Oh, and to speak about the "betrayal" aspect: My first boyfriend actually left me for someone he met on the internet :P I was just 14 though, so I was stupid, he was stupid, and it wasn't such a big deal.. It was still weird though, thinking: "I can't even compete with someone he hasn't even SEEN yet? Strange.."

Is amazing how the internet affairs and I will add the cellphone messages relationships are growing.

People are always looking for that special person and they use anything you could imagine.

 

Probably cause we do not like to "feel" alone,maybe because society teach us that if you do not have couple ther are something wrong with you,but there are better ways to find that special person.

 

I do not see myself having an internet affair,is not imposible but I prefer the "normal" procedure.

 

I know couples that know it eachothers and even married thanks to the internet.But I guess that is not for everybody.

It works for a lot of people, but I guess it just depends who it is you meet. A mate of mine is now going out with someone he met online and they seem to be getting on very well. I have told myself that I'll never fall for someone in another country, just because keeping in touch with each other will be very difficult.

 

The main problem I have with it is that one is isnt able to look someone in the eye and talk to them.

meeting on internet...???

how can one see the other person,and how can one know what exactly it's going in others mind??with out meeting them in front of you...

really strange....

I'll marry sofiabob :smug:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Oh..:o you mean you are a lesbian??

Wow Josce, you were really inspired eh??

 

I used to think that this whole falling for someone online was completely impossible, but today I know anything can happen.

It all depends how much interaction you have with the other person. And I think that just as you can make good friends around here, you can end up having a crush or even falling for someone.

And it's not just the talking on msn or through the board... now we have webcams, skype, so it's almost like talking to someone who's near you (minus the phisical part, obviously).

And there are actually some good examples of how a cyber love has gone one step further and led people to travel so they could meet each other and 'continue the love'...

 

The betrayal thing is a bit more delicate... but i think it all depends on how commited you are to the person. I think talking to someone else while you're talking to her on msn isn't really betrayal, talking is talking, unless the subject was something romantic, like... if he was having another romance with someone else... but talk with friends is the same online as live, and what would be the actions if they were phisically together? prohibit any talking to anyone around? that would be crazy, not to say rude (though the msn thing is also kinda rude).

Oh..:o you mean you are a lesbian??

 

nope

:wink:

This is a great topic to talk about! I love it, and it is so related with my life (or at least i could say of one of the best experiences ever I've had in my life). I think I could also write an essay that would never end, there're a milion things to say... :nice:

 

When you start to fell in love with someone from the net you're truly in love. I'm sure about that 'cos I've been in love with ppl from the net twice and I assure you they're for real, sometimes you can even feel more things for that person than for someone of the real life, sometimes even a sentence or some words can touch your heart deeply, in a way I couldn't even figure out ... and what's more, the fact that you fall in love that way, doesn't mean you will never meet this person in the real world.

 

Also, I wanted to say that I'm quite shy at first and not open-minded and friends on the net are just great for me 'cos I'm able to be open myself to them and explain certain secrets I wouldn't explain anyone. It makes things easier somehow and I reckon it's a good thing to do, to talk to other ppl about your innest worries.

 

No, when you have that connection you've mentioned with someone from the net, I don't think it has to be considered as a deception regarding your partner... of course not. And even if you'd have a crush on that person, I don't think it'd be a deception, 'cos you can't choose who you fall in love with! It'd be another matter if you'd meet with that person and then you'd start a relationship with him... then I'd consider that as a lie!

 

Concerning your third question about the Eric's case and his friend. No, they don't have the duty of reply you quickly 'cos ppl have other things to do and more friends than one. Anyway, this depends on the kind of relationship they were having... if you trust someone in a high level and this person disappoints you, for example, explaining to a third person something you only wanted that only your friend knew, then it could be considered a deception.

 

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i've made good friends over the net, but never falled in love. it's kinda stupid to think of falling in love with a person you've never met before.

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I couldn't agree more.

 

I couldn't disagree more with you both.

