Do you think this would turn out as one of those "Let's just be friends" type relationships?

 

You know the ones, where one person get's there hopes up and gets completely crushed while trying to say OK with a very unstable voice. Those type one's.

 

And, no, this is not about me, it is a person I know.

 

Bill Smith = guy that likes girl.

Jenny = girl liked by boy.

Jim = Jenny's friend.

 

The Scene

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Bill is sitting with a friend, talking, at one end of the bus stop.

Jenny and Jim are sitting together over at the other end of the bus stop.

 

Jenny says: Hey Jim, can you help me find a blue car?

Jim says: Oh, OK, whereabouts?

Jenny says: It should be over near Bill Smith over there, hehe, I love Bill, he's so cool.

 

 

 

That's not the greatest example, but if anyone has had any experience with a relationship of the sort, tell me what you think. Would "Jenny" be the type of person to say,"let's just be friends" to "Bill"?

 

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

depends if u value the friendship.... I have been in such situations, and I have chose to have a friend than nothing at all... its hard at first... but in the end I have ended up with a super special frined that I will know till the end of my time !

Kinda going through this in my saga filled 9 hour DVD special entitled 'Awkward' on this very forum.

 

It is hard to tell isnt it? When a friend likes you, because there are those friends who are like "I love youu!" and its really clear that they are just friends, it doesnt even need to be said.

 

But then theres one girl, who you find yourself becoming really close with, and they begin to love you a lot, really like being around you, and maybe think your goodlooking and you think all of the same things about them. So then the obvious sexual logic kicks in of, "Why not?!"

 

Its hard to tell when it gets to that point, or maybe it should get to that point instantly, because its inevitable. Its just hard to distinguish whether or not the girl will.

 

In that situation, its pretty much hard to tell, like what I've been writing about here, did she mean it as in she values Bill as a wonderful friend, or not only that, but maybe she likes him more? In that situation, if thats an actual quote, it kinda came out of absolutely nowhere. It would lead me to believe she likes MR SMITH.

 

Really though, its not as if anyone was asking her opinion on Bill, he just came up in conversation and she just has to mention that she loves him and thinks hes cool, its kind of out of nowhere, showing she wants to get that appreciation across.

 

Yeah, I think she might like the guy ;)

At what point do you accept that someone is just a friend? Is it possible to stifle feelings AND stay sane?

This probably isn't relevant to your guys situation Rundle... but on the subject on "lets just be friends".

 

Now, last year this girl who was one of my best friends said that to me. It was like... I'ma try and explain this. We had been real close friends for about a year and our friendship was... well... very flirty like that. Anyways we eventually decided to give it a go and she said she'd "rather be friends".

 

I was kind of in the same boat aswell. I'd rather have been friends, and we both thought we'd be friends like we were before hand.

 

We weren't. I went away for the summer working in London and away on holiday to Spain and when I came back we just... didn't have any contact. We were part of a big group of friends that split going into 6th form. She was in one, I was in the other. I've spoken to her like, twice since September.

 

 

Just to say, in my experiences if a girl has told me "don't you think we'd be better as friends?" I'm like.... I say yes, but for me it's never worked out like what we'd hoped.

 

 

I don't know how old your friend is Rundle, fortunately at 17 I have many many years to make new friends, so taking a chance like that wasn't something I regret.

haha, is it that obvious that Bill is me? Damn

 

In response to Daryl: I definitely value the friendship, very much so. I have never been in a relationship before, so I am not sure if I would like to take this any further. There are like at least 3 other boys with obvious interest in the same girl.

 

In Response to Reilly: The bad thing is, sure, I would definitely call us friends, but, not as in: tlaking everyday about all the issues in the school and whatnot. As in, the occasional conversation, mainly during a practical music period where we find an empty room and talk while playing the guitar.

I think the way in which she said "I love Bill (ie. Sam)" could have easily been followed by: "he's so funny". That should clarify the way in which she was saying it. Also, I doubt that was an actual quote, it would of been something of the sort, but not exact, which could turn the tables completely. I only knew she said that because my friend, "Jim", kept pointing to her and saying something as I was getting on the bus while she turned away. And I asked him what he was saying, he was saying "She loves you"

 

In response to Kelsen: I am 14, so I guess, as you said, I have many years ahead of me. It's just that she seems like "the one", if you know what I mean. Unless it feels like that with every girl I will ever like.