So, I was arguing with my friend for a few hours over IM and then this thought came to my head. She was mad about how I always kinda say somethings, like "you should pluck your eyebrows" (she really needed too...) or "Noel said you could never get a boyfriend". She said it really hurt her and I had like... no heart or something and I didn't care about the way people felt when I said that. But, it's just her that completely overreacts, and comments like that shouldn't friggin' piss you off.

 

Here it is:

 

It's kinda wrong to think less of a person just because they did something stupid or the act or a certain way or because they did something while angry. You can't do that unless you try to understand why they did what they did or their reasons for acting that way. Once you do you'll probably change your opinion after thinking things through. When people say something "mean" about you or believe someone is stupid or something it's just a quick conclusion they've come to after thinking about the little that they saw or heard about someone, but when they would think things through they'd probably say something different.

 

So, when people poke fun at you, they don't know you as well as you do, so you should take it really lightly, because they don't know the whole truth and decided to just say something. You know what's good or what's bad about you and if they're right, you can just say "I know," and if they're wrong you can explain to them why you think so. Sometimes it turns out that they know a bit more about you than you think and what they're saying actually makes sense. You just didn't realize it because of something. That's when you should really take someone elses advice and try to change.

 

If someone told me I could never score a boyfriend I'd be kinda mad, but I shouldn't get too mad cuz

1.) they... probably don't know me that well

2.) boyfriends aren't like... neccessary

 

If someone told me I had an ugly double chin, I'd be kinda upset but not too mad because, even if it was true because

1.) it has nothing to do with who I am as a person whatsoever, it's just an appearance

2.) they probably don't mean that much harm anyway

Haha, I knew this had way too much text for anyone to read.

Haha' date=' I knew this had way too much text for anyone to read.[/quote']

 

No - I've read it, and I think it's very profound.

Well done!!;)

 

If someone told me I could never score a boyfriend I'd be kinda mad, but I shouldn't get too mad cuz

1.) they... probably don't know me that well

2.) boyfriends aren't like... neccessary

 

Very true. In fact, nothing is necessary. There are far too many people out there who go out to get things they don't "need", or even necessarily "want", just because they want to show off or "fit in".

 

If someone told me I had an ugly double chin, I'd be kinda upset but not too mad because, even if it was true because

1.) it has nothing to do with who I am as a person whatsoever, it's just an appearance

 

Exactly - and REAL friends wouldn't even remark upon it anyway.

Being comfortable with the "inner" you is all that matters.;)

I think ur right :smug:

i've read it all, i just didn't have the time to write anything that would make sense... i'll do that when i'll have more time. :)

its true. but i think sometimes a girlfriend is necessary. at times you want a physical intimacy you can't have... well at least i do.

 

and when i say physical intimacy i dont mean sexual. just someone to hold and hug and never let go...

 

god, the hopeless romantic in me is coming out... :rolleyes:

its true. but i think sometimes a girlfriend is necessary. at times you want a physical intimacy you can't have... well at least i do.

 

and when i say physical intimacy i dont mean sexual. just someone to hold and hug and never let go...

 

god, the hopeless romantic in me is coming out... :rolleyes:

 

You don't need to have a "girlfriend" for that. Just a good friend (who could of course, be a girl) would suffice.;)

You don't need to have a "girlfriend" for that. Just a good friend (who could of course' date=' [i']be [/i]a girl) would suffice.;)

 

 

But I kinda agree with him....I mean a very good friend is something different to a person you love.....and I think love is one huge part of your life...imo...

 

look at the media.......or things like that....you always come across love...

But I kinda agree with him....I mean a very good friend is something different to a person you love.....and I think love is one huge part of your life...imo...

 

look at the media.......or things like that....you always come across love...

 

That's not "real" love, it's completely fake, and normally put on for the cameras/for publicity.

Unfortunately, people don't realise this, and they end up getting brainwashed.;)

That's not "real" love, it's completely fake, and normally put on for the cameras/for publicity.

Unfortunately, people don't realise this, and they end up getting brainwashed.;)

 

 

What do you mean by that?

 

I'm talking about the whole topic of love.....not about couples who are really in love or not...

What do you mean by that?

 

I'm talking about the whole topic of love.....not about couples who are really in love or not...

 

Well it's the media that's constantly bombarding people with love (and sex) images, which make people feel inadequate and "abnormal" if they're not in a relationship/desirable etc. That's all wrong.;)

Well it's the media that's constantly bombarding people with love (and sex) images' date=' which make people feel inadequate and "abnormal" if they're not in a relationship/desirable etc. That's all wrong.;)[/quote']

 

Well.....on the one hand I think you are right....but on the other hand I think you can be quite desperate if you dont have anyone......because love is a natural feeling..

Well.....on the one hand I think you are right....but on the other hand I think you can be quite desperate if you dont have anyone......because love is a natural feeling..

 

Yes - but it should be completely natural, and not just because people don't want to be "alone" or not "fit in".;)

Well....I think fitting in in case of love is stupid......that's true....

 

 

but being alone can suck...

Yes - but it should be completely natural' date=' [/i']and not just because people don't want to be "alone" or not "fit in".;)

 

Well you could say that wanting to be accepted and not wanting to be alone are natural feelings as well

Well you could say that wanting to be accepted and not wanting to be alone are natural feelings as well

 

Maybe, but you have to learn to control them and not let them dictate to you and detract from your life.;)

i disagree, i think it's the other way around. i think the media deals very often with those topics because they are very important for most people.

 

it's a natural desire that you want someone to be around. i'm not saying boyfriends are essential but i do think most people are happier if they can spend their lives with someone they love. i dont think thats mainly about fitting in.

i disagree, i think it's the other way around. i think the media deals very often with those topics because they are very important for most people.

 

it's a natural desire that you want someone to be around. i'm not saying boyfriends are essential but i do think most people are happier if they can spend their lives with someone they love. i dont think thats mainly about fitting in.

 

I disagree. There are countless people out there who feel they HAVE to be in a relationship, because they think others will think less of them if they're NOT.;)

I disagree. There are countless people out there who feel they HAVE to be in a relationship' date=' because they think others will think less of them if they're NOT.;)[/quote']

 

i dont dispute the fact that there are people like that but i think the majority is happier if they find the right partner.

i dont dispute the fact that there are people like that but i think the majority is happier if they find the right partner.

 

You might well have a point there, but unfortunately too many people delude themselves that they've found the right one, and then end up wasting years of their lives as a result.;)

i don't think you wasted those years if you were happy at the time.

i don't think you wasted those years if you were happy at the time.

 

Well most of the time when relationships break down, that isn't the case (certainly not towards the end).;)

obviously not but you'll never know before. i think bad experiences in the past shouldn't be a reason to spend all your life alone, unless you really wish to.

obviously not but you'll never know before. i think bad experiences in the past shouldn't be a reason to spend all your life alone' date=' unless you really wish to.[/quote']

 

Better that than just to go and find "anyone" just to avoid being alone.;)