It's obvious that you have never fallen in love with someone from the net. Too bad. Is the physic so important for you? if you can't fall in love with someone 'cos you haven't seen him / her physically .... erm... :dozey:

 

Both times I had a crush on a boy from the net it was 'cos I loved their ways of being. And I don't think it's stupid at all to love someone like this. No. At least not in my case 'cos I've lived the most wonderful love story ever thanks to internet so I can't understand your opinion.

Internet has been really important to my life, otherwise I wouldn't go out with my current and only one boyfriend. No. I don't think we'd have never had the chance to meet us but internet gave us that chance

Okay...my 2 cents worth.....

 

I was married for a couple of years and after about a year and a half I started talking to someone online. I felt more comfortable speaking to this girl online than I did to my own wife. I could actually be more open to the online girl than the wife....not in a perverted way...just talking. We e-mailed , IM'd, and spoke w/ mikes. We never arranged to meet....I never had those intentions. She was a friend. I believe now it was more or less a crush. My wife at the time found out about it and was furious....rightfully so, but, we never had any physical contact.

I masked the fact that I was married, because in my eyes , I was never going to meet her. I contacted my online "lover" and told her about the problems that our relationship had caused.

I felt really bad about the situation and ended the online "romance." I kept getting e-mails and IM's...then they slowed down....then there was nothing. About 5 years ago I got an e-mail from her....she had just taken a chance to see if I was still around. She was getting married and sent me some photos. I never responded back to her. It was a crush. Only a crush

Anyway, my marriage ended not because of my online indiscretions, but because of her physical romance with a co-worker......and I was sooooooo wrong for doing what I did.

My cousin is 28 now and he's kinda scared he's gonna end up alone, you know.. The last two girlfriends he had, he met them on the internet. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that! If you have problems meeting people in real life, may it be because you're too shy or you simply don't find the right places to meet nice people, then the internet might be the last option.

 

- I now just talked about the aspect of falling in love with someone on the internet ON INTENTION.

 

Sometimes it just happens, I guess.. I sometimes spend hours and nights with talking to people on the net, and I can definitely imagine falling for someone this way.. You talk about very intimate things, you get to know each other very well.. And if you find "the one" on the internet, why not? It doesn't matter HOW you meet, just the fact THAT you meet :D

I couldn't disagree more with you both.

It's obvious that you have never fall in love with someone from the net. Too bad. Is the physic so important for you? if you can't fall in love with someone 'cos you haven't seen him / her physically .... erm... :dozey:

 

Both times I had a crush on a boy from the net it was 'cos I loved their ways of being. And I don't think it's stupid at all to love someone like this. No. At least not in my case 'cos I've lived the most wonderful love story ever thanks to internet so I can't understand your opinion.

Internet has been really important to my life, otherwise I wouldn't go out with my current and only one boyfriend. No. I don't think we'd have never had the chance to meet us but internet gave us that chance

 

Good for you that you have a boyfriend thanks to the net, but you have to see it from my point of view, how do you know when that one you're in love with is really honest and that he / she doesn't cheat? You can't tell because it's the net. It's easier to be nice or be mean than you are in real life. And no, I have never fallen in love with someone of the internet and that's not because of the internet but because I don't fall in love easily.

I have found some friends via the net but to me, falling in love with someone of the net is impossible, to me that is. And it's not that via internet I dare to say things easily or something, no, I had a party and I dare to ask someone with curls if he wanted to dance with me. He did by the way.

Okay...my 2 cents worth.....

 

I was married for a couple of years and after about a year and a half I started talking to someone online. I felt more comfortable speaking to this girl online than I did to my own wife. I could actually be more open to the online girl than the wife....not in a perverted way...just talking. We e-mailed , IM'd, and spoke w/ mikes. We never arranged to meet....I never had those intentions. She was a friend. I believe now it was more or less a crush. My wife at the time found out about it and was furious....rightfully so, but, we never had any physical contact.

I masked the fact that I was married, because in my eyes , I was never going to meet her. I contacted my online "lover" and told her about the problems that our relationship had caused.

I felt really bad about the situation and ended the online "romance." I kept getting e-mails and IM's...then they slowed down....then there was nothing. About 5 years ago I got an e-mail from her....she had just taken a chance to see if I was still around. She was getting married and sent me some photos. I never responded back to her. It was a crush. Only a crush

Anyway, my marriage ended not because of my online indiscretions, but because of her physical romance with a co-worker......and I was sooooooo wrong for doing what I did.

