hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Is that (in your all's experiences) for the most part bullshit? Can it even realistically be done on a long-term basis? Cuz two of my friends have been dating for a year and a half and realized about two weeks ago that they have to cut the relationship off cuz it isn't working for them, but both of them still want to be around each other and stay friends. However most of the people I've seen go through trying to stay friends just go through like an awkward phase and then gradually separate and never talk to each other again because they feel it would be too awkward? But I haven't seen enough people try it to be sure... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prospekt. Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I know I personally couldn't remain friends with who I'm with now if we broke up. Too many memories and stuff. Little relationships that aren't so serious are easier to remain friends after. Most people I know who have the same group of friends and break up don't remain friends. A lot of the time cause it ends badly. But even if it ends okay... it ends up being awkward no matter how hard they try. And kind of fizzles out. They can talk but they're never friends like they were before. There are exceptions obviously. But for the most part... its too hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destrokk Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Once you like that person you can't like them the same way you did before, there will always be atleast a little of an akward feeling. Sometimes it goes away depending on how far the relationship went. so yeah bull crap Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i'maveryneatMonster.' Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 It depends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kroket Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I think it all depends on how you break up. If you break up in a fight, it will be difficult. Sometimes people in a relationship, after some time, feel more like friends than lovers. In that case I think they could still be friends. It will be akward at times though, and might not be as easy and they thought it would be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NumbersGirl Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I'd say the majority of the time it doesn't work. And I don't think being casual "facebook friends" really counts. In fairness though, in respect to most high school friends (I'm talking regular friends here), over time you gradually separate from almost everyone you thought you would never gradually separate from, and don't talk to them either. So it's nothing to feel bad about if you don't really talk to someone you broke up with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chloe_Martin Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 You can't remain friends with them its too awkward And in the next 6 months you will end up in each others beds anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Sarah* Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Little relationships that aren't so serious are easier to remain friends after. Agreed. It might be possible after longer relationships as well, but I guess it takes loads of time. Dunno. And yeah, like NumbersGirl said before, I also don't think that being "Facebook friends" counts ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoryABjerre Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 not know. I've always been one bullshit for men. then the respect in a relationship not know. :shrug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chloe_Martin Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 In my case she broke up with me and thought I was controlling her life when I wasnt, so we don't talk anymore...for the most part. I'm personally giving her space, hopefully she'll turn around but as I told my other friends, she doesn't need me; she's better off without me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!! Dear god not this again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chloe_Martin Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 what? its true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 They don't want to stay together for sex, they want to stay together because they're in an emotional withdrawl... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoryABjerre Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Saying that you still want to be friends is like saying I dont want to be in a relationship with you but I would still very much like to be in your pants!!! you know men often confuse friendship and intimate relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 what? its true Well that's a yes and no. Personally I wanted a relationship cause I really had no one, not for sex (she was catholic anyway so i had to wait) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Hah! You dated a Catholic girl and had to wait for marriage? You're dating the wrong kind of Catholics, boy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chloe_Martin Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 You actually think Catholics wait till they are married..... Wow!.............. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotdensestate Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 ^Exactly that edit: for the most part nobody seriously waits for marriage I think. I know people who ha(d/ve) decided to wait until a long-term relationship is established) but very frew of them plan on waiting for marriage itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chloe_Martin Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 most people loose their virginity when they are like 17-20 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 My brain hurts :freak: So i cant get a girl, I cant go to a Coldplay concert...I have this whole pants thing going on...woah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyan Kat Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 For me it got awkward when a friend asked me out and I said no and we barely talk anymore :( My mum was engaged to someone then broke it off to go traveling, she's still good friends with him and they keep in touch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Hey I'm not religious! I'm flipping Asian Buddhist...but i dont go to temples or etc...still...I dont know she has a pureity ring and says religion is important to her so....you gotta follow people's wishes :freak: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crests Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 for the most part nobody seriously waits for marriage I think. I know people who ha(d/ve) decided to wait until a long-term relationship is established) but very frew of them plan on waiting for marriage itself. FREW i am one of those frew :| In my experience and seeing other people it seems to be doable after they've been away from each other for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
86Timewarp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 The whole waiting until marriage thing, all in a nut shell is for trust. If you love a person then you would focus on spending time with them, not souly for sex. I mean how many of you hear stories about a girl getting pregnant and the father leaves, leaving her with a child and etc.? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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