I didn't quite understood but good for you! :D

You are happy too?

You are happy too?

 

I didn't quite understood but good for you! :D

 

:confused: anyway I'am sooo happy :P

:confused: anyway I'am sooo happy :P

 

Are you spamming now?

Are you spamming now?

 

Umm what's the matter mark? :thinking:

I love you, honestly: Cyber affairs & betrayals

 

The cyber World has no borders & no limits which therefore brings out this question: Fantasy or Real Love? What happens when you start falling for someone online? Someone you've never met before in person. When you built a trust with them that you are so open with them that you tell them your deepest feelings, secrets and be emotionally open with them.

 

I find it so interesting & it's so curious on how this starts happening. I've met some nice people on the net & on this forum. I can't even explain it to say how it makes me smile just to see a cyber friend online or when they tell me something on an emotional level that we are able to be open and letting that innerself come out in which sometimes in a daily life you can't say or don't feel comfortable on saying or the day goes by just too quickly to have a talk it out with your partner or your closest friend & how does betrayal start or what is really considered a betrayal? If you connect w/someone emotionally through line on a deeper level than w/your partner or if you start developing feelings for an online friend would that be considered a betrayal & could it possibly be love?

 

It's so strange, but could happen. Also, can you betray someone you've never met? Like for example, Eric and I used to be friends until our friendship or cyber friendship ended. He said that this other cyber friend who he also met on this forum would get upset if he didn't reply quickly to her because of him talking to me or other friends of his, so she would feel somehow betrayed but would that be considered betrayal when he knows neither of us?:thinking:

 

Another thing, what happens if let's say you're married & you have your husband/wife or if you are in a relationship & your significant other starts developing these type of feelings & starts connecting w/someone else emotionally but they say they love you/in love w/you, would you feel betrayed if that case the case or how would you feel? Can someone really fall in love with someone they met online? Could that be possible? I know Den did and she even married the guy!

 

Sorry this is so long but I was really given a deep thought about it and would really like to read your opinions.

 

 

In my opinion, I would say that it is possible to love someone you've met online & develop feelings for them & maybe even confuse that feeling with being in love w/them but wouldn't consider it "real love" since it would probably be a different atmosphere when you're actually there w/them in person but here comes the tricky part. If my partner or my significant other were to develop an emotionally understanding & feeling & being able to be that open w/them but not w/me; I would considered it betrayal or feel betrayed...because it should be me who he should feel able to be open and talk about it w/me even if he didn't do anything physical with them.

 

wowwwwwww this was so long! I could write an essay and never finish hahha!:laugh3:

i'm writing an essay right now...

 

I should asked you to do it :laugh3:

 

 

and about the topic...

 

I think that well... we all know that this kinda cyber-life is completely different of our real lifes and well... who knows if this person that you met in a forum, chat or anywahere else on the web it's totally different in the real life?

 

I don't think you can fall in love with someone from the web.. but I know that you can make "good friends" through the web.. by msn or those kind of things... I mean... I use to talk with some people everyday and I think of them as friends even if I don't know them in real life... but I know that maybe if I'd meet them things would be weird or totally different (although I'd love to meet them :P) because we all act diferent when we are talking and when we're typing and well.. that ...

 

I'm not saying that you can't fall in love with someone (specially if Williepoo read this thread :P) but personally I don't think I could do it...

 

oh god I dont know what I'm writing about.. it's 3:29 in the night and I should finish this stupid essay to go to bed...

i'm writing an essay right now...

 

I should asked you to do it :laugh3:

 

 

and about the topic...

 

I think that well... we all know that this kinda cyber-life is completely different of our real lifes and well... who knows if this person that you met in a forum, chat or anywahere else on the web it's totally different in the real life?

 

I don't think you can fall in love with someone from the web.. but I know that you can make "good friends" through the web.. by msn or those kind of things... I mean... I use to talk with some people everyday and I think of them as friends even if I don't know them in real life... but I know that maybe if I'd meet them things would be weird or totally different (although I'd love to meet them :P) because we all act diferent when we are talking and when we're typing and well.. that ...