 

tough story......and this is the thing that makes me think sometimes....(although I am not in a situation like that......haha not even "have a crush on somebody online", because I havenever met someone from the virtual world in real life....only a girl hehe......)....but sometimes I think: "What if somebody has a girls-/boyfriend and talks to somebody online......in a deeper way.....like a romance....?"

I'm quite torn there accordng to my opinion......because on the one hand I think you should never prefer the online romance to your real romance.....because for me there are two worlds: The virtual one and the real one.....

when I think about myself there.......sometimes I feel as if I want to prefer the virtual one to the real one......but then when I think about it carefully that the real one is more important (of course....)

 

for me the virtual world is a good solution to get rid of my problems, etc.....

 

but that shouldn't mean that you can't make friends (good friends,,,,) on the net....I think after meeting once you can even be sure if these friends are friends or if you were just wrong....and yes....according to meeting I even think you can find a boyfriend/girlfriend....

 

what I just hate if people say "I love you" on the net immediately....as if they meant it....not the "I love you(as a friend)"......but the real "I love you".....

 

 

 

 

 

oh btw...Chris now that I quoted your post....one question: What do you mean with the last sentence.....that it would have been better to continue this online romance, because in the end it was your wife's fault that you split up?

I hope I got that right....

I couldn't disagree more with you both.

It's obvious that you have never fall in love with someone from the net. Too bad. Is the physic so important for you? if you can't fall in love with someone 'cos you haven't seen him / her physically .... erm... :dozey:

 

but its not only about looks, innit? i mean it's completely different when you can look into smeone's eyes while talking to them. there's certain things you just cant feel when speaking to someone online.

 

the person you're talking to could also be a completely different person than he pretends to be. you'll never know until you actually meet that person.

 

anyway i do imagine that it's possible to fall in love with someone you know from the internet.

but its not only about looks, innit? i mean it's completely different when you can look into smeone's eyes while talking to them. there's certain things you just cant feel when speaking to someone online.

 

the person you're talking to could also be a completely different person than he pretends to be. you'll never know until you actually meet that person.

 

anyway ioimagine it's possible to fall in love with someone you know from the internet.

 

Well, I think that both can happen..

 

I once fell in love with someone without much talking - we just suddenly looked into each other's eyes and knew it. It was strange.. I didn't know him well - and as soon as I got to know him better, I fell in love with him less and less ;) But.. gosh.. I just looked at him.. he just had to touch my hand and I felt like in heaven..

 

There are both possibilities - falling in love with someone WITHOUT the physical aspect (on the internet), falling in love with someone BASED on the physical aspect ('love at first sight' or pure physical attraction)..

Well, I think that both can happen..

 

I once fell in love with someone without much talking - we just suddenly looked into each other's eyes and knew it. It was strange.. I didn't know him well - and as soon as I got to know him better, I fell in love with him less and less ;) But.. gosh.. I just looked at him.. he just had to touch my hand and I felt like in heaven..

 

There are both possibilities - falling in love with someone WITHOUT the physical aspect (on the internet), falling in love with someone BASED on the physical aspect ('love at first sight' or pure physical attraction)..

 

but werent you just physically attracted to him? it doesnt sound to me like you actually loved him.

but its not only about looks, innit? i mean it's completely different when you can look into smeone's eyes while talking to them. there's certain things you just cant feel when speaking to someone online.

 

the person you're talking to could also be a completely different person than he pretends to be. you'll never know until you actually meet that person.

 

anyway i do imagine that it's possible to fall in love with someone you know from the internet.

 

totally agree

but werent you just physically attracted to him? it doesnt sound to me like you actually loved him.

 

No, I actually wasn't attracted physically at all! He wasn't my type, he wasn't the type I'd usually go for.. But when he looked at me, when he touched me, it felt like heaven, like it never felt before - I wasn't attracted physically, but not personally either because I didn't know his personality at that time, you know? Damn, I have no idea why I was that attracted after all :P That's the weird thing about love..

