the bestchrismandyalyssa thread

[Christiana]

i just have always thought people who send their kids off to school were odd. i just can't imagine not being the primary caregiver of my child. shoot, he still puts on his clothes inside-out most of the time.

[Sam]

lol :lol:

[Christiana]

sam, i can take time off from work pretty much when i want... i am a nurse, but i don't work as a nurse. i run a clinical drug trial (collect data) - which i can do from away most of the time... i guess i just am looking for reasons not to have be separated from him :embarrased:

[Sam]

yeah, i can understand that, i would hate to be in your position right now, especially because i usually make really bad decisions

[Best u Can]

Christi, one reason I keep saying you should let him go is because no joke that has been my dream to have a kid like that or to be that kid. Obviously it's too late for me to be like that, but I'd like to learn to play an instrument :/ If he has a passion for it then he needs to chase that passion.

[Christiana]

i know - i am going to get myself together and probably talk to him about it on friday. i think i will just try to take cues from him on what i should do next. it is a fine line between doing what is best for your child and messing them up for life. not easy.

[Best u Can]

Overall when you're considering you should know it's possible it could mess up his life but it seems far more likely that it will have a huge positive effect. For example I can think of another musician who used to have talent at a pretty young age who you might know. The drummer for the Dave Matthews Band (Carter Beauford) is an AMAZING drummer. His dad used to take him to see another great drummer whose name I can't recall when he was young. Sorry for the vague reference.

[Christiana]

that's ok. i guess i am just coming at this from a very maternal perspective (naturally). i am so close to my family and especially my mom. i can't imagine not having her constantly when i was little. i just come from a very close, very huggy family, so it makes this concept seem very foreign to me. and i do expose him to so many things - we have travelled all over, visiting museums, i play all kinds of music for him, we have tons of books and read everyday... so i feel like i am doing a good job. but i am not musical, at all. so i have to depend on others to help develop that talent even more. it is a strange thing to see a kid this little do something so amazing. i got a piano because i had a huge living room that needed furniture - who knew? :lol:

[Best u Can]

i got a piano because i had a huge living room that needed furniture - who knew? :lol:

wow :cry: absolutely amazing I got a little teary eyed there. You're a good mom Christi. I hope my advice will be helpful, but I just hope that whatever happens that it will be for his best.

[Sam]

i know - i am going to get myself together and probably talk to him about it on friday. i think i will just try to take cues from him on what i should do next. it is a fine line between doing what is best for your child and messing them up for life. not easy.

 

if hes as smart as you say he is he'll figure it out for you lol

[Christiana]

yes, you are wonderful eric. i really appreciate your time and input. i am just going to talk to him and take it from there. i will keep you posted on what is going on for sure.

[Christiana]

thanks sam!! :kiss:

[Best u Can]

i know - i am going to get myself together and probably talk to him about it on friday. i think i will just try to take cues from him on what i should do next. it is a fine line between doing what is best for your child and messing them up for life. not easy.

 

if hes as smart as you say he is he'll figure it out for you lol

:lol: good point. She'll probably ask him and be like, "why didn't I think of that?"

[Christiana]

i know - i totally can see him acting like "what's the big deal? we are going to do it this way... " :rolleyes:

[Best u Can]

good luck! I have a big interview at the mall tomorrow!

<living the successful life :lol: hey, I want to work with music ok? just while I'm taking classes

[Christiana]

good night eric - good luck on your interview!!

[Best u Can]

good night, thanks for putting a smile on my face :)

[alyssa]

whoa! that kinda scared me there... seeing my name on a thread and all... lol. kewl beans! :D

 

Anyways--how cool! You have a musical genius of a child! :)

 

...but I don't really have any advice. :( that's a bit of a dilema you've got there...

[alyssa]

Oh, and good night! :)

[Christiana]

did you think you were in trouble or something?? i just thought i would put you here too so we can talk off subject and not piss everybody off :) .

 

and yeah, i do have a dilemma - just tell me, if it was you - what would you want your parents to do?

[Mojo Pin]

Whoa! you jomifikirenali copycats! :dozey:

 

nah, i luff you all :kiss:

[mandymcnabb]

I feel specail..

 

woot. :lol:

[mandymcnabb]

I think that it a fantastic oppurtunity, If my parents wanted to put me in a school like that, I would want them too.

 

I understand that it would be hard to seperate your self from him, but in the future, I think that it would work out.

It would look sooooo good on college applications when the time comes, he would be extremely talented, and maybe even be the next Chris Martin. :D

 

But then there are alot of negative points, but you should do what you think is best for your son. :)

[alyssa]

Ack. My internet keeps cutting out.

 

Maybe it's because of the fires around here? 0_o

 

but uhm, yeah... lol...

 

anyways, I guess it depends if your kid reallly has a passion for it. I really *hated* my piano lessons, and I only had one half-hour lesson a week. It's not that I was really bad or anything, I just didn't care about it, and my teacher made me cry a lot. :/

 

but if you put me in an art class (I really want to take one...), I'm sure I'd love it! I spend hours and hours just drawing stuff... I've been trying to teach myself, but that really doesn't work out well. I've always loved art class in elementry--I couldn't wait for it. :D

 

I'm not sure how you can tell if he really loves it though--does he jump up and down every time he sees a piano? lol

 

And he could be good with other instruments to! Have you ever let him hold a junior guitar or violin, or set him in front of a drumset? :D

 

But either way; passionate or not, I think I'd still wouldn't want to miss out on such a great opportunity. I might be sitting in one of those long music lessons and hate my parents for sticking me here, but then again I might look back on it and be extremely thankful for not missing out on that opportunity... I kinda look back on piano and regret quitting. :(

[alyssa]

oh gosh... i'm so tired....