 

I'm not saying that you can't fall in love with someone (specially if will read this thread :P) but personally I don't think I could do it...

 

oh god I dont know what I'm writing about.. it's 3:29 in the night and I should finish this stupid essay to go to bed...

 

So could make good friends but not for love? In your case anyway...you can't see yourself falling for a friend you met online right?

 

You need some sleep and hahaha I would never finish with your essay!:laugh3::P

right

 

not falling in love but I really like some online friends... in a "real way"

 

 

but well... I guess I should not say never because who knows...

right

 

not falling in love but I really like some online friends... in a "real way"

 

 

but well... I guess I should not say never because who knows...

 

haha you probably won't know when it happens:P

 

what do you mean in a "real way"? what way is that?:wink3:

 

:laugh3::D:P

I don't know...

 

for example...

 

with some people from here (coldplaying is like my home... i spend waaaay too much time here :laugh3: )

I talk to them a lot and I really like them I really would love to meet them in the real life and have fun.... with another ones (as Lívia... I don't talk to much because she's always pretty busy but when I talk to her I feel her as a good friend of mine and it feels great :D)

 

it's almost like in real life...

 

 

I repeat: I don't even know what I'm writing about because I'm almost sleeping :P

Get some sleep and explain later then!:nice:

I'll do it :wink:

Yeah i kinda had that happen before..i reckon its not healthy at all!!!

hahaha what the hell? I am here now :p :D

 

What's up? :)

hey:D lol:) um, nothing much, I guess...:rolleyes:

i've made good friends over the net, but never falled in love. it's kinda stupid to think of falling in love with a person you've never met before.

i've made good friends over the net' date=' but never falled in love. it's kinda stupid to think of falling in love with a person you've never met before.[/quote']

 

I couldn't agree more.

Okay he has flipped his lid finally!

I already thought about this.

 

First I thought it could be very weird, even perv. It depends on the person you're talking with, his/her personality.

I've to admit that falling in love with someone from the net sounds so irreal, but when it happens... what could you do...?

Denying what your heart says to you is bad, and it makes things worth.

Ok, you can think you don't have much chances to meet your lover, that's right.

 

But you can't say you'll never fall in love via the net... "never say never"... cos you never know how things will turn, and life is only sth you can gamble, you can't be 100% sure you won't fall in love with someone from the net.

 

I agree with LiquidSky who says it's strange to open your heart to someone you don't know. But you don't even notice it when you do it.

It's like when you're talking with a good friend.

i think it's easier to tell an internet friend a secret or how you deeply feel cause he could never tell anyone and i don't know how to explain it but it's easier somehow

even with my friends that i see everyday it's easier to talk with them over the net

my point is maybe cause we can open up to ppl on the internet is what make us comfortable talking with them and feel a stronger relationship with them.

 

To fall in love with someone over the net is possible (everything is possible)

but i think crushes is more likely to happen!

 

i don't think anyone could be so different from his real personality online it could be a lil different but not as a completely other person!!!

 

 

 

i know some lovers online and i dont think it's impossible

I do think that it's possible. I've met great people on the internet, even my best friend. She's the best friend I've ever had and the conversations we share on the internet are better than any of those I have in real life. I have met her since meeting her online, though, and we get along in real life as great as we do online.

 

Falling in love is complex, but.. to me, falling in love with someone on the internet is just like "love at first sight":

 

1) On the internet, you ONLY know the personality, you talk a lot, you find out about each other's thoughts and secrets. But you never touch that person, you never look into his/her eyes, you're never close to him/her.

 

- Can you love someone without ever looking into their eyes?

 

2) I've personally experienced 'Love at first sight' before. You just look at that person, and you feel like you've never felt before - you look into his eyes and you just know it: "This is it."

 

- Can you love someone without having ever talked to them?

 

To me, both is possible. May it be physical attraction that leads to love, or internet conversations that lead to the same. Everything's possible :D