Great subject i must say.

 

One of my friends met this guy from the UK on the internet last spring and couple months passed by and slowly she started to fall in love with this guy. The guy was totally obsessed with her, sending txt-messages all the time etc.

 

Anyways about a month ago this guy came here to see my friend..i was a bit worried about this, 'cos you never know what kind of dude my friend was about to meet. They spent their fall holidays together and everything went fine. We met the guy too, and he seemed like a normal people :P

 

It's clear that these two people fell inlove..they're constantly talking about each other (it can be quite annoying though..) and the guy is coming here to spend the christmas holidays & the new year with my friend and her family.

 

I'm still not totally convinced about their relationship..they seem to be too stuck to each other..and the guy is about to move here to live with my friend next spring when he turns to 18. He's still that young and they've only known each other for 8 months and he's gonna move here?? He doesn't speak finnish, so he's not even gonna get a job..

 

Huh..of course i'm happy for my friend, but all of this is happening a bit too quickly..he is my friends first boyfriend and they already are moving together(??!)

 

This is what internet does.. complicated relationships from country to other..

i do believe that it's possible to fall inlove in the internet.

But I've seen close what it can be like and i'm not sure would i want that to happen to myself..of course you never know what's gonna happen though

Good for you that you have a boyfriend thanks to the net' date=' but you have to see it from my point of view, how do you know when that one you're in love with is really honest and that he / she doesn't cheat? You can't tell because it's the net. It's easier to be nice or be mean than you are in real life. And no, I have never fallen in love with someone of the internet and that's not because of the internet but because I don't fall in love [i']easily[/i].

I have found some friends via the net but to me, falling in love with someone of the net is impossible, to me that is. And it's not that via internet I dare to say things easily or something, no, I had a party and I dare to ask someone with curls if he wanted to dance with me. He did by the way.

 

You can't really know it, but you usually notice if that person who you're talking to every day, time after time, is honest or not with you. Well, you can meet with liars, but you can meet them everywhere, on the net and also in real life. Even people who you just expected that were your best friends could be big liars (in real life).

I think it's easier to be nicer and to be more open on the net. And this is a positive thing.

The fact that a person has fallen in love with someone of the internet doesn't mean that you fall in love easily, simply that you've found sthg that really engages your attention in the other.

You can't really know it' date=' but you [i']usually[/i] notice if that person who you're talking to every day, time after time, is honest or not with you. Well, you can meet with liars, but you can meet them everywhere, on the net and also in real life. Even people who you just expected that were your best friends could be big liars (in real life).

I think it's easier to be nicer and to be more open on the net. And this is a positive thing.

The fact that a person has fallen in love with someone of the internet doesn't mean that you fall in love easily, simply that you've found sthg that really engages your attention in the other.

 

hehe, well said, I couldn't agree more.

... since I got to know my boyfriend only because of this forum ;) :)

hehe, well said, I couldn't agree more.

... since I got to know my boyfriend only because of this forum ;):)

 

yay! someone that thinks like me! :)

 

 

but its not only about looks, innit? i mean it's completely different when you can look into smeone's eyes while talking to them. there's certain things you just cant feel when speaking to someone online.

 

the person you're talking to could also be a completely different person than he pretends to be. you'll never know until you actually meet that person.

 

anyway i do imagine that it's possible to fall in love with someone you know from the internet.

 

of course it isn't only about looks. You're right here, it's completely different... it works different, but in its inner, it's the same, 'cos you fall in love almost just like you'd do in real life.

 

yes, he/she could tell you lies (but you too) and I won't deny it's easier to lie on the net than in real life. Anyway, I don't think that once you meet with that person who you've been talking to on the net you think it's that different from that one you've met in the virtual world.

yay! someone that thinks like me! :)

 

count me in too :nice:

 

i also used to think its impossible, untill it happenes to you..

oh, you too, Will??

 

well, I know that you've been in love with someone on the net for a long time!

Anyway, that happens when you don't expect it...

and WHERE you least expect it. :wacko:

true true. and when you 100% sure that ur going to see that person soon (which i do :nice: ) you start feeling how real it is..