway so i had to wait)
June 21, 201115 yr Author Hah! You dated a Catholic girl and had to wait for marriage? You're dating the wrong kind of Catholics, boy.
June 21, 201115 yr Author ^Exactly that edit: for the most part nobody seriously waits for marriage I think. I know people who ha(d/ve) decided to wait until a long-term relationship is established) but very frew of them plan on waiting for marriage itself.
June 21, 201115 yr My brain hurts :freak: So i cant get a girl, I cant go to a Coldplay concert...I have this whole pants thing going on...woah
June 21, 201115 yr For me it got awkward when a friend asked me out and I said no and we barely talk anymore :( My mum was engaged to someone then broke it off to go traveling, she's still good friends with him and they keep in touch.
June 21, 201115 yr Hey I'm not religious! I'm flipping Asian Buddhist...but i dont go to temples or etc...still...I dont know she has a pureity ring and says religion is important to her so....you gotta follow people's wishes :freak:
June 21, 201115 yr for the most part nobody seriously waits for marriage I think. I know people who ha(d/ve) decided to wait until a long-term relationship is established) but very frew of them plan on waiting for marriage itself. FREW i am one of those frew :| In my experience and seeing other people it seems to be doable after they've been away from each other for a while.
June 21, 201115 yr The whole waiting until marriage thing, all in a nut shell is for trust. If you love a person then you would focus on spending time with them, not souly for sex. I mean how many of you hear stories about a girl getting pregnant and the father leaves, leaving her with a child and etc.?
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