how to approach someone you fancy.

[Guest Grace]

so.

yeah, since i haven't got any school today and i'm quite bored and i usually open shitty threads i decided to make this one.

there's this guy at my school.

he's in year 12 (i'm in year 11) and i think he's quite cute.

i'd love to get to know him better ... problem is: we do not know each other.

we have never talked to one another either. mainly, because we do not have mutual friends, but he's asked me for light twice. lol.

does that count?

i know i'm an idiot.

i had great chances and i blew them all by pretending to be involved in a super exciting conversation. i ignored him a bit when he asked for fire. :dozey:

guess he won't come and ask me ever again.

hahaha.

but no, really.

how do i start a conversation? blah.

i think he knows i exist.

[Jack]

uh, go ask him for a light?

 

would be my suggestion. then struggle to light it until he offers to help.

 

and be a damsel in distress.

[Guest Grace]

nah.

fact is that he never has a lighter with him. :rolleyes:

[Black Rose]

Slap him on his bum and say you love him.

[Bombadil]

It's simple, first you look at him so that he knows that you are looking at him. Then you get his msn adress. From there on it's simple.

 

Works every time ;)

[Guest Grace]

^ i was about to do that several times to be honest.

[the touching his bum thing]

really?

i always thought that approaching someone via internet is not very intelligent.

because i know myself.

i wouldn't be able to look at him again at school.

i'd be too friggin embarrassed.

i'd rather talk to him.

like in... words coming out of my mouth.

[Bombadil]

I have at least found it to be a nice ice breaker. Though it is important that you don't ignore him once you have talked to him once on there. Then it is really going to seem unintelligent. Also try to arrange a meeting with him as quickly as possible.

 

Of course the best solution would be to go up and talk to him directly and ask him out or something (seeing as it doesn't look like he is going to take the first step), but at least in my case this is very hard to do.

I guess msn is a way of avoiding this first conversation.

[Petit Prince]

I wouldn't either.

 

Is there none of your friends that knows him or any of his friends? If so they could try to start a conversation.

 

I'm very shy when it comes to approaching guys as well so I'm not the best person to give you advice.

[Guest Grace]

i've asked guys out too often.

seriously.

all those stories are even too funny to tell.

 

and on that ignoring bit ... i hate myself when i'm like that, but i can't seem to change it.

i should really talk to him and avoid msn.

 

the worst thing is that i might have to hide for the rest of the upcoming year in case i embarrass myself ( i know it's gonna happen).

 

and i do not even have a reason to talk to him. :(

::EDIT:: that's the worst part.

none of my friends know him or any of his friends...

[The Mad Hatter]

Here's a template that can be used by anybody in these situations:

 

You: How much does a polar bear weigh?

Him: I dunno.

You: Enough to break the ice. My name's [insert name here].

[Guest Grace]

omg, Emily, that's like... the best thing i've heard in months! HAHAHAHA.

 

that's great.

i can just imagine how to say that. hahaha.

[Frozen_Entertainment]

you sound like a pathetic 15/16 year old

 

obviously if you don't even know the person, what's the point in even attempting

 

if like me, you know people with the things that dangle

 

well

 

the opportunities are endless

 

these things happen...you're still a snotty school girl, he's a mature sixth former you've as much chance as an armrest in getting into his pants

 

do you eng lit exam next week, or pass your physics exam you may have had yesterday...go to the school leavers party

 

and just leave

 

my advice to you little girl

[Guest Grace]

hahaha, i really need to watch my mouth now because i'm very close to saying things that are not very nice to you.

 

first of all, who the fuck do you think you are?

seriously, you act like you know me.

what the hell do you know about maturity?

you obviously have no clue what the german school system is like and what kind of person he is because you base your judging on what i've told you, which is quite few information.

and if i do sound like a pathetic 15-year-old i still don't give a flying fuck because i'm not gonna change because people expect it or to please people like you.

[Frozen_Entertainment]

[\emo]

 

i love how you're quoting spice girl lyrics too

 

good job little girl

 

i am a mature young woman, no one has ever questioned this and no one ever will

 

also

 

chill out, take some crack

[Guest Grace]

alright.

since you don't seem intelligent enough to keep up a conversation and rather rant about spice girls lyrics because you obviously associate plain sentences with them, i do not see any point in your comments.

 

and if you're think you're mature by advising other to do drugs then go you!

i didn't know that some people's brains stop growing when their only 19!

[dudeyboy]

"Hey, I think you're hot"

 

Simple and easy, just get the balls? to go and do it, you have no clue how nice it is when a girl tells you that.

Sounds rather easy, but again I'm not from Germany and I'm also not a female.

[Frozen_Entertainment]

However you clearly are unable to identify with correct grammar ie they're and their. As an undergraduate student at an extremely prestigious university in England i do fear you are rather undermining me in your pathetic school girl fashion with your school girl ''crush'' and just your general school girl idiocy. Now if you long for some appropriate advice, you are sure to be speaking to the right person who knows how to manipulate any situation for their own benefit. I have already recognised that you are infatuated, yet you plan on doing little about it. The question is, will this ever amount to anything? I have found that the best relationships i've ever had with the dimmer sex happens to be when i'm least expecting anything to happen. Evidently this is the case for a fair few people, if you want to persist with this year 12 of yours i advice you to specifically advocate a spare lighter into the palm of his hand. This will draw his attention to you. Following this strike up intriging and exciting conversation. Ask him where he is heading, whether he frequently enjoys laisons, whether he longs for a companion.

 

Right i give up. I have some Economics work to do.

 

Sort your life out yourself you fool.

[coldplay_is_louve.]

a friend of mine [keep in mind she's like the craziest person i've ever known] was in the same situation as you.

 

she just went up to the guy when he was talking to his friends, waitied until he saw her just standing there...

 

grabbed him and made out with him.

 

then walked away!

 

haha, i thought i'd just share that funny story. but i do suggest the whole making eye contact thing! eye contact is more important than people think. maybe walk by him and drop your pencil or something? haha, or you might just lose a pencil.

 

well, i wasn't much help.

 

but good luck! i'm sure you'll get the boy!

[Saffire]

Walk up to him and tell him you want to quit smoking and you'd like someone to join you because you know it'll be hard. Tell him that unless he tries quitting with you, you probably can't do it because you need someone to keep you honest (same with him).

 

He'll see that you're health conscious and think it's a noble thing and he might offer to help.

 

Then once you're seeing each other on a regular basis and talking about your progress, you can ask to see if he's been smoking lately - and you kiss him to see if you can tell.

 

Tune in next time when I explain how to get into a supermodel's britches.

[Sambo3000]

^^ Can't you not just tell us now?? I cant wait that long. :wideeyed:

[Guest Grace]

hahaha.

not sure about quitting to smoke, but thanks anyway.

smoking is badddd.

 

i loved the story about the girl that just made out with the guy she liked. haha. sounded as if it was the most normal thing in the world to do. i wish i could pull that off. :laugh3:

but dropping a pencil or a book or anything like that sounds quite good. :wink3: i'm good at planning such things, but i suck at putting them into execution. :thinking:

[Sambo3000]

Hmm..I think, in my experience, it's easier (obviously) if you make contact with them. However if you're not in his year this is kinda hard. I'd say next time you're out and see him, in the smoking area or whatever, just say something to him..even a little chat. Then next time you see him you can say "Hey did you have a good night last night" or whatever... Or even if you find him on MySpace/MSN whatever...you could comment him saying did you enjoy the other night? I know its not the same as talking face to face..but its communication and any type of communication can be the building blocks for a relationship.

[Guest Grace]

^ yeah, i could easily talk to him via myspace and i know i should just start talking.

 

i was just wondering how guys feel when the girl approaches them and not the other way around.

i mean, do guys instantly think,"oh, that girl's digging me." or do they like the fact that some random girl just started talking to them?

you tell me.

i'm no guy. :\

[mandymcnabb]

i usually just walk up to the ones i have my eye on and start snogging them and walk away.

usually.

[Sambo3000]

^ yeah, i could easily talk to him via myspace and i know i should just start talking.

 

i was just wondering how guys feel when the girl approaches them and not the other way around.

i mean, do guys instantly think,"oh, that girl's digging me." or do they like the fact that some random girl just started talking to them?

 

you tell me.

 

i'm no guy. :\

 

I wouldn't mind...at all. :wink3:

As long as you don't approach him at a really inappropriate/random time I'd say he'll just think "Wow..shes a nice girl..what will I say? She so pretty..I dont know what to say..blaaah". The chances are he'll be the one that'll be nervous! And you can lead the conversation. Saying that..I dont really know what type of guy he is. But he certainly wont see you approaching him as a negative